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Title: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 08, 2008, 12:54:53 AM
Mine is non-existent.  And I don't mean just slow and boring - actually non-existent.

My 2 best friends are Claire, she lives in New Zealand and my sister who lives 10 mins away but is always busy and I nearly have to make an appointment to see her.  Claire will be coming to Aus in June but right now we're just email buddies. 

I have no partner and it doesn't look like that will change any time soon.  So I have my job and my knitting and my son who regales me with the Days Of Our Lives antics of his friends.  Then for kicks I might go to the public library or to the local craft shop to buy more yarn for my knitting.  And I have my housework and my DVDs and my books. 

I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do illegal drugs, I don't even have a gambling addiction!

Yeah, I'm having a whinge, but everyone around here has already heard it all   :teddyr:

Come on, someone out there must be more pathetic than me!


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: LilCerberus on February 08, 2008, 01:32:50 AM
At some point in my life, I learned that a motorbike doesn't necessarily equal cool.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: RCMerchant on February 08, 2008, 05:51:46 AM
Social life? What's that?  :question:

 I go to work, go home go to bed. Go to work gohomegotobedgotoworkgohome gotobed....

 All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
 All work and
no play makes Jack a dull boy All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
 All work
and no play
makes Jack
a
dull
boy.
ALLWORKANDNOPLAYMAKESJACKADULLBOY.
.YOBLLUDAKCAJSEKAMYALPONDANKORWLLA

  Tara...what are you doing in here? When I'm in here , and you here me typing -or if you don't hear me typing-or whatever the f5ck im doing in here-that means i am busy! Now you can start by getting the f4ck outta here!

 


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Trevor on February 08, 2008, 06:36:16 AM
Tara...what are you doing in here? When I'm in here , and you here me typing -or if you don't hear me typing-or whatever the f5ck im doing in here-that means i am busy! Now you can start by getting the f4ck outta here!

 :bouncegiggle: :teddyr: :bouncegiggle:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Sister Grace on February 08, 2008, 07:04:07 AM
My social life was mostly non-exsistent for a long time. I don't leave my house much, which probably didn't help much. I have a really hard time walking, and on top of it, there is no where to go. Being a big dork and a girl doesn't help either. guys seem to find my intrests a little bizarre. guess most of them are looking for someone more conventional. 'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy. then about two months ago, i met a guy who like me, avoids the public alot. now we are just big dorks together. he's working on his masters, so i don't get to see him alot between school and his job. he doesn't mind me being socially awkward thankfully. but before, all i did was sit at home and read, take care of my daughter and occasionally escape to the library, so i really understand your situation. if you ever need another pen pal let me know.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Derf on February 08, 2008, 09:00:22 AM
Let's see... I have two friends in this area; I haven't spoken to one in several months (just been busy), and I haven't spoken to the other in nearly a month (again, just busy). I do have a wife and child, but they are family, not "social." I spend most of my time at home or waiting around for someone to book a massage appointment. Like SisterGrace, I've always been socially awkward, though I can fake being outgoing for short periods of time. Mostly, I am a happily depressed introvert, content to be by myself or with my family. If this were the Middle Ages, I'd probably have been a creepy hermit. Instead, I'm just creepy.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Andrew on February 08, 2008, 09:48:12 AM
Mine is seriously curtailed for a little while, because we do have three children and Katie also works.

However, I get out to play paintball now and then.  During the winter it is not so often, maybe once every month or two.  During the fair months it is usually twice a month.

Get together with the other Marines now and then.  It all depends on schedules.

Have a couple of good friends that I've made over the years.  Todd and Jenn we see just about every month or so (they live in NY) and we all get together for a weekend.  There are some other friends who we see less often, say every 3-6 months. Speak to a lot of people over the phone. 

However, we made a rule a long time ago that keeps us busy and usually going to something once a month:  "Always go to the birthday parties, baby showers, weddings, and other gatherings; otherwise, the only time you will see many of those friends and family will be at the funerals."


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Zapranoth on February 08, 2008, 10:00:04 AM
I think your rule is a good one.  Had a year, a few ago, with three funerals.  :(

I work outside the home, and my wife inside it, and we have two children.  Like most of us here I think, I have only a few real friends.   The ones I have are true friends, though.  My best friend lives three hours' drive away, I see him every few months and talk to him regularly.   One of my brothers is in the area, but he's a farmer and it's winter (so he's playing as much as he can, snowboarding).      The things that recharge my batteries, personally, are things like movies, playing with kids, books, video games, exercise.   I don't drink, don't smoke, etc...  and with our kids at their ages, we don't go out much.   

The best part of my social life is that our church group meets at my house every week, and they're all cool people who are our ages, more or less.  That's our main social outlet at this point.

In the main, I'd be exhausted if I _had_ a really busy social schedule, because I spend most of my interpersonal energy each day doing my work..  I'm certainly not an extrovert.      (Who are the extroverts here?  Raise your hands...    :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Mortal Envelope on February 08, 2008, 10:02:54 AM
I recently moved to a new city for a job and I know a total of one person besides my new roommie.  Most of my closer friends live a couple hours away and I rarely so them before anyway due to work schedules.  So I figured the best thing to do was search for interest groups in my area (I used meetup.com to find them if I'm allowed to schill just for a sec).  Joined a group for RPG gaming, one for hiking (won't be attending for a few months), and one for existential, philosophical discussions.  I'm going to the first RPG meeting tomorrow; I figure it's a way for me to meet other dorks.  But yeah, I totally understand the not having time do much but travel, sleep, and work.  Luckily I get some time during the week to spend with my family but it's never as much time as I would like.  Heck, I'm always wishing I had more time to watch more bad movies.  I've been thinking of starting a local bad movies get together, but I'm not sure yet.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: trekgeezer on February 08, 2008, 11:52:15 AM
When asked "What's been happening with you?"  My answer is eat-sleep-work.  Being a happily married guy for 26 years the only social life I really have is usually forced on me by my wife and her family.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Mr. DS on February 08, 2008, 12:32:33 PM
Quote
'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.
  If I was still dating I'd think "jackpot" if that was said to me... :thumbup:

Quote
"Always go to the birthday parties, baby showers, weddings, and other gatherings; otherwise, the only time you will see many of those friends and family will be at the funerals."
Thats sadly where my family back home met up a lot.

My social life like many others mentioned is a lot of work.  I probably socialize more on computers than I do anywhere else.  I am a father so my son gets a good lot of my time.  I occasionally have 20 minute conversations with my neighbor but thats it. Outside of work, I'm dreadfully antisocial. I think a major problem of mine is I hate cheap conversation.  Cheap conversation as in things people ask you about that deep down inside you know they don't care about.  Stuff like, "How is your job going" or "How is your family doing" or "Some weather we're having lately".  I figure my converstations should be meaningful to me at least with topics like horror films. 

Perhaps some of you can weigh in on this issue.  Do you have a hard time getting along with your spouse's friends?  My thing is, I'm not originally from the area I'm in and my wife has spent all her life here.  She has friends that live around us who she's been friends with since high school.  I don't really like hanging out with them because I feel like a bit of an outsider.  Its rather uncomfortable.   :lookingup:



Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: LilCerberus on February 08, 2008, 02:28:34 PM
http://www.badmovies.org/forum/index.php/topic,95289.msg95310.html#msg95310 (http://www.badmovies.org/forum/index.php/topic,95289.msg95310.html#msg95310)

In my experience, trying to get a life can be just as pathetic as not.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: BeyondTheGrave on February 08, 2008, 02:56:14 PM
I have my up and downs with social life. I would have a bunch of friends than boom I would have to get rid of them because their just no good like my last bunch of "friends". I used to go to a bar by my college that I was a regular sort of like cheers but it closed. Great place. Now I guess I'm in a "up" period because once again I have lots of friends. My closest lives not to far and every since I have been vounteering I have lots of punk friends and go to more parties. Its pretty soild now compared to other times.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Hammock Rider on February 08, 2008, 04:31:43 PM
I jet-set around the country drinking Manhattens and solving mysteries in jazz clubs with my beautiful heiress wife.

Whoops,sorry that's Nick & Nora Charles from "The Thin Man". I eat cheese whiz out of my belly button. The only heiress in my life is Paris Hilton :bluesad:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Allhallowsday on February 08, 2008, 05:27:52 PM
Neverending.  I am blessed with many friends, and it seems we are always up to something.  Tonight is the neighborhood "pot luck."  Tomorrow dinner out, and Sunday is brunch with my sister-in-law and friends at the Old Mill Inn.  Frankly, I very often would prefer to stay home, but that gets a bit involved...


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: LilCerberus on February 08, 2008, 05:38:06 PM
I get out a lot more now than I used to, but I still have this problem with "wallflowering".
Occasionally, I can't help but wonder if I'm not kidding myself.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: RCMerchant on February 08, 2008, 06:26:53 PM
MY post ...brfore the 'Jack' pun is true. I have NO social life. When I was drinking...I had freinds coming out my ears...drinking freinds. Now...even though I still have bouts with the bottle,it's alone. I'm very busy with two teenage boys, Tara Sue,who is very ill,and her daughter Angel,who's an anima geek. I love them all dearly...but it's a lot of work. My social life is non existant now...I almost live inside my own head...being my job consists of operating a huge,loud machine with no one else to talk to....so if I sound crazy or off the wall at times...well...it's because train of concience thought,and the combination of being a starving artist,takes it's toll on my mind.

 What I'm trying to say,I guess is...I am slowly losing my marbles.   :twirl:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: CheezeFlixz on February 08, 2008, 07:04:26 PM
Well I go to shows and opening of galleries, as I have many artist friends. We go to plays and art house cinema, and have get a together fairly often, I'd say we are at a friends house or there at ours at least 2 weeks ends a months in the warmer months and maybe 1 time a month in the colder months. I'll meet a friend for lunch once a week or so, but I live in a small community so going anywhere and not running into someone you know is rare.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Snivelly on February 08, 2008, 09:05:59 PM
I currently have no social life, and haven't for years.  I'm always home with my girls, usually knitting or sewing something, reading, watching a bad movie or hanging out at a few places I enjoy online.  But even before I had kids I wasn't someone who ran with a big circle of friends, I've always preferred just having a couple of really close ones.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: LilCerberus on February 08, 2008, 09:47:47 PM
I'm now the official contact for a twelve step group.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: indianasmith on February 08, 2008, 09:52:18 PM
I have a pretty wide circle of friends and acquaintances, especially my arrowhead hunting partners.  But I don't get out as often as I like because of the busy-ness of teaching 7 courses a day and having 13 year old twins who need a LOT of help with homework.  But I do try to go out once or twice and stomp around in the river for points and fossils, with or without a partner . . . but with is always better!


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Torgo on February 08, 2008, 11:10:06 PM
I work a 2nd shift work schedule (3:30 to midnight Mon-Fri) and most of my friends work completely conflicting work schedules so I don't get to actually see a lot of people I know. Usually we just have to catch up via semi-regular phone calls.

As far as the weekend goes, I usually hang out with friends on Saturdays which usually involves 2 or 3 people I know coming over to my house.  I don't like large gatherings of people, I like to keep them small.  As for Sunday, I either just chill or go and visit with my sisters and nephews when their schedules permit.

I don't really compare my social life to what is considered to be "normal" or "acceptable" as I just do what I can when I can with people that I'm friends with.  I swore off dating a few years back so that's a reason for me to stay out of clubs paying 9 dollars for a glass of beer.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Torgo on February 08, 2008, 11:12:39 PM
What I'm trying to say,I guess is...I am slowly losing my marbles.   :twirl:

The first step on the road to recovery is admiting that you have an issue.............actually..............I'm right there with you. I lost my mind quite some time ago come to think of it.................   :tongueout:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: ulthar on February 08, 2008, 11:54:40 PM
I've got a two year old and a five year old.  That's my social life.

"Daddy, I want...."

"Daddy, I need..."

"Daddy, I just ..."

We've lived in the town we're in now for five years.  We have no friends with whom we do ANYTHING; we work and do family stuff.  We have friends at church and such, but only see them there.

Social life?  As in high school, that term does not mean much now at 42.  We have "life."  And, hey, at the end of the day, it's pretty cool on its own.

 :wink:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Sister Grace on February 09, 2008, 08:41:44 AM
If this were the Middle Ages, I'd probably have been a creepy hermit. Instead, I'm just creepy.

It's OK, I'm known as the creepy lady that lives in the brick house on our street, even though i'm not even thirty yet although close, but thats ok too..


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Jack on February 09, 2008, 09:12:38 AM
My social life consists entirely of my wife and kids.  I used to play guitar in a bar band, but that was years ago.  The other members of the band got married, moved away or became full time alcoholics, so that sort of fell by the wayside.  Every 2 or 3 or 6 months we'll get together at a bar and do some catching up and reminiscing, that's always fun.  In the Summer I play golf, so I've got some good friends there, but we rarely do anything together outside of playing golf.  They're busy with their wives and kids, and so am I.  My wife and I have a few beers, usually at home, on Friday and Saturday night.  That's our big excitement  :cheers: 


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Dennis on February 09, 2008, 01:50:10 PM
I'm very fortunate in that while my social life, other than work and work related functions, is pretty much nonexistant right now, I happen to be married to my best friend. We really don't care what we do, as long as we do it together, which is what we've been doing now for 37 years.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Yaddo 42 on February 09, 2008, 05:43:17 PM
I'm shy anyway, and I pulled back or lost touch with most of the few people I hung out with when I went through a several year long depression.  I got spoiled when I first moved back here since there were plenty of cool people in my apartment building for the first six months or so. Lots of drinking, cookouts, getting together to go to eat, movies, etc. I didn't have to go out to find people to hang out with, just knock on a neighbor's door.

As I've gotten a handle on the depression to some degree I've been getting out more, I hang out with my best buddy and his family a lot more. But he gets out less than he used to, due to family stuff and work. I've started to hang out some with a guy at work I always talked with, he's separated from his wife and trying to decide if the marriage is worth saving. Cool guy wish I had a few more friends like him.

After a long time of nothing good happening and then not trying at all, I've been dating some again, mixed results. Nothing serious has developed, wound up in the friend zone with a great girl I'd like to be more than that with. Went out with a couple of others that didn't develop into anything more. Had a couple of people try to fix me up, they never got off the ground. Met another one at a club that I hit it off with, exchanged numbers and made plans to met up the next week, I got stood up. I'm frustrated but not feeling as down about it as I would have at one time. I am sick of the dry spell though.

I'm going to a speed dating thing early next week, we'll see how it goes. I'm telling myself to go in with no expectations. I might meet someone, or I might get some interesting quick five minute horror stories, or I might be putting myself up for a night of social masochism in small doses.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: akiratubo on February 09, 2008, 07:49:31 PM
My social life isn't much.  I have only two real friends and I see them when I can.  I haven't had a girlfriend in about five years now.

For awhile, I was going out places by myself, hoping that simply getting out would let me meet someone, but it just got too depressing to be the only single person everywhere I went.

Part of the problem is that I'm going on 30.  Most of the women my age are already married, in committed relationships, or have kids.  (My not wanting kids doesn't help.)

Honestly, though, aside from being unbearably lonely every so often, I'm actually much happier then when I was in a relationship.  I had quit the knack for picking The Wrong Woman.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Inyarear on February 09, 2008, 09:42:31 PM
For my part, I'm single and living with my parents and forever looking for employment in an area where most people just aren't hiring. I go to church regularly and attend the odd community event, but I'm very nearly the only single guy my age around here who isn't away at college (or war). Everybody here is related to everyone else, while my family is relatively new to the area, so a lot of the personal relationships people have are also family relations; this does not leave me a lot to discuss with much of anybody.

It doesn't help matters, either, that I seem to have a touch of Asperger's in addition to a number of hobbies that interest no one else and a rather unpopular mixture of political opinions. Voicing my opinions on anything tends to make people unfriendly toward me, while staying silent makes them ignore me. Meanwhile, I'm not getting paid, the price of gas is up, and contrary to what my parents like to tell me, it pretty much costs money to make and keep friends. So, whenever I'm not going anywhere with them (i.e. usually to church), I mostly just stay home in my room with the odd snack and mess around with my computers, occasionally chasing any job leads I can find in the town newspaper that look at all promising and thinking If only I could get paid to do this...

From what I hear on the news sites I frequent, there are a lot of guys my age out there not so different from myself in these respects, except where the Asperger's is concerned. From what I'm reading on this thread, it seems a good many of us have found our way here. So hi there, everyone! Kinda sucks being so much like Dilbert, doesn't it? Beats the alternatives, though, right?


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: BTM on February 10, 2008, 12:39:38 AM
Do you REALLY want to ask that?

Okay, here goes... I don't really have one, to be brutally honest, most of the time I'm a VERY sad and lonely person.

I have two friends from work, who, unlike me, get a lot more hours than I do and don't have time (or perhaps the inclination) to hang out with me too much.  One of them seems more into his video/computer games than actually interacting with real people (and I thought I was a nerd). 

I'm not a church goer or a drinker, so that puts me out of church and bars, which is pretty much all there is to do in this area.  (Plus, I'm low on money right now, had to even cancel my Netflix, so even if there WAS something to do, I don't have money for it.)

I'm not married, no kids, have nieces and nephews, but they live about an hour and a half away, so I don't get to see them as much as I'd like.  Haven't had a girl friend in a loooong time, and just don't seem to be able to have conversations with "normal" people very well.

So, did I top you?

God, now, I'm depressed....


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Shadow on February 10, 2008, 01:35:07 AM
I moved away from the area I group up in, and have no friends in this area, nor any real desire to make any. I still keep in contact with a couple of old friends and see them now and then, but I learned a few years back that I actually prefer to be alone most of the time. Then I met my wife and realized letting one person into my life wasn't so bad. She is the only one I hang out with. Our social life is limited to playing with our dogs, watching movies or TV, dinner out and the occasional day trip somewhere.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Ash on February 10, 2008, 09:04:50 AM
It's funny...
Andrew mentions in the rules of this forum that we often share pieces of their lives with one another.
That's so true...

Here's a piece of mine.

For years I was a total party animal.  I had tons of friends, always had a girlfriend and was constantly out and about doing this or that.
Going to bars, clubs and parties with friends was what I did every single weekend.
Getting drunk, hitting on women...sometimes getting lucky.  That was the norm.

That all changed in 2001 when my fiancee and I decided to call it quits.
Then, less than two years later, my only younger brother died in a motorcycle accident.
(Here's his Myspace memorial page:  http://www.myspace.com/corychapman1 )
That one-two punch of losing my fiancee and my brother dealt me some serious damage and caused me to spiral into a horrible depression.

After his death, I stopped going out.  I stopped dating.
I stopped doing everything but drinking, surfing the net and watching movies & TV.

Like RC, I know what it's like to have alcoholism take hold of you.
Granted, I don't drink the hard stuff like RC did, but I used to drink a 12 pack of beer every other day for at least a year after the loss of my brother.
I would tell myself to stop...but I just couldn't.
My mother would always warn me about how my paternal grandfather died from cirrhosis (sp?) of the liver because of his struggle with alcoholism.  He died when I was a baby so I never knew him.  Mom would tell me that she didn't want him to hold me because he was drunk 99% of the time.
Needless to say, alcoholism runs in my family and I inherited it.

In the past, I barely remember writing half of my posts here on this forum because I was so s**tfaced.
Thankfully, my drinking has declined over time.
Now I only drink on the weekends...staying up all night alone getting hammered in my apartment.

All of my friends are married with children and they're busy doing the family thing so I don't see them as often as I want to.
When I do hang out with them, I get that feeling that we're totally different now and can't relate to each other like we once did.

------------------------------

And I've purposely estranged myself from my father.
Haven't spoken to him since November of 2006.
My dad was one of those fathers who was there for me...but yet he wasn't.
My stepmom Cindy, whom he married in 1983, has never liked me.
Oh, she tolerated me...but only because she had no choice.
She did everything in her power to make sure I was never a part of the family.
And did my dad stick up for me?
No he didn't.
He didn't do anything.  He just let it happen.
Years of that built up serious resentment in me and when she insulted me over the phone in Nov. '06, I told her to f**k off and haven't spoken to either of them since.

I've estranged myself from my father to teach him a lesson.  To show him what life is like without his only son. 
Yes, one of these days I will inevitably re-insert myself back into his life.  But only on my terms and when I feel like it.  Sure, I agree that it's a selfish thing to do, but I don't care.
The scary thing to me is, I don't really miss him.
I should, but I don't.
Other than looking very much like him and having almost the exact same mannerisms, we have absolutely nothing in common.
He lives just outside of town and even has his auto repair shop not far from where I live...so I could go see him at any time.
But I choose not to.  Not yet at least.
One of these days I'll just show up at his business.

------------------------------------------

I have only 3-4 good friends left out of almost 30+.
And since we all work different shifts and they've got the family thing going on, I rarely get to hang out with them.

I do talk regularly with some people from this board.
And when I say that we talk, I mean we do it using microphones and actually speak to one another.
RCMerchant and I have talked over the phone several times.  The last time we got to talking, we shot the breeze for over an hour.
RC's an awesome guy!  I tell you this, you'll never talk to a more down to earth person than him.   :smile:
Skaboi & I talk several times each week because we both play Day of Defeat Source (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PUkpOQ1kYAo) together.
Mofo Rising is on my Xbox Live friends list and we've talked a few times over the headset.
They're all cool guys!  I'd hang out with any of them anytime. :thumbup:

As for girlfriends, I've dated off & on but like someone else mentioned here, when you get to be over 30 years of age, most of the women you meet have kids or are divorced etc...
And I don't want to date single mothers.
I've been there and done that.  Can't say I liked it much.
Finding a women close to my age who has never been married, has no kids and is still attractive is like finding gold in them thar hills.
And I'm not one of those guys who will just "settle" for any woman.
I know what I want and I won't stop until I find her.
And if I don't find her...then so be it.

So yeah, my social life isn't the greatest right now.
My depression is gradually subsiding.
But I do have lofty goals and believe that I will get to where I want to go...eventually.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: RCMerchant on February 10, 2008, 11:20:53 AM
Ash-

 I TOTALLY understand the father/stepmother thing...that was about the situation I was at from the age of 7-16...than I ran off to NYC. I rarley talk to my Dad...and he lives about two towns over. Not even 25 miles. I could call him,or him me...but he doesn't. When I got our house,I invited him over to see it. He never came. That was in August of 06. Weird thing is...I don't even know why. I dropped all the resentment I had about my childhood years ago....maybe he's on a bad guilt trip...I dunno.

 Someday-you won't even be looking-it'll just happen-BAM! You'll meet the right woman. Life has a way of dropping sh1t (good and bad,as I'm sure you know) right in your lap from nowhere...it's what keeps it interesting. Not always fun...but-interesting.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: CheezeFlixz on February 10, 2008, 11:41:51 AM
I haven't seen my mother in years, no idea where she's at, and I'm to the point I no longer care. That is a entire story unto it's self. Far as finding the right women goes ... yeah you find one some day that you can tolerate, but after 20 years you still have days you want to kill them. :buggedout:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: asimpson2006 on February 10, 2008, 01:24:38 PM
My social life is nothing.  It's always been that way in HS b/c I ended up working the weekends when I was a senior and before that I didn't drive so I ended up just staying home.  In college I worked just about every night and was poor.  After college, got an illness and really can't do anything except maybe except watch a movie, or eat so that pretty much limits me on what I can do.  I think the last time I went out and did things with people other than my family was on Black Friday last year, I went to a bar with some friends after work and that was the last time I did anything really enjoyable.



Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 10, 2008, 01:29:34 PM
My social life's really nothing especially noteworthy compared to a number of the sad stories we're hearing so far.

I have a fiancee, we get along great, we've been together for over 8 years and we're planning to finally do the marriage thing when/if we hit 10. I have very few friends, but I prefer to keep it that way. I dislike trying to be friends with a large number of people, because I'm very dedicated to the ones I do have, so the more is never the merrier, just a damn burden. I was part of a social "group" in high school, but once we were no longer required to go to the same building every day of our lives, we just kinda grew apart like most high school friends do when they go out into "the real world". I talk to my parents every other week or so and head back to my hometown for a week every other month to see the people in person that I generally talk to regularly on the phone or internet anyway. You wouldn't call how I live "social" in the least, considering I rarely leave my house for recreational means. I'm perfectly considerate when people ask me for directions or other help when in public, but the only people I ever really see "publicly" are the people at the local GameStop or Blockbuster and even then the conversations are usually kept to a 5 minute maximum and consist of comic book or movie talk. I'm about 5 people away from being a hermit, but to be honest, I like to make my free time just that: mine.

Like I said, nothing really interesting going here. Meh.  :drink:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 10, 2008, 01:32:52 PM
Someday-you won't even be looking-it'll just happen-BAM! You'll meet the right woman. Life has a way of dropping sh1t (good and bad,as I'm sure you know) right in your lap from nowhere...it's what keeps it interesting. Not always fun...but-interesting.

As cliched as that is, RC you're 100% right. The minute I stopped looking for love (and decided to just start looking for sex, heh heh), I met my fiancee. 8 years later and we haven't broken up since. Not always the case, but as our resident Bela said, stop looking and something interesting will happen.  :wink:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Sister Grace on February 10, 2008, 01:39:07 PM
Far as finding the right women goes ... yeah you find one some day that you can tolerate

It can be almost as hard for some women as men..
I was lonely for a long time, it went past the point of loneliness, to almost a numb feeling of 'this is it, and i am somewhat comfortable with it'. I've always had trouble meeting people, also i consider myself pretty self-sufficient and don't need alot of contact to be happy . I just don't seem to get along with the general population, most people either bore or confuse me. my intrests are considered obscure by some, and that can throw people off a little. I gave completely up on dating. Most guys seem to think i'm a wierdo..i don't fit the mode of 'cheerleader girlfriend'.while i never fit the profile of a beach bunny, i've been told i'm classy..most guys don't want classy. But then again, how can you grow with someone who only cares if you look like you came off the cover of Cherry magazine everyday. I get that 'wow, you're really smart and hot, and will make someone a great girlfriend, you're like a SISTER to me..."
but when you least expect it, you do meet someone..now i have a great guy, and like me, he's socially awkward and just as much as a nerd, which i think is totally hot. He never complains when i make him sit through hours of bad movies and even laughs at the same cheesiness that i do. He doesn't mind that i'm disabled and have a slight gimp, he never notices and if he does, maybe a nice rack makes up for it.. :smile:..i guess all in all, what i am trying to say..when you meet the right one, it won't matter if you aren't a social butterfly and don't have a large expanse of friends..he/she will make up for it..even if you make them sit through XTRO... :smile:

Also, I joined this site a few months ago, and i have to say, i feel as if i have learned more about you guys from this thread than any other..yeah, alot of us share some of the same intrests and tastes, but its nice to see the 'human' side of some of you, not just words on a screen.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 10, 2008, 01:44:17 PM
Also, I joined this site a few months ago, and i have to say, i feel as if i have learned more about you guys from this thread than any other..yeah, alot of us share some of the same intrests and tastes, but its nice to see the 'human' side of some of you, not just words on a screen.

Actually, I'm only human from the waist down. The rest of me is literally a large screen that generates random words like "aardvark" and "colloquialism". Occasionally some numbers will pop up from time to time too, but not very often...  heh :tongueout:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Ash on February 10, 2008, 02:02:28 PM
Hehe Anubis!
Karma!   :thumbup:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Patient7 on February 10, 2008, 04:45:50 PM
I don't get out much, there's just too much on t.v.  :twirl: :twirl: :twirl: :twirl: :twirl:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 10, 2008, 06:00:15 PM
Hehe Anubis!
Karma!   :thumbup:

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: RCMerchant on February 10, 2008, 07:34:20 PM
Hehe Anubis!
Karma!   :thumbup:

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

 I just gave him a plus....Ash is very honest and plain spoken... -if I was to give a negative to someone...I'd have let them know it. Kinda sneaky,I'd say.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Andrew on February 10, 2008, 07:35:04 PM
Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 10, 2008, 07:40:23 PM
Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)

Oh, that's frowned upon around here?! Sorry. :::shakes off, zips up, and walks away whistling:::  :lookingup:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 10, 2008, 07:51:36 PM
Wow!!!   :buggedout:

When I started this thread, I was just feeling sorry for myself because it was Friday afternoon and I had no date or outing to look forward to on the weekend.

But I can see I'm not the only one in this boat.  Thanks to everyone for sharing their lives with me.  I see now that I'm quite the norm amongst humans.  I really thought everyone else was having a much better, happier, more social life than me, but that's not the case.  But I guess it's easy to think that when you don't see anything but your own life.

Dennis, thanks for the personal note.  That was a funny story you told.  It made me laugh out loud which turned few heads here in the office.   :smile:

I was thinking about my lack of socialness and I realised it was because, whilst I have no real issues about myself, I do need to lose about 15lbs and that makes me feel awkward about myself and hence not inclined to "put myself out there".

After I lose my weight, I probably still won't get out heaps, but it will make me feel better and when I'm relaxed, things seem easier and not so dire.  I did go grocery shopping on Saturday and I got heaps of value for my dollar so that was pretty good.

And the heat and humidity have settled down a little now and I always feel better when it's cooler.  So I got a lot more knitting done which made me happy.  And after much thought about my prior mistakes with men (I always pick ones who are emotionally unavailable and then try to get them to love me   :lookingup:  ), I realise I'd rather be alone that with a guy who makes me miserable.

Thanks to everyone here for making me feel just a little more connected to the world and a little less alien.  You guys are awesome    :cheers:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: indianasmith on February 10, 2008, 08:34:41 PM
Hehe Anubis!
Karma!   :thumbup:

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

 I just gave him a plus....Ash is very honest and plain spoken... -if I was to give a negative to someone...I'd have let them know it. Kinda sneaky,I'd say.

I think there is a karma vampire on the board this weekend . . . I've lost 3 points this weekend, and to my knowledge I haven't ticked anyone off - at least, no one has disagreed with a post I've made. 

On the bright side, I just posted a piece of original poetry on another thread.  Maybe someone will like it.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Allhallowsday on February 10, 2008, 08:55:47 PM
I'm giving ASH karma also, because of his heartfelt comments.  I'd hate to think someone would knock anyone for sincere revelation.  All of the comments in this thread make me feel very fortunate, and yet, I sometimes feel lonely or unappreciated too.  Karma is not important at all, but y'know what?  I'm going through the whole thread right now and giving every participant karma!   :smile:  (If you got no more points it's because I already karma'd you today...!) 


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: indianasmith on February 10, 2008, 11:51:46 PM
And Karma to you, sir, for your generous spirit!!!!!!!!!!!

My social life took a hit today - I was unable to go to church because my 13 year old twin daughters each threw up their entire body weight last night and this morning, and Patty and I spent most of the day either catching up on our interrupted rest or cleaning up slightly used Sprite . . . . .


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: ulthar on February 11, 2008, 12:03:28 AM

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)


I would think that on THIS board, that would get him positive karma... 


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 11, 2008, 12:10:35 AM

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)


I would think that on THIS board, that would get him positive karma... 

Only if he could do it at a distance of 10 feet or greater without spilling any.   :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: dean on February 11, 2008, 03:56:39 AM

Wowzers, I didn't keep much track of this one and then bam, four pages of posts.

It's really interesting hearing the more personal sides of some of the posters here.  I remember thinking not too long ago how mellow and mature Ash seems compared to his "Ashthecat" days, in which he was a bit sporadic and pretty 'out there' on occasion, but then of course he also came up with some whopper topics too during that time [and thus the toilet paper legend was born].

It's funny, I always classed myself [and was classed] as an introvert who all through high school had only a few friends, and had trouble talking to anyone who wasn't in my immediate circle. I remember watching 'The Big Hit' years ago and laughing to myself about how Mark Wahlberg's character, whose one fault was that he couldn't stand people not liking him, could really apply to me.

I found that it was hard talking to people because I was too afraid to get it wrong, which of course inevitably happened because I was too worried.  Ahh what a cycle!

Then gradually I came to know more and more people, and became more and more relaxed, stopped worrying about what other people thought [helped by taking a part time job as a basketball referee, so I HAD to take my fair share of BS and learn to deal with it]  and then had the benefit of surrounding myself with an incredible group of people who shared varied interests, but were all easy-going and welcoming, even if you were different than the norm.  And this begat more people until it seems at times that there's an out of control social monster on hand.

I had a bit of a setback about 2 years ago when I got booted by my then-girlfriend who I had gone out with intensely for 2 1/2 years.  That put me back into a bit of a hole, but gradually I got over it and started just enjoying myself, doing things I liked doing and didn't give myself any agenda of 'I need to go pick up' or what-have-you and found a lovely lass who is amazing.  RCM is right, once you stop straining yourself to find it, you find that alot of things fall into place.  I guess I've just tried to learn from every bad/good experience and improve in little ways over a long period of time, and I have plenty of time left to continue to do so!  Having a strong support base helped immensely though...

I have a heap of friends, but that's because they're all too amazing to give up, though a select few are like family to me.  But I know that this will tail off since I'm still a young-fella, and people will start settling down, working more and it being harder to meet up with etc. The downside is at the moment I have next to no time for myself [or money to go with it] and still part of me just can't say no to people who want to go out/watch movies etc, so I've still got to learn to curb that a bit, but on the whole, I'm having a ball and am pretty happy about where I'm at, so that be a plus!



Oh and whilst I don't necessarily talk to most or all of you directly, I consider the ritual of coming here and making little 'Well I think that...' comments are part of my social life, especially given what a like-minded [for the most part  :wink: ] bunch you all are.  Like Trevor said in another thread, if anyone's around my way, look me up, though I probably won't give you a hug, but more a slap on the back and a tour of the city... but still you get the idea...  I really should invest into getting a new mike for my computer, and reinstall skype, but I worry that in doing so will reveal you are all conversation bots and I'm part of some sick experiment...  :buggedout:



Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Ash on February 11, 2008, 07:07:15 AM
Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

Good question.
I went to bed early last night and was at 150 karma.
Then I come back here and see that you mentioned someone had knocked me down a couple points.
Weird.   :question:
I never wrote anything to make anyone mad.
Maybe my "pee in the sink" post grossed a couple people out.
Indiana's probably right.  I think we do have a karma vampire here.
Thanks for the karma guys!

By the way, I don't usually pee in the bathroom sink and when I did, it was only 4 or 5 times. 
I did it because my old roommates were by far the worst I've ever had.
They were boyfriend and girlfriend and would team up on me.  They complained every single day about stupid stuff...seemingly to make my life miserable.  Their relationship wasn't the greatest and I think they took out a lot of their frustrations on me.
So I peed in their sink!   :teddyr:

Thankfully, I moved out after only 6 months.  I just couldn't take their crap anymore.
To my best recollection, I've never peed in a sink since.   :wink:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Mr_Vindictive on February 11, 2008, 08:52:37 AM
Social life?  What's that?

Sadly my social life is almost non-existent at this point.  My wife, daughter and myself moved to a new area back in Nov and my social life has disappeared since then.  We've made a few "friends" since moving down here but I would classify them as more acquaintances than anything.

Today is my last day at my current job which I've been with for about 5 years now.  Tomorrow I'll be starting a new job as an emergency dispatcher for the county that we currently live in.  I'm hoping that getting out and working somewhere else than my apartment will give me the chance to meet some new people.

Online social life has been doing considerably better than in RL.  I'm currently a leader and co-founder of a highly popular Day Of Defeat: Source clan.  I'm usually on that game server, trying to keep things running well; which would explain my lack of time spent on this board as of late.  I've met a lot of very cool people while doing so.   


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Mortal Envelope on February 11, 2008, 09:26:46 AM
'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.

Ya sure about that? :)


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Sister Grace on February 11, 2008, 02:56:00 PM
'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.

Ya sure about that? :)

Well, I'm sure i could have worse qualitites...lol


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: JaseSF on February 11, 2008, 05:26:24 PM
Well I was never much of an ongoing person. Always preferred a more quiet existence. Luckily for me, I've found a girl who pretty much likes a lot of the same things and also has little use for the drug and boozing party scene. Being a straight-edge fellow, I've never been attracted to that scene not to say I tell anyone else how to live their lives because I don't. I do like to go to an occassional dance or get-together but I don't care if its months apart. I'm quite happy right now with my friends online and the handful I know locally and a girl who's very understanding about what makes me tick.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: akiratubo on February 11, 2008, 06:09:48 PM
'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.

Try that line on me sometime.  :wink:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Patient7 on February 11, 2008, 06:28:20 PM
Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)

Well, that was my reason.

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss? :question:

Good question.
I went to bed early last night and was at 150 karma.
Then I come back here and see that you mentioned someone had knocked me down a couple points.
Weird.   :question:
I never wrote anything to make anyone mad.
Maybe my "pee in the sink" post grossed a couple people out.
Indiana's probably right.  I think we do have a karma vampire here.
Thanks for the karma guys!

By the way, I don't usually pee in the bathroom sink and when I did, it was only 4 or 5 times. 
I did it because my old roommates were by far the worst I've ever had.
They were boyfriend and girlfriend and would team up on me.  They complained every single day about stupid stuff...seemingly to make my life miserable.  Their relationship wasn't the greatest and I think they took out a lot of their frustrations on me.
So I peed in their sink!   :teddyr:

Thankfully, I moved out after only 6 months.  I just couldn't take their crap anymore.
To my best recollection, I've never peed in a sink since.   :wink:

Okay, you put up a good defense so I'm giving you back a karma point that I will admit I took away, after hearing your defense I cannot say that I wouldn't do the same thing.  In fact, I might've farted on their pillow if they were REALLY annoying. :bouncegiggle:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 11, 2008, 07:43:38 PM
"Say - would you like a chocolate covered pretzel?"        :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Mofo Rising on February 11, 2008, 07:56:38 PM
My social life is alright, I guess.

Normally I prefer not to go out; I'd rather stay home and watch movies or play video games. However, I have four roommates, so that is not often a solitary pursuit. I have a rather broad web of acquaintances, but very few close friends. I'm pretty bad at keeping in touch with people, so often I don't see people for long stretches of time.

Online, most of the people I know are due to this very board. As Ash said, I've talked to him a couple of times over Xbox Live; while others have crossed over into my Netflix and MySpace pages, like Skaboi. So I've met more people through Badmovies.org.

I'm not really sociable, and I don't particularly care for people in general, but I'm easy to get along with and too polite to be an outright ass, so that's made me a good amount of friends. For somebody who for the most part wants to be left alone, I end up doing a rather lot. Oh well.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 11, 2008, 09:30:01 PM
"Say - would you like a chocolate covered pretzel?"        :teddyr:

You keep your stink palm away from me!  :buggedout:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: dean on February 12, 2008, 05:00:50 AM
Well I was never much of an ongoing person. Always preferred a more quiet existence. Luckily for me, I've found a girl who pretty much likes a lot of the same things and also has little use for the drug and boozing party scene. Being a straight-edge fellow, I've never been attracted to that scene not to say I tell anyone else how to live their lives because I don't. I do like to go to an occassional dance or get-together but I don't care if its months apart. I'm quite happy right now with my friends online and the handful I know locally and a girl who's very understanding about what makes me tick.

Yeah I'm fairly straight laced and don't usually hit the booze since I usually drive everywhere, and there's them pesky breathalisers on the road ready to make you lose a license if you're over the limit.  But then again, I'm not against the idea for others, and a friend recently said I'm good with and blend in well with drunk people/stoned folk.  Still not sure if this was a compliment or an insult!  :teddyr:

Well I was never much of an ongoing person.


For some reason the wording of this phrase struck me as really hilarious. Unintentionally so, sure, but funny all the same.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Jack on February 12, 2008, 12:38:38 PM
I'm not really sociable, and I don't particularly care for people in general, but I'm easy to get along with and too polite to be an outright ass,

LOL, karma for that  :smile:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: BTM on February 12, 2008, 01:52:58 PM
Neverending.  I am blessed with many friends, and it seems we are always up to something. 

Don't take this the wrong way but... I really hate you right now.

(Or maybe it's envy, dunno...)

But, hey, I'll get over it.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: CheezeFlixz on February 12, 2008, 02:30:07 PM
Quote
What's Your Social Life Like?

Wine, women, song! Rinse and repeat.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Allhallowsday on February 12, 2008, 04:17:12 PM
Neverending.  I am blessed with many friends, and it seems we are always up to something. 
Don't take this the wrong but... I really hate you right now. (Or maybe it's envy, dunno...)
But, hey, I'll get over it.
Nanny nanny poopoo stick yer head in doodoo...  :tongueout: :twirl: :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 12, 2008, 07:30:57 PM
"Say - would you like a chocolate covered pretzel?"        :teddyr:

You keep your stink palm away from me!  :buggedout:

Karma to you for recognising the line!   :thumbup:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 12, 2008, 08:11:02 PM
And a karma for you madam for quoting my first (and favorite) Kevin Smith movie.  :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 12, 2008, 08:22:24 PM
And that concludes the weekly meeting of Backslappers Inc.   :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: HappyGilmore on February 12, 2008, 10:15:54 PM
I gotta say, I finally have been getting out more recently.  Usually I was just content to come home from work, watch the tube and that was it.  Weekends, I'd just veg out, get a six pack or two and chill. 

Now that I've been working a more flexible schedule, I'm actually able to go to clubs and bars, bowling, etc.  Got a new job with some cool people.  Usually Saturday I hit a bar or two with a friend of mine from elementary school, and we usually run into some girls we know and hang with them for a bit, then go to another bar.  A lot more fun than watching Cheaters for the millionth time.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: voltron on February 12, 2008, 10:41:18 PM
Social life? What the hell is that?
My best friend lives on the other side of the country....all I have right now is my family, I don't go out, I used to hit the bars a lot, but I got sick of it. I'm not working right now, I'm single....to paraphrase Frank Zappa, "I don't need friends, all I need is cigarettes and coffee".


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Rev. Powell on February 13, 2008, 01:47:42 AM
Socializing to me is like exercise.  It's something I do regularly, not because I want to, but because I know it's good for me.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Dr_Malavaqua on February 17, 2008, 12:31:44 PM
Socializing to me is like exercise.  It's something I do regularly, not because I enjoy it, but because I know it's good for me.
Amen to that reverend! While I don't have any actual proof that it's good for me, I'd like to think it keeps me almost human.. I more than once have felt the obligation to attend a party or whatever, just because I get the feeling that's what you should do, at least once a year as a student in his early twenties... Instead of sitting alone in the dark watching movies made thirty years before you were born!
Back to the thread topic: I just wanna' give a big 'thank you' to Killer Bees and everybody who put their own personal lives out there in this thread! It was a very interesting read and the timing, for me, was impeccable.  :thumbup:

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The frequent name dropping in the ramblings below is just because I couldn't figure out how to quote all them people. Sorry about that.
__________________________________________________________________________

Although I consider my social life only at the brink of non-excisting (I mean zero..), yesterday I was infact, having rather grim thoughts about existence(no NOT the movie..., that's excellent!) AND for the first time in years I was..crying, yes you read it right, crying my eyes out thinking "I am the only one without a social life[Killer Bees], I am the only one who doesn't like shallow chatting with acquaintances[TheDarkSider], I am the only one who has chosen not to have any contact with my father because of things he's done to the family[Ash] and finally I am the only one who's depressed[You know who you are..](Cause of the depression, not usually in the mood to actually post something myself, although I'm a regular visitor and now an even greater fan of this wonderfull place that feels like *dare I say* home).... I was very pleased to come to the conclusion that:
I WAS WRONG!  :teddyr: (Happy - but not in a gloating way of course..) :teddyr: Thank you!!!

I digress, back to the topic, again:
My social life... As many posters have described before, I too have only some "acquaintances" i.e from my university program, which I'm in right now, and from my old kung-fu class.. which I actually do meet sometimes(months between such occasions). AND I have a wonderfull girlfriend, since seven years back, who respects my interest in the obscure cinema to the degree that I can enjoy it without too much complaint - sometimes I even get a snicker from her when describing the preposterous plot of my latest cinematic booty! So in that way I am really lucky!(BTM is going to get me now.. :lookingup:)She really is my best friend and the saving grace of this thing called life... :smile: My other(note: only two) real friend, is my brother but he lives half a country away, so I only see him three times a year, tops..
BUT, and this is a big one: Although my girlfriend respects my interests, and I sometimes actually meet some other people.. There is absolutely nobody whom I talk to about some of the stuff that really interests me - like b-movies, movies, video games, comics etc.. I've spent the last three years in school only engaging in light conversation with my fellow students, who couldn't be more different than me, and besides them I hardly ever meet nobody and never anyone who really cares about this sort of stuff...
This was/is a big part of the reason for me feeling a bit drained and down. So I guess the point I'm trying to make is, I don't have a social life and even if I had one it wouldn't be with somebody like me..
But thankfully there is such a thing as the internet! So, once again, thanks guys you made my day....!  :smile: :thumbup: :smile:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 09:54:16 PM
You're welcome, Dr M   :thumbup:

I was depressed this last year because I split up with my boyfriend, so I retreated into my shell to nurse my hurts, as most people would do.

After a year of being sad and depressed, my sister took me to this spiritual healer.  He really fixed me up and got rid of the old patterns I was hanging onto.  Mainly the ones that kept me going back to unsuitable guys and then wondering what happened when the relationship died.

But the healing had an unexpected side effect.  I used to be generous and patient and endlessly giving to people who didn't give back, but that didn't worry me.  But now I realise that I'm tired of being dumped on and sucked of all my generosity and niceness and I refuse to attract selfish soul suckers into my life.

So now instead of being at peace, I"m just angry at the world at how many selfish self absorbed bastards there are out there, men and women.  I now have a "fsck you" attitude to everyone which I guess is pretty non-conducive to a social life  *lol*

But seriously, I don't care.  Hence, me coming to this board and finding like minded individuals who don't actually want anything from me.  It's nice to be amongst people who don't care if I don't contact them for ages, but are happy to see me if I show up.  It's nice to be amongst people who think and act like I do and see nothing wrong with it (because there's not).  It's also nice to be amongst bright people with similar interests who make me laugh and who can give me intelligent logical counter arguments to my opinion without feeling emasculated or belittled when I don't agree with them.

You guys are awesome.   :thumbup:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: AnubisVonMojo on February 17, 2008, 09:59:47 PM
Hence, me coming to this board and finding like minded individuals who don't actually want anything from me. 

Oh, then this may not be a good time to ask you if I can have $20 for a Korean import DVD of the Burt Lancaster Phantom of the Opera. I don't intend to pay it back, hence why I said "have" instead of "borrow".  :tongueout:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 10:27:29 PM
Hence, me coming to this board and finding like minded individuals who don't actually want anything from me. 

Oh, then this may not be a good time to ask you if I can have $20 for a Korean import DVD of the Burt Lancaster Phantom of the Opera. I don't intend to pay it back, hence why I said "have" instead of "borrow".  :tongueout:

Cheque's in the mail, dude   :teddyr:


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: threnody on February 17, 2008, 10:28:32 PM
I have one really good friend that I trust, a handful of acquaintances from my last job and various family members that I spend a lot of time with. I don't go out every night, but I still have fun often. I could have more friends, but I don't want any. I have a ton of free time on my hands and I like it that way. I would rather stay at home and watch movies than go out and party. I hate parties. I hate crowds. I'm content with my social life.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 10:44:07 PM
I was thinking of taking up rag rug making.  It will supplement my creative side and it will give me something different to do other than knitting all the time.

I borrowed a book from the library on the subject and it looks pretty easy.  So this weekend, I'll be trying out my first rug.

Yeah, I know, I'm such a social whirlwind  *lol*


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Dr_Malavaqua on February 18, 2008, 05:23:50 PM
I was thinking of taking up rag rug making.  It will supplement my creative side and it will give me something different to do other than knitting all the time.

I borrowed a book from the library on the subject and it looks pretty easy.  So this weekend, I'll be trying out my first rug.

Yeah, I know, I'm such a social whirlwind  *lol*

 :teddyr: you're funny!   (Note to self: I'm starting to sound like Ralph Wiggum...)

Well I guess I don't have the urge for a large friend base either, but I still think it would be nice to have someone to share interests with IRL. I've never even seen another b-movie admirer in person...! (I come from the iciest and most deserted part of Sweden, close to were they shot "Terror in The Midnight Sun" :drink:)
What do you think about it Killer Bees, any experience? Isn't there something that is just, that much more fun, when you're actually with a person?(still talking b-movie interest sharing..  :tongueout: )   

PS: I felt even better today as I got the Fly(1986/2disc) & the Addams Family I & II (double feature) in the mail.. :smile: but that's another thread.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 18, 2008, 08:29:32 PM
I was thinking of taking up rag rug making.  It will supplement my creative side and it will give me something different to do other than knitting all the time.

I borrowed a book from the library on the subject and it looks pretty easy.  So this weekend, I'll be trying out my first rug.

Yeah, I know, I'm such a social whirlwind  *lol*

 :teddyr: you're funny!   (Note to self: I'm starting to sound like Ralph Wiggum...)

Well I guess I don't have the urge for a large friend base either, but I still think it would be nice to have someone to share interests with IRL. I've never even seen another b-movie admirer in person...! (I come from the iciest and most deserted part of Sweden, close to were they shot "Terror in The Midnight Sun" :drink:)
What do you think about it Killer Bees, any experience? Isn't there something that is just, that much more fun, when you're actually with a person?(still talking b-movie interest sharing..  :tongueout: )   

PS: I felt even better today as I got the Fly(1986/2disc) & the Addams Family I & II (double feature) in the mail.. :smile: but that's another thread.

Actually most of my pursuits are solitary ones.  But I think things like playing board games, bowling, having a drink at the pub is always better with one or more.

There is a board game called "Balderdash" that's completely hilarious the more people you play with.  It's all about very obscure, but real words and everyone has to come up with a meaning.  You're assigned points based on how many people voted for your answer and the ultimate is to actually get the answer right.

I played with my exhusband and his family years ago.  They were the most frightful nerds, but nice bright people and I can't remember laughing so hard in a group.

Unfortunately our culture is based on eating and drinking booze and sport. Dining out regularly is expensive and I have quite a strict diet anyway.  Plus the Snobby Cuisine Victims really get up my nose.  Booze is an occasional thing for me and not a volume contest like with some people and I really loathe sport.  So that kind of leaves me nowhere.

I'd enjoy a book discussion group, but only books that I like and not some random  crap that they'd assign.  God save me from the Oprah Book Club nuts! :buggedout:



Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: ulthar on February 18, 2008, 09:47:44 PM

Actually most of my pursuits are solitary ones.


Have you ever considered singlehanded sailing?  It's great!!  Peaceful, meditative, in touch with nature, etc.  Like single hiking/camping, which are good, too.  While I absolutely love doing these with my family, doing them alone is great, too, in its own way.  My wife told me this weekend that she is actually on board with my "proposed" singlehanded trip from the SC coast to Bermuda (maybe next summer).  Twelve days round trip sailing time, with some lay-over in Bermuda for sight-seeing/rest.  Now I gotta get the boat ready....

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There is a board game called "Balderdash" that's completely hilarious the more people you play with.  It's all about very obscure, but real words and everyone has to come up with a meaning.  You're assigned points based on how many people voted for your answer and the ultimate is to actually get the answer right.

I played with my exhusband and his family years ago.  They were the most frightful nerds, but nice bright people and I can't remember laughing so hard in a group.


I've never played "Balderdash," but we have played "Apples to Apples."  The first time we played that, I laughed probably harder than I ever had in my life.  It is a very fun game.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Killer Bees on February 18, 2008, 10:56:42 PM
Ulthar

Single handed sailing sounds like fun.  I've only been sailing once, on Sydney Harbour with friends and I had a ball.


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Zoolook the Mudkip on February 19, 2008, 12:32:25 AM
My social life is awesome. Everyone loves me because I'm just that amazing
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Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Yaddo 42 on February 23, 2008, 04:48:11 PM
Wow this thread took off while I was gone.

I've played "Apples to Apples", it is fun with the right mix of people.

I can relate to going out being like exercise, but it has gotten easier lately. Just wish my schedule was more in sync with that core group of close friends I have (small as it is). The group of acquaintances has been growing but that is still more work than it should be.

The speed dating went pretty well, I'd do it again, if only for the forced socialization. Even when I didn't connect with some of the women I managed to feel comfortable and be more out going. I had one match (the ego and the hormones would have liked a few more), she and I have been out a few times and we enjoy our time together. I like her, she really likes me, I had kind of forgotten what it felt like to be in that situation. It's a good beginning for sure and we're having fun. She wants to show me off to the friends soon, I'm planning to do the same soon also.

Ash, don't entirely rule out women who are divorced, this girl is. It was a few years ago, and she seems to have moved past it, but I'll find out more as time goes on. Women with kids is a different and more complicated situation, I can understand why some won't go down that road (I will but under the right conditions). But one thing I tell myself and others is everyone has a past before you met them. Yeah, there are plenty of psychos and people are who are more trouble than they are worth, but there are also some great women who have had ups and downs in their lives also.

I won't hide my depression from people, but it's not the first thing I talk about either. It affected several years of my life, and I still have to watch out for it, so it is a factor in my life, but I'd hope a great woman wouldn't rule me out because of it. It is a part of my life that I can't change, although it is something I can work on in the present       


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: Allhallowsday on April 11, 2008, 05:41:50 PM
Neighborhood Pot luck here in my house tonight!  Seems like I've been washing floors and moving furniture and finding mountains of dust for weeks...


Title: Re: What's Your Social Life Like?
Post by: LilCerberus on April 12, 2008, 11:36:57 PM
Pledge Drive & Open house at WRIR next week.
Lots of meetings, lots of meetings canceled, lots of people trying to contact each other about getting food & swag but they keep missing each other because they're too busy running around town looking for food & swag...

I sure hope the t-shirts aren't some effeminate pastel again.