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Andrews "rules of the road" topic got me thinking of the many ways people greet each other.  Yeah its a broad subject but I'm interested in what people do in different parts of the States not to mention the world.  

Personally, I find myself doing a few different things.

Friends And Coworkers
1.) Hey
2.) How you doin (kind of unitentionally Sopranos-ish from what people tell me), Whats Going On or Whats up

If I don't see the person every day and they fit into the above category, I shake hands.  If it is a friend I haven't seen in a long, long time I'd be apt to hug them if they are female.  Maybe a kiss on the cheek.  Male friends may get a hug if I was really good friends with them.

Family
I'm a hug guy when it comes to my brother and father.   All other folks, inlaws or blood relation, get a handshake usually.  I usually kiss all the ladies.

People I Don't Know Well
I'm a habitial head nodder in this category.  I'm trying to do the chip up thing but end up doing kind of a half @ssed bow with my head.  I kind of hate when I do it but its a natural reaction

Strangers
Generally I'll ignore.  Maybe the head nod.

There are certain people on this board male and female I'd hug if I'd meet.  Then there are some that I wouldn't feel right hugging, they'd probably get a handshake.  How bout you?

Mostly with "Howdy, there!", only pronounced "Ahddy, (Z)'ere"

Generally, a lot of people get a "Hey, how're you sir (or, if female, ma'am)?".  Even if they're like, ten years old, I still say "sir".  I wasn't brought up to call anyone sir.  Just sort of how I turned out.  I dunno.

I'm not one for physical contact, so I don't even shake hands, let alone hug.  Which, apparently, is something I'm told a lot of women like when in relationships. :teddyr:

I once got into serious sh*t for taking one of the prop rifles we have in our vaults here and greeting some of the new security staff with a cheery "Yo, wazzup, muthaf****s!" and aiming the rifle.  :buggedout: :wink:

I must just add that the rifles are real .303 calibre weapons, they are as heavy as anything and they just cannot be cocked and fired.

Sorry DS but that made me laugh.  :teddyr: :bouncegiggle:

I usually don't greet my family - they're right in the same house with me.  My wife might get a little tickle if I can sneak up on her.  With neighbors, they get a "hi" or "hello" and a little wave.  On the off-chance I can remember their name, it might be "Hi Jeff".  I try not to be so friendly that it would encourage them to start a conversation with me.  Neighbors love to do that stuff but I do my utmost to avoid it.  If I'm being introduced to someone, I give them a firm handshake and say their name.  I'm terrible with names so I figure that if I say it, there's a 1% better chance I might remember it.  Mom and Dad always get a big hug.  Relatives do not get kisses, and I don't give hugs unless it's absolutely unavoidable.

I'm painfully shy by nature and not very social.  A bit of a hermit in fact.  So kissing is out and I am not much of a hugger; though I can (and do) imagine myself being so very pleased to meet certain people on here that I would spontaneously give them a big hug.  Others it just would not feel right - even though I'd be just as pleased to meet.

I usually make eye contact, smile, nod and say "Hello" when introduced.  Sometimes a firm handshake and a bigger smile (and a "Pleased to meet you!").  It depends.

I do wave at drivers who pass me as I am riding my horse out on the road.  I like to acknowlege their courtesy/good driving manners.  I also will wave at vehicles passing if I am out by the road - most are neighbours.  In town, I will smile and give a little wave if someone I know sees me.  Strangers get a small smile if we make eye contact for any reason.  And sometimes even a few words of chit-chat!  :buggedout:

I'm not sure why but I dislike shaking hands with women.  It just doesn't feel right when I do it.  

Side note, I'd love a hug Newt.  But I'd also give Trevor a hug so don't get jealous. :teddyr:

Everything from an enthusiastic "Hi!" to a nod. 

 :teddyr: :teddyr: :bouncegiggle:

Living in the southern US, it's quite normal to little wave, a nod, or a How are you?  to perfect strangers.   People at work that I'm fond of usually get a hardy handshake or a hand on the shoulder.  That's probably how I would greet most folks here (males anyway), but I would save that hug for Newt, she's cooler than cold watermelon on a hot summers day. The two guys I would lay hugs on are Trevor and RC, two people I really would like to meet in person  (you know I really like you if I give you action figures).

We're friends here , I know this because we get in tiffs here  and call each other out on stupid things we say, and that's what friendship is all about.

I'm a hugger, folks!

Whether you want it or not, you're getting hugged !

How do I greet people?

Usually with "Out of my way, you idiot!"

Someone drives a car...

 :teddyr:

With a handshake. Not a hug.

But my boss, where I use to work, until I retired, was a hugger. Not my immediate boss, but the big boss over all the employees was a hugger. And when you went to shake her hand, she'd say: "You know I'm a hugger." And then she give you biggest hug. And my reaction was "Eeewww!!!" But how do you tell your boss, who can make or break your career, not to hug you.

DS, Trev, Trek and Doggett: rest assured; you all made my hug list ages ago.   :smile:

Doggett, you'll be happy to know you're on my warm embrace list.  No grabbing my buttocks though.

Yeh, that's about right; I have a bunch of customized greetings, like a theme song or a nickname, for close friends... I also say "Hey now!" a lot, imitating one friend of mine.  I do enjoy being friendly, helpful and considerate.  But only at the supermarket. 

Yes, but lots of women turn their lips to me, y'know these older ladies with bright red greezee lipstick...  :bluesad:

My brother doesn't care for physical contact, so I grab him and hug him anyway.  :smile:  I don't like spreading germs or pawing people, but I'm a hugger. 

I say hello to everyone I know, even people I don't like; I'm so foolish about not snubbing a person that I'll walk up to some ass I don't like and greet them.  That doesn't mean that I don't avoid people if possible.  However, I can't not say hello to someone I know.  Except that guy with the rug.

C'mere, lemme give you a big smelly man hug.  I might be able to fart if you'd like me to try. 

You too have made the hug list with Doggett...see above rules for buttocks grabbing.

 :buggedout: :buggedout: +  :teddyr: :teddyr: :teddyr:

Captain Kirk and Mr Spock are currently standing on my bureau in my office, Trek: we'll be moving back to our refurbished building in November (thankfully) and they will be the first inhabitants in my new office.  :teddyr: :thumbup:

Usually "Howzitgoin'" or "Howyadoin'". 

When departing, it's "Take it easy."

Usually, hey.  :smile:  I will hug my kids and my husband but that's it. When I do get with other family they will hug and I hug too but get it over really quickly. Im not a touchy feeling kinda person. It makes me extremely uncomfortable.

Strangers: I usually just smile and stand as far back as possible to avoid the grabby ones and getting into conversations.
Family: Smile and stand as far back as possible to avoid being ordered to do something
Friends: An enthusiastic something, maybe a hug depending on the situation, like if someone recently died, or something great recently happened.
Hubby gets a kiss and a super awesome high-kick to the face/back if I can catch him by surprise.
I've never been a touchy feely person and it makes me really uncomfortable when certain friends or family members that I'm not really close to insist on kisses and awkwardly long hugs.

I would probably hug lots of you guys!  I'm not a hug initiator but I will respond well to one from someone I like.

  Meeting new people for the first time I usually respond with a "Hi" or "Hello" and stand a short distance away.  Not much of a hand shaker either. 

With family, depends on who it is. My kids will get warm squeezing hugs ... grandkids (will be a total of 6 in September)  warm hugs and kisses for all.  And tickles for the boys  ... and with the girls,  I like to gently stroke their hair.

Hug and kiss for my brother and his family, and the same for my hubby Bill's sisters and their families.

Hubby Bill always gets a kiss and a "Hi honey". 

Old friends I see occasionally get hugs.

No present co-workers at the moment (not working - out on disability). Old co-workers from past jobs I see occasionally (who I was close to) get hugs.  Others a "Hi" and how have you been?

With you guys, I'd be kind of shy ...  BUT  real glad to meet you and maybe give you a hug.   :smile:

I've always been an extrovert and meeting new people is fun for me.  My mother told me that I would walk up to anyone when I was a little boy and talk to them.  It was frustrating for her because she had to keep a constant eye on me.

Hosting huge Airsoft events has been great for meeting new people.  There are anywhere from 20-30 new people at every event I host and I make it a point to walk up to each and every one of them.
At each event I always make sure to walk up to a newcomer, extend my hand for them to shake, look them directly in the eyes and say, "Hi!  I'm Ash.  What's your name?" (I also use Ash as my callsign in the world of Airsoft)  It makes them feel at ease because they see that I am an easygoing and friendly guy.  I always make sure to never shake their hands too hard.  My handshakes are always firm.  There's nothing worse than some guy who squeezes your hand in a death grip.

I also talk to random strangers wherever I go.  It doesn't matter who they are or how old they are...I'll strike up a conversation or make small talk with almost anyone.

 :bouncegiggle:  At Kindergarten age, my son used to walk up to older (say, 8-y-o) blondes and say, "I have a pony".  I have tried to keep an eye on him ever since.   :wink:

I'm kind of a shy and reserved person, and not always a good judge of social situations when I'm in them. I tend not to be too outgoing, especially if I want to make a good impression, which actually leads some people to find me stern and unfriendly, and I've given more than one extrovert the idea that I disliked them. Fortunately, my wife is just the opposite, so she can do the talking and explain me if necessary. I will admit that some of my social interactions are consciously affected, so as to give people the responses they expect.

Formal greetings are a handshake and a "hello" or "hi there."

Informal is usually a nod and "g'day." That would be the Canadian "g'day" as opposed to the Australian "g'day." Slightly different sound. The Canandian version tends to emphasize "day" while the Australian seems to place the emphasis on the "g." The Canadian "g'day" is also generally shorter and more clipped. Think MacKenzie Brothers, rather than Paul Hogan. I also occasionally use the North Woolwich Mennonite "g'day" when talking to old friends. That one is harder to pin down, but much more fun to say. Kind of "gaw-DAY" and more drawn out.

Being slightly OCDish, I don't enjoy shaking hands. I kiss my wife, daughter and dog (on the head), and that's it. Those three are the only kisses I like. Hugs are likewise reserved for family only, and only given gladly to wife, daughter and dog. For anyone else, I'm indulging their need to hug, and they know it. It's become a running joke with some of my more touchy-feely in-laws.

And yet, people who know me well say I'm a kind, caring, sensitive and ethical person. And some of the most despicable people I've encountered were totally charming and at ease socially. I don't put much value on first impressions.

I used to be that way too, but then the ladies starting threatening sexual harassment, and the men started threatening to beat me up.

(Or was that the other way around?)

Just out of curiosity, does your family really have a pony?  Either way, that's an awesome pick up line!

Yes. Several.  And he did have one of his own.  How he figured out at that age that a pony could be a babe magnet, I will never know.

If they are coming into my house I say "I bid jew vellcome"

If it's nighttime I say "Good eevahning."

If they are bleeding I just stare and lick my lips.

For people I don't know, a nod or a little salute, for casual acquaintances or friends I usually give the middle finger  :twirl: but if they are good friends and if I'm really happy to see them, a hug. Family I always hug.

It depends, could be a variation of "Hello", "Hi, How Are You?"or "How Ya Gettin' On?" depending on the place and situation. Usually I'll talk to people who are in work clothes or seem really down to Earth with the "How Ya Gettin' On?", sometimes I'll add by', sometimes I won't. If I was meeting someone who seems refined and classy or an older gentleman, it would probably be a polite "Hello", usually with women it's "Hi" sometimes with the How Are You?, sometimes not. Older women I usually also say the polite "Hello".

I tend to hug and kiss family on the cheek usually as they arrive and leave. Strangers I tend to give a polite head nod in most social settings. As a Canadian and Newfoundlander, I'm obsessively polite most of the time but once I get to know you and I'm comfortable, I tend to really loosen up and the Newfie dialect tends to work its way into conversation more and more. If I have a visitor in my home, I will always ask them if they want a drink of water and offer them something to eat. I'll at the very least inquire if they want any such refreshment. My parents when they have visitors, even door to door salesmen, will have them come in and join them for a damn fine supper if I do say so. They're about the friendliest people I've ever known in my entire life. My grandfather would even invite Jehovah's Witnesses in and have coffee or tea with them when he was alive. Newfoundlanders tend to be well known for their friendliness.

I have to admit, when I've travelled to the Maritimes, I found the people so hospitable it almost made me uncomfortable. Never been to Newfoundland, but I was blown away by the hospitality in New Brunswick.

Most of us are quite hospitable  :cheers:

Welcome back, SkullBat! Long time.  :teddyr:

My 4 year old is the social butterfly of any playground.  I sit back and marvel at his skills. 

I see that as an indication that we have raised confident, secure, happy individuals.  :thumbup:

A gentleman in a tailored 3-piece suit, carrying an expensive briefcase and looking very successful watched my son on a city bus, doing his smile and hi-how-are-ya! routine for one-and-all: the man turned to me and said, "That boy will be Prime Minister one day!"   :teddyr:

hi
Due to my work(i work with severely disabled children) i find that tactile communication is more liked than a "hello" or "hi" so that said i am a habitual hugger.If you get within 5ft of me and i know or like you then you are gonna get hugged.I also teach martial arts to young children and when one of my pupils wins a competition they run like hell cause they know they are gonna get hugged.I am told by people that i am quite friendly and easy to approach but i can be quite aloof and truth Be told i am quite a shy guy..

Thank you sir, it has  :twirl: School and stuff, but I have an iPhone so I can carry the net every where, yay!

Wow.  How old is that boy now?  And do you watch him closely?  :)

He just had his 21st birthday...  :teddyr:  ...and I am watching the girls!

The Pearls Before Swine strip for Aug 12/10:

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