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Ok...obviously this won't apply to happily married folks.
I'm lonsome. So f**king lonsome sometimes I talk to myself. I talk to the walls. When I'm drunk and my kid is spending the night at his freinds-I have conversations with the radio.
This forum helps alot. But sometimes I sure wish I was talking to people face to face.
Work people dont count. I don't hang out with them. They got there own lives. All my freinds from the past are dead or gone. My family is gone-or to busy for me. I live with Eddie-my 16 year old son. He does what any teenager does-hangs with his freinds-Im the food and shelter supplier.
I dont know if there is a point to this ..am I the only one who feels this way? Am I weird? I feel isolated...like the world is full of fun things for all...but me.
I sound like a f**king teenager-except Im 48 years old!
If Im being a whiny b***h-tell me. Ill kick myself in the ass
(which I will any way)

Don't worry RC, you're totally not being a whiny b***h and you're certainly not alone in feeling isolated.

I live in a town I hate. I have lived in this town for six years and I have never made a single friend. I go to work, get on with people fine there, but outside of work they don't want to know me or we have nothing in common. The only family I ever regularly see (meaning once a month....maybe) is my dad and my nan. They live an hours drive away, and I don't drive. Honestly, apart from this forum I have no one to connect with or have a laugh with. I get up, go to work, come home, eat and go to sleep. It's the same every weekend (unless there's a concert, which I go to....alone) apart from there's no work, there's staring at the same four walls in silence struggling to stop my brain spewing up crap that makes me want to die.

Y ou know what guys i am sure we can find a way to chat via a webcam, then you will be really p**sed imagine seeing my face on your pc.Being bored is an awful empty feeling that can seduce you and make you do things that you would otherwise not think of doing.I think that if it was not for my kids i would be in shiit street without any toilet paper.Pity that you don't drive circus i would love to see you attend my local movie club , RC you sound like my type of guy someone who loves lugosi,karloff and art, pity such a great space divides us.Guys you have my e-mail so if you want to just drop a line anytime about any kind of s**t you want then i will reply gladly.I am sure in time both you guys will stumble onto that special lady and untill then keep watching those awful b- movies

The f**ked thing is...I was married. To the most ...awww...f**k.

Sometimes, I get bored & disappointed. :bluesad:
Then I read one of the younger members of this board spout a way too familiar sounding story :hatred:, & I realize it's something of an even trade... :lookingup:

It was not my intention to upset you RC nor did i mean to suggest that you could ever replace your lovely wife,however i beleive that you are too good a person to spend the rest of your life alone.Believe me i thought i would never find any lady to accept me,i am not your tall,dark and handsome kind of guy and i do have a nasty sense of humour,but i did find someone and i appreciate her love for me.The past is never behind you it is always going to stay by your side being lonely is an awful devoid feling but like i mentioned , you are to good of a person to stay lonely, you will find someone and though no lady will ever replace your lovely wife,she will at least fill that empty feeling you have.

I've got almost the opposite problem.  I'd rather be alone and almost have to force myself to socialize. 

I wouldn't mind having a woman around the house, but friends and parties and stuff... not really that interested.  Socializing with my family about once a week, friends about once a month is all I can handle. 

Oh, and you guys daily, of course. 

I'm sixteen, so I don't know why I should feel lonely, but I just do. Even with my friends I always feel like no one really cares about me. I guess I just blend in too much or something.

I've been lonely for a lot of my life. It's only the last couple of years I've had a girlfriend I've been less so but I definitely wish I had some cool friends like the folks on here to hang out with, watch some movies with, people with similar interests as there are actually few of those in my everyday life. Actually with the internet and PS3 and other forms of social media as I understand it, there are ways we can talk more directly over the net (although honestly I don't fully understand the inner workings of all that). Might be cool if some of us with the same PS3 games played one another...perhaps have some kind of interactive movie night...we could all go on some direct chat line too I suppose although it might well get boring without a lot of folks involved...would actually love to meet up with and hang out with some folks on here even though some are vastly different from me in some ways. Reminds me of that thread about where you'd take people if they came to visit. Well if you're looking to escape the city, you certainly couldn't do better than coming here where it tends to be extra quiet and the people are for the most part extremely friendly. Would love to go to the local Museum and historical sites with indianasmith, would love to show off our unique history and culture here to AndyC and Newt, just hang out and watch cult movies with RC and Raffine, watch some wrestling with HappyGilmore and Bob and perhaps chat and talk about it...would be cool if possible.

You're very young. (That's a great thing.)  Everyone is at least a little lonely at your age.  You will be amazed how much you'll change in the next few years... You'll learn everything you want and maybe how to find.  :thumbup:

same here

I live in SouthSide, I don't drink, I don't like loud music-parties-nightclubs, I'm a republican, & while nobody's been able to convince me that marijuana is bad for you, I'm not about to break the law just to prove it.

Everyone I get along with live in town, or north of the James, they're all radical leftists, & regular party animals.

I have three kids and a wife...its hard to be lonesome.  Although I would never want to be without them, I often find personally I fair better when I'm by myself.  I was always the kind of guy who preferred to go out alone. Maybe thats why I talk to myself so much.

I'm married and have a daughter. I love my wife and kid very much. I can't say that they always understand me, though. I guess in a way I'm, well, paranoid isn't the right word, but I've never felt like I fit in particularly well anywhere (sometimes even in my own family), and that leads to a lot of lonely feelings, even when I have my family around. Like DS, I do quite well by myself, so I've never really considered "fitting in" to be all that swell of an idea, or at least not changing myself just so I would fit in with a group. I don't post enough here to be very well known--I doubt if many would notice if I just stopped posting. At work, I'm the only male, so I don't get included in the "girl talk" during down times, and my closest friend (distance-wise, at least) and I haven't gotten together in over a month now. In short, I know how you feel, RC & Circus, though my loneliness is not as complete as yours since I do have family around. And Circus: I've lived in a town I hate for almost 45 years, so I know how that is. I still have hopes of moving, but they are dying.

And as for the teenagers on here that are feeling alone, you will (hopefully) find your place eventually. At least that's what everyone kept telling me. I'm still waiting...

I'm so crushingly lonely I can hardly bear it.  I broke down crying just yesterday.  All my friends are married and have families and careers, and here I am just starting out at 32.  No relationship, live with Mom and Dad.  I feel like a loser and a failure.  Worse, I feel irrelevant.  I have good days and bad; sometimes it's hard to even get out of bed.

In my early 20s, coworkers at temp jobs used to ask me if I had any kids. I'd say "no".
Then they'd ask me "Why not?"

In 2005, following two years of unemployment, preceded by years of working jobs that didn't pay my bills, thinking maybe if I worked hard enough, I might be able to go back to school, only to get laid off before I had $50 set aside, I swallowed my pride & went on SSDI disability.

Sometimes, my stepdad points out my hobbies or favors I've done for people (My Volunteer work with WRIR has been a big one), & he asks why in the hell I can't get a job doing that.
Frankly, I'd like an answer to that one myself, but I'm often treated like it's none of my business.

I'm a 40 year old virgin...

It's all very embarrassing.

I have no problems socializing, and I've been in many relationships, but I actually prefer being alone.
Sometimes I do feel blue (lonesome) but never to the point where I have to rush out and meet people.
I would like to give some good advice to lonely people here but other than a cliched 'get out the house and start living' is all I can think of.

That sounds like clinical depression rather than ordinary loneliness.  I'd consider seeing a doctor if it persists.   

I'm fairly lonely. I don't mind it most days, as I'm used to it. As I get older, most of my friends are in relationships, engaged, have careers in medicine and military. But I fill the void when I can. Between internet, video games, etc., I try not to focus on it. I noticed bad things happen if I do.

I'm kinda lonely. I don't mind it too much, but a brutha need some 'tang once in a while, if you know what I mean. . .

That's how I've been my whole life.  As soon as I get a job and some insurance, I'm getting help.  Had enough of this.

The twelve Step Group Emotions Anonymous went defunct in my town back in 2009, & I miss it.
I don't know about the CODA groups.

I Kind of liked ARTS Anon, be we went through too many long periods where only one person showed up.

They were not only great support, offering different insights on the twelve steps, but they were also a great place to network.

I am very, very lonely.  I don't make friends that easily, for various reasons, and it seems like the people I do have as "friends" aren't really that good.  Right now, one of my friends has been working a new job for the past two months and hasn't called me since then.  I only know this because I've spoken to his aunt (whom he lives with.)  When he was looking for a job, he'd call me once a week wanting to hang out or do something, and now, nothing.  Yeah, I know he's busy (Aunt says he leaves around 8 am and often doesn't come back till late in the evening) but is a five minute phone call so hard?

I'm pretty damn sure if he got fired he'd be calling me the next day, wanting company.  Get the feeling I'm the "last resort" friend with him.

My other "friend" guy I just meet a few weeks ago, only seems to come around when he needs a ride somewhere, and, of course, he never has any money to pay (well, he did the very first time, but since then I've given him like four free trips).  Hell, he was knocking on my damn apartment door this morning and I just pretended not to be home (then he called my number twice during the day.)  I'm a bit of softie when it comes to helping people but this is going to far.

I hate it when I reach out to people, trying to make friends, real friends, and I just get users.  

I work nights at a hotel, so I'm alone at my job for the most part, I get off usually during the middle fo the week when nothings going on, and when there is something, it's usually in the town 45 mins away.

I just feel so tired, sometimes you know?  Like I honestly have nothing to look forward to.  It's hard to keep going sometimes.

My all-time favorite song on this subject:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WkztDzpTHKA

No one captures the feeling like Hank . . .

I've had moments of lonliness in my life, but in general I'd say I share Rev's tendency to be perfectly happy on my own. I am married and have two sons and, of course, I NEVER feel lonely anymore.

I turn to this one when I feel lonesome
http://youtu.be/ED5s1-Fe9FA

Here ya go Ghouck.
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I used to be really lonely.  I had 2 roommates (one after the other) after high school, but 90% of the time, they were out with their friends or boyfriends and would stay over at their houses and only come home for a few minutes to get a change of clothes.  I was often home alone wondering why my best friends didn’t want to hang out with me or invite me to go out with them.  I know my one friend is just flaky and didn’t even think of it, but I’m certain the other one just didn’t want to “babysit” me while we were out so she hardly ever took me anywhere.  Sometimes my one roommate would bring her friends home and would introduce me like I was some kind of side show attraction: “This is my friend Colleen, she’s really shy and doesn’t drink or smoke and she’s part Indian - I didn’t think they existed anymore!-, and she collects horror movies, and hentai comics (I didn’t really, I had 2 or 3), plays porn games on the computer and makes the best meat loaf I’ve ever had!”   Which would usually get a wide-eyed “Ohh-Kayy” response from her friend and I’d just blush and go hide in my room.  I think she meant well, but it didn’t help me make friends.

I was so miserable that I’d just go out and take a bus by myself with no real destination just to have something to do and hope I’d meet someone and make a friend, which is pretty dangerous in a big city when you have no sense of direction.  I once took a ride home from a stranger when I got lost.. I was at the point where I didn’t even care if I got robbed or stabbed.  I kind of felt like Eleanor from The Haunting, I just wanted SOMETHING to happen to me to remind me that I wasn’t invisible. 

I was like this for years until I met my husband, but he was lonely a LOT longer than I was before he met me, so I think I got it easy.  I’m definitely not lonely now.   Sometimes I rush home after work just to get 30 minutes to myself before my family gets home… if I had more time to myself I’d be posting here a LOT more often!
I still wish I had more friends though.  I love my husband, but sometimes I want other people’s opinions, or to have people to play games and go places with.  I think there’s still hope for you lonely folks!  If we lived closer, I’d hang out with you!

That description makes you sound like a cool, fascinating person until you got to the "doesn't drink" part.  Oh, and not enough hentai comics.   Freak!  :wink:

I hated being lonely even though I'd felt that most of my life. I used to feel lonely, even though I was dating Sean.  I felt like I could never really connect with him.    When his post traumatic stress kicked in, he withdrew from me and I felt worse.

I realised that the only way to not feel lonely is be a best friend to myself.  I reached out to people even though it went against everything that I'd previously done.  I did things that made me happy, things that I'd always wanted to do but never got around to.  I took myself on "dates".  Museum, art gallery, the movies, wandering through the botanical gardens, coffee and a good book at local cafes.  I changed my diet and started walking for fitness.  I even changed jobs, which I should have done 6 months ago.

And I promised myself I would speak to anyone who spoke to me, anyone who smiled at me, I smiled back and made small talk with them.  Slowly, I reconnected with the world and with myself.  I realised that peace and joy come from within.  I let go of my fear of being alone and I found out that I wasn't really alone.  There is a whole world of people out there and they felt like me but it was up to me to change things for myself and hopefully I could change things for others too.

The best thing is, I reconnected with Sean slowly and now we are better than ever.  So the one thing I wanted most - a happy loving relationship with him - I got it and all because I decided to make things better for myself first.

Everything starts and ends with yourself.  It might sound whacked out, but it's a place to start and who knows where it might lead?

I've always been alone.
The only people I talk to is you lot (Its why it sucks when I'm offline). Sometimes I get lonely but I think thats true of everyone.

When I think of what it would be like to have lots of people and the stress of making sure I can give them all the attention they need, I think it's better for me to be alone. I only want a very few people in my life. Sometimes I even feel guilty here when I don't give a regular enough attention.

Yes, I get lonely. Sometimes horribly so. But I think that I'm good the way I am.

Ok. This is f**ked up. I just caught myself talking into the bathroom mirror. And I was answering myself. I have the radio on. Loud. I was looking out the window. No one is there. I went into the bathromm to see if I look ok. For who? I dont know.  And I look at myself and start talking. "Yer ok,Ronny-this song sucks,huh? Change the station-" that kinda thing. Im losing it.

There's nothing wrong with that.  'Specially since yer drinking.  You know a suck-ass song when you hear one, eh? 

Having lots of people around is OK if you know how to make your own space for yourself which we all need.  But, to be fair, it IS easy to forget about yourself and your own needs when you're trying to be friend and mentor to those around you, so it does happen and there's no shame in it.

Sadly, sometimes it backfires on you, as was my experience.   

Not that what happened was my fault, (or that it failed all the time) but there are some who feel that you should do favors for them all the time, and constantly give them attention, who turn on you in anger the minute you set your limits with them.

That's when you find out who your real friends are. 

You have to steel yourself and be comfortable with setting limits, AND saying no(and for the reaction it may bring out in those who see it differently.) 

So while having lots of people may solve your loneliness problem, it's also a very stressful lesson in social micro management.

RC, I do that every day! I'm always messing around with my hair and seeing if I look okay, when no-one is coming round and I'm not even going out anywhere! I guess it's just the fact that I want to look good to myself, hoping that I can feel a bit better rather than all the self loathing I feel. Seeing as I talk to myself all the time, looking in the mirror is like having a proper conversation, you can make eye contact!