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Title: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 16, 2011, 08:04:07 AM
Please note: Dad passed away on 16 May 2008 ~ three years today ~ but this is not a morbid or sad thread. Don't forget, I'm talking about the guy who dragged me kicking and screaming (because I didn't want to go in) into a horrible sounding place called THE CINEMA  :buggedout: when I was seven and then had to drag me kicking and screaming out because I didn't want to leave when the movie was over.  :teddyr: This is also the guy who always said that his family and friends should have a party on him when he passed and so we did.  :teddyr: Also, he would have fitted in here quite nicely, thank you.  :smile:

Dad, I love you and you are special: you are there with those great stars that you admired and I continue to admire: knowing you, you're probably having a cold beer with Paul Newman and Robert Mitchum right now. I know I was always terrified of you in life ~ still am ~ but my love for you and yours for me was never in question.

Love you and love from my family here. xx :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Flick James on May 16, 2011, 08:17:30 AM
Well, I say a little fear of Dad is a perfectly natural and healthy thing.

I hope it was a great party.

Cheers,
James


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 16, 2011, 08:22:52 AM
Well, I say a little fear of Dad is a perfectly natural and healthy thing.

I hope it was a great party.

Cheers,
James


Thanks, FJ and yes it was a good party back in 2008: about five minutes of sadness and then my aunt wiped her eyes and said: "Enough of this crying sh*t, let's have a drink on him." At that, we looked at each other and then burst out laughing, because we knew then that he was with us as he would have been the first to say that.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Mr. DS on May 16, 2011, 06:32:10 PM
Based mainly on the way his son ended up, I have nothing but respect for the man.  :cheers:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Rev. Powell on May 16, 2011, 08:54:17 PM
I dedicate the beer I'm drinking tonight to Trevor's dad, because I believe he would have wanted it that way.  :cheers: :drink:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: indianasmith on May 16, 2011, 11:07:44 PM
A good Father is one of the best and surest blessings of heaven!
Sounds like you were richly blessed, Trevor.  I know I was.
May he rest in peace, and may you always treasure his memory.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 17, 2011, 12:38:29 AM
Based mainly on the way his son ended up, I have nothing but respect for the man.  :cheers:

Awww....... HUG!!

Ended up? So long as you're talking about my top half and not where my undies are.....  :teddyr:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 17, 2011, 12:42:11 AM
I dedicate the beer I'm drinking tonight to Trevor's dad, because I believe he would have wanted it that way.  :cheers: :drink:

I second that, Rev.  :drink:

When we had Dad's memorial service ~ all five minutes of it ~ my cousin offered me a beer, not a soft drink, and I had it. Her mom saw me drinking it, was very shocked and whispered something to Mom. I asked Mom afterwards what she said and it was apparently "TREVOR'S HAVING A BEER!!!"  :buggedout: :buggedout: Mom's reply was "So what? It's one beer. It won't kill him."  :teddyr: :teddyr:

[Embarrassed cough] I should add that I got a bit lost going home a couple of hours later.....  :lookingup: :lookingup:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 17, 2011, 12:48:10 AM
A good Father is one of the best and surest blessings of heaven!
Sounds like you were richly blessed, Trevor.  I know I was.
May he rest in peace, and may you always treasure his memory.

Aww.... thanks Indy. He was and in many ways still is a looming figure in my life. I know he was with me at Film School last month ~ he was probably with me when I was at the lab and got too close to the developing tank  :buggedout: ~ and I see him in every single film that I see, though what he would have made of the IMO horrible TV remake of High Noon that I saw the other day, I don't know.  :teddyr:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: The Burgomaster on May 17, 2011, 09:03:21 AM
Here's to your dad, Trevor.   :cheers:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 17, 2011, 09:11:00 AM
Here's to your dad, Trevor.   :cheers:

Thanks, Burgo.  :thumbup:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Psycho Circus on May 17, 2011, 02:09:01 PM
Bless you Trevor, your dad did a phenomenal job raising such a fine fella!  :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Allhallowsday on May 17, 2011, 08:13:44 PM
My Dad is gone a long time now, and I never had the kind of relationship with him that you described having with your Dad, Trevor.  One of the great regrets of my life was getting old enough to understand things better and learning to compromise and forgive, but it was too late.  Here's to your good Dad.  We all wish we had one.   :cheers:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 19, 2011, 12:23:29 AM
Bless you Trevor, your dad did a phenomenal job raising such a fine fella!  :smile:

Awww....... HUG  :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on July 06, 2011, 08:23:59 AM
My Dad is gone a long time now, and I never had the kind of relationship with him that you described having with your Dad, Trevor.  One of the great regrets of my life was getting old enough to understand things better and learning to compromise and forgive, but it was too late.  Here's to your good Dad.  We all wish we had one.   :cheers:

Thanks, AHD: why did I only see this now?  :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 16, 2014, 12:56:37 AM
Six years today: still missed, still special and still very much loved. XX  :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Flangepart on May 16, 2014, 05:23:50 PM
My dad died suddenly in 83, of an Aortic aneurysm. One of my fave. memories is watching KING KONG VS. GODZILLA at  the long gone East Side Drive-in. Mom worked nights as a waitress, dad days delivering dry cleaning, and he and I liked the kinda stuff that made mom say 'I just don't get it.'
 :bluesad: :smile: :cheers:












i had the same taste in movies. 


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Bushma on May 16, 2014, 08:19:16 PM
I'll have a glass of wine for your father and for his wonderful son.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: HappyGilmore on May 17, 2014, 09:08:41 PM
Cheers, fella.   :cheers:

From what you've described, it was a...well it was something.  More than I can say on my end, but that's neither here nor there.  He raised a fine fellow.   :thumbup:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: RCMerchant on May 17, 2014, 09:27:40 PM
I usually dont reply to posts like this-because-I post s**t like this-and irealize-what the hell am I gonna say-except-I do know how you feel.
I really do.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 19, 2014, 01:33:24 AM
I'll have a glass of wine for your father and for his wonderful son.

*Hugs*  :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 19, 2014, 01:39:08 AM
Cheers, fella.   :cheers:

From what you've described, it was a...well it was something.  More than I can say on my end, but that's neither here nor there.  He raised a fine fellow.   :thumbup:

Thanks, Brother Happy  :smile:

Dad was a complex person: he grew up rough on the streets of Cape Town and his only escape was the cinema. He once told me that he could sit in a cinema for the whole day and that would motivate him in life. He passed that on to me. He was also in trouble with the law a lot as a young man and was given an ultimatum by the judge who told him that "You can either go to jail or you can go join the army, navy, police or air force: maybe being a soldier, seaman, cop or pilot will get you straight."

Dad went to the army and the rest was history.  :smile: :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 18, 2015, 08:15:52 AM
It was seven years on Saturday 16th May: this Saturday was really, really a hard day to get through alone.  :bluesad:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Flangepart on May 18, 2015, 01:01:19 PM
Know how ya feel Bro.
Lost my dad suddenly in 83. Aortic aneurysm.
U.S. Navy in WW2, married mon in 54, had me in 56...wonder why Godzilla is my fave.?
Got my sense of humor and taste for fun movies from the old man. Saw KK Vs. G at the old Eastside drive in. He worked days, mom nights, and sometimes we hit the cheap movie places.
 


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: indianasmith on May 18, 2015, 05:48:17 PM
A tip of the glass in his honor . . . and yours!   :cheers:


Take joy in the memories, my friend.  To quote LOTR:

"I will not say 'Do not weep,' for not all tears are evil."


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 19, 2015, 02:06:12 AM
Know how ya feel Bro.
Lost my dad suddenly in 83. Aortic aneurysm.
U.S. Navy in WW2, married mon in 54, had me in 56...wonder why Godzilla is my fave.?
Got my sense of humor and taste for fun movies from the old man. Saw KK Vs. G at the old Eastside drive in. He worked days, mom nights, and sometimes we hit the cheap movie places.
 

*Hugs*


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 19, 2015, 02:07:11 AM
A tip of the glass in his honor . . . and yours!   :cheers:


Take joy in the memories, my friend.  To quote LOTR:

"I will not say 'Do not weep,' for not all tears are evil."

Hugs


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 19, 2015, 02:10:36 AM
This is really strange: seven years on and for the first time, I felt crushed on Saturday, dreading the day.

I went here www.brooklynmall.co.za (http://www.brooklynmall.co.za) to go see Furious 7 and I was standing in the foyer of the cinemas there. A wave of sadness washed over me (cliche, I know but it happened) and I left.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 16, 2016, 04:42:16 AM
Eight years gone today: time flies but his influence still lingers. Lots of love, Dad xx  :smile:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 16, 2018, 08:03:21 AM
Gone ten years today: lots of love xx


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 15, 2019, 04:14:16 AM
Tomorrow it'll be eleven years that this big light went out in my life: I promise not to be sad and I think I'll watch a few of my Westerns in his memory.*

*Just not The Hateful 8 because Dad would have asked "WTF is wrong with that coffee?"  :teddyr: :teddyr:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: 316zombie on May 15, 2019, 04:33:04 PM
my memories of my da,  and my FIL, they are among the best! enjoy your memories, my friend!  :cheers:


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 23, 2022, 03:46:55 AM
14 years gone and still ever present in my daily life.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: claws on May 23, 2022, 04:15:14 AM
It's nice to keep the memory alive as long as it doesn't hurt all the time. My dad passed away 5 1/2 years ago. My grieving phase lasted a few years but time will heal the pain.
When the family gets together we sometimes reminisce about dad and the 'good ole days.' It is unavoidable not to get wet eyes, but that is a natural and healthy reaction.
I like to think the loved ones who passed away are in a better place now. That thought helps.


Title: Re: A special thread for my Dad
Post by: Trevor on May 23, 2022, 04:36:49 AM
It's nice to keep the memory alive as long as it doesn't hurt all the time. My dad passed away 5 1/2 years ago. My grieving phase lasted a few years but time will heal the pain.
When the family gets together we sometimes reminisce about dad and the 'good ole days.' It is unavoidable not to get wet eyes, but that is a natural and healthy reaction.
I like to think the loved ones who passed away are in a better place now. That thought helps.

Sending hugs to you for your Dad: I think my Dad would be quite happy to know what I'm planning in order to take care of Mom.