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Title: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 14, 2011, 06:16:47 PM
So, some more bad news. About two weeks ago, while handling stuff with my mom's car accident, I recieved news of a friend's death.

Just found out a close friend of twenty years was needlessly gunned down to death this morning. This is around the fifth person I've known to pass this year.



Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 14, 2011, 06:19:26 PM
Plus, lost so many hours at work I'm below water financially. Working just to stay in debt.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: ulthar on December 14, 2011, 11:01:08 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss.

We all seem to have years like that...you think the 'badness' will never end.  Here's to hoping you have a better year in 2012.

You will remain in my thoughts and prayers, and I wish you may find some peace.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Psycho Circus on December 15, 2011, 08:20:00 AM
Yeah, just try and keep your chin up Happy and I hope 2012 is a much better year for you.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Flangepart on December 15, 2011, 09:31:53 AM
My thoughts for you, guy. Stay strong for those who know you.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Cthulhu on December 15, 2011, 03:56:43 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. But you just got to keep going. Things sure do suck now, but you'll get over them in time.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: JaseSF on December 15, 2011, 04:48:42 PM
Sometimes life seems to like to kick us while we're down it's true but the others are right, you have to try and be strong for yourself and others and hope for better days ahead.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: The Gravekeeper on December 15, 2011, 07:42:30 PM
All you can do is just hang in there and look after yourself and the people you care about. Don't forget that you have friends here, though; we're here for you if you need us. Things will get better if you don't give up.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: bob on December 15, 2011, 11:26:19 PM
Hang in there man, may 2012 be much better for you.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Couchtr26 on December 15, 2011, 11:54:16 PM
Here's to hoping for a better 2012.

I'm sorry to hear about another loss.  It seems that this one is even more needless.  I'm sorry to hear and wishing you the best in dealing with it and having strength to get through.  I'm also sorry to hear of so many this year.

We all have bad times.  Things will come around, it is sadly that period before when we seem to see things bleakly that is unfortunate.  However, it tends to strengthen our resolve and we work to get to that position we need to be in that much harder.  You will be there, time is the only variable.  Hopefully, it will be shorter then expected.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 16, 2011, 10:11:50 AM
Everyone has bad times, and I agree with that statement.

I think the lowest moment was my dad (who abandoned me when I was 3 years old), informing me that my grandfather had died, and that I wasn't 'allowed' to be there.  Then having the gall to see if he could borrow a few bucks.

Past few months have been tough.  I'm not rich, but don't need a lot of possesions.  I get by with what I have: a bedroom, a tv and radio and a playstation.

However, the recent deaths throughout the year...can't do it.  Looking like a potential relapse is on the way.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: tracy on December 16, 2011, 01:53:12 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you,honey.... :wink:


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: ulthar on December 16, 2011, 02:17:05 PM

However, the recent deaths throughout the year...can't do it.  Looking like a potential relapse is on the way.


You CAN do it.  A relapse is not necessary.  To be blunt...that's a choice you make.  No outside force is making you walk that path.

Things suck right now, yes.  These are the times that test our character, that test who we choose to be.

You have suffered great loss; any ONE of those things would test any of us, and you have it heaped in doses.  But, as stated above, you are NOT alone and you DO have support.  You have shoulders to lean on and friends who care....not just for as you as a faceless avatar on a movie forum, but as a person we've gotten to know over the years.

This is your personal challenge...to show yourself that you CAN cope with TREMENDOUS loss, tremendous pressure...without relapsing.  You DO have the inner strength to face these times...on your own courage alone.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Rev. Powell on December 16, 2011, 03:02:30 PM

However, the recent deaths throughout the year...can't do it.  Looking like a potential relapse is on the way.


You CAN do it.  A relapse is not necessary.  To be blunt...that's a choice you make.  No outside force is making you walk that path.

Things suck right now, yes.  These are the times that test our character, that test who we choose to be.

You have suffered great loss; any ONE of those things would test any of us, and you have it heaped in doses.  But, as stated above, you are NOT alone and you DO have support.  You have shoulders to lean on and friends who care....not just for as you as a faceless avatar on a movie forum, but as a person we've gotten to know over the years.

This is your personal challenge...to show yourself that you CAN cope with TREMENDOUS loss, tremendous pressure...without relapsing.  You DO have the inner strength to face these times...on your own courage alone.


I can't improve on Ulthar's advice, but you should read this twice.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Flick James on December 16, 2011, 03:12:25 PM
You know, I was searching for words of encouragement that wouldn't come across as hokey. I think ulthar has done it. I agree with Rev, read it again.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 16, 2011, 09:09:49 PM
Appreciate the words, all.

I've fallen off the wagon, hard, and kept going.

I say sobriety :P


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 17, 2011, 09:05:22 AM
Past couple of months were hard, and been thinking of seeing a specialist to cope. Had thoughts of a potential suicide, and death in general. Not so much my own, but the idea of it.

Bought a case of beer and some 'stuff'. Not quite sure what's happened between 8:45 last night and 9:00 today.

I hate this.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: RCMerchant on December 17, 2011, 09:26:53 AM
Every year sucks.
Or it dont.
It's state of mind.
I gave up-in 2008-when my wife died.
But I didnt give up.
Im still here.
You can always do it.
You ARE stronger than you thought.
You hate-HATE- being alive.
But-dont be a p***y.
LIVE.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 17, 2011, 10:08:26 AM
RC- don't ever change.

Always hearing from you.

I may see a doctor.  Want to, at least.  Just not sure if I can pay for it. 

Only coming here makes me a tiny bit happy.  People here have been nice.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: zombie no.one on December 17, 2011, 01:33:37 PM
sorry to hear that,best wishes happy  :thumbup: suicide's not worth it because then you'll never know if you would've turned it around, if you see what I mean


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 18, 2011, 08:05:35 AM
Things've gotten worse.  I dunno.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AvJKVKglIRs


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: RCMerchant on December 18, 2011, 09:40:51 AM
Life is like a Bad Movie-it sucks-but dammit-gotta see how it ends.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Rev. Powell on December 18, 2011, 12:36:31 PM

I may see a doctor.  Want to, at least.  Just not sure if I can pay for it. 



Do.  Don't worry about $, it's worth any price.  There is someone out there who will accept a reduced rate to see patients who can't afford to pay---it happens all the time.  Here's a page with a few options for addiction services: http://www.choosehelp.com/pennsylvania/free-or-affordable-drug-alcohol-rehabs.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: RCMerchant on December 18, 2011, 06:13:24 PM
Hang on,man. Ill personally find yer dead ass and kick you. So be good,brother.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: JaseSF on December 18, 2011, 10:44:39 PM
For all the crap you're dealing with now, life still may well hold an awful lot of sweetness ahead for you. That's why one should never, ever quit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oh7kGuBrm2I


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 18, 2011, 11:12:05 PM
Kinda feels like this sometimes:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKNKVzVAqUk


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: HappyGilmore on December 19, 2011, 10:53:45 AM

I may see a doctor.  Want to, at least.  Just not sure if I can pay for it. 



Do.  Don't worry about $, it's worth any price.  There is someone out there who will accept a reduced rate to see patients who can't afford to pay---it happens all the time.  Here's a page with a few options for addiction services: [url]http://www.choosehelp.com/pennsylvania/free-or-affordable-drug-alcohol-rehabs.[/url]

This is something I have to look into.  Although, in about a half hour, I'm leaving for a funeral.  Probably not gonna handle it well.


Title: Re: This year blows
Post by: Hammock Rider on December 19, 2011, 01:13:40 PM
I've been there too. Lost jobs, family, friends, had heart surgery, massive debt and all kinds of fun stuff. Stick it out. Get yourself one handhold, then another, then another. Eventually you'll be back to somewhere you want to be. 

  Take the Rev's advice and seek professional help. There's nothing wrong with it. A ton of people on this forum have, including me and I think it's done me good. Just find someone you can work with and take it from there.

  I'm sure it's for you to see now but therre is far to much good stuff going on in life for you to throw it all away because of how you feel now.

  There is a popular phrase "Illegitimi non carborundum" which means " Don't let the B@$tards grind you down. It originated with the military in WW@ and it's good advice. It's also a song by the Toasters.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSo-_TavE1U