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I found out this morning that my mother has inoperable, stage 4 cancer in her colon, lungs, liver, and spine.
At her age (86), chemo is not recommended (not that she'd do it if it was).
She'll be going on hospice care, and the doctor said 3 - 6 months is a fair guess as to how long she'll be with us.
I'm still reeling . . .

 :bluesad:

I know, Indy.  I been there.Tara Sue died of cancer. I almost killed myself.
 Be strong, my friend.
It was the most horrible thing. I doubted my own worth in this world. If 'they' could take her.
Yet there was no "They". All I could say is "WHY"?
I still have no answer. :bluesad: And I never will.
But unlike me-you have Faith-so hold on to that.

So sorry to hear this Indy.

Sending warm hugs to you Indy.  :bluesad:

Thanks so much, my friends.
Mom is taking this better than we are.  After the oncologist left yesterday, she looked straight at me and said:
"If this is my road to heaven, I'm taking it - and don't you dare question God!"
What could I say but "Yes, Ma'am!"?

When I left last night she was sitting up in bed, eating chocolates and laughing.
The doctor says this form of cancer doesn't cause a great deal of pain.
I guess that's the best we can hope for at this point.

I'm sorry...  :bluesad:

I haven't prayed in a long time but I will pray for you and your family tonight.

Other than sending love and strength there isn't much more I can do but I'm always around if you need someone one to speak to, Alex always knows how to find me.

At this point just take every day you have with her as the blessing that it is.

 

It's okay.  She has had a good long life.  She is fortunate to have you as a son.  Smart sensible lady.  God bless her. 

Thank you so much, my friend.

Sorry to hear that. :bluesad:

Very sorry to hear.  Please be strong!

Oh, no. Stay strong, Indy. I'm praying for you and your mom.

I am really sorry to hear this Indy.  I wish you all the best.

How is your Mom doing?  I thought of her today.  

I found out Sunday night that a lady I love is very ill, in the lungs, I saw her yesterday.  We were able to tell each other we love each other.  I've known her most of my life, distantly, and only really befriended her after my sister in law (Gayle) died and Karen (her cousin) was my rock.  

Thanks for asking.
She has moved in with my brother and is living comfortably there; I drive over to see her every Friday.
So far, she's experienced no pain and hospice workers are coming in every day to attend to her needs while my brother is at work.  She is getting a bit weaker, but outwardly she shows no sign of the cancer that is killing her.
I'm glad - VERY glad - that she's not hurting.  But it's kind of surreal that there is simply no outward sign that she is sick.

Sending you and your family warm hugs, Indy.

Sad to hear. But she has had a good long life and raised a loving son.

We all lose our parents sometime. With my parents in their 70s, my time is coming soon. I think about it a lot. But I've been extremely fortunate to have them around this long.

Me too: lost Dad in 2008 and if it weren't for all of you (the support you gave) and my special niece coming into the world in July 2008, I wouldn't be here anymore and by 'here', I mean on this earth.

Today the Estate Sale folks cleaned out Mom's apartment.  She'd gotten all the stuff she needed for her room at my brother's house, and all four of us had gone through and gotten the things we wanted to remember her by.  Now the rest is packed up and gone, to be sold to total strangers.
It was an odd feeling, turning in my key to her place to the apartment manager.