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Post Edited (10-09-05 14:23)

Who was it if you don't mind me asking?



Post Edited (10-10-05 08:55)

I have been single for awhile and really haven't been tempted by the internet to go for women. I usually don't care about getting women. I had a chance encounter at CBGB as I made a thread about it. But your right Chopper I do postive things like going to college.

The thing that makes me mad is when people want to set you up or complain that you don't have a girlfriend. I don't care if I meet a girl if I do I do. Really no ones business anyway.

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Most of all I hate dancing then work, exercise, people,stupid people

Then there is also the friendship version of this. Which has happened to me. Even in regular life. I was friends with this girl in HS and it turns out she told me a bunch of lies and pretended to be other people when I would try to call her. And then at school she would act like nothing had happened. I felt like we were sisters and that she was my bestfriend. But really her and her brother just liked to make fun of me behind my back. This went on for over a year too.



Post Edited (10-06-05 21:37)

You're a girl LH-C?
I always assumed you were a guy here on this board.

You always do that Ash. Man, I just assumed you were a cat.

this is true Rich, i've learned it's better to concentrate on your goals first and foremost over getting "laid" or finding a woman. this is of course a hard thing for a man to do in our country where we're constantly brainwashed and over saturated with sex and sexual images. i.e. EVERY tv show practically, the net, advertising.

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Chopper I know exactly what you mean! Here I am I'm nearly 30 (though most people think I'm around 20), a straight woman, and very single (and not looking for a boyfriend). And I'm told constantly that I need to be married and have kids. This is the freaking 21st Century, and I'll live my life the way I want to.

Sorry if this seems insensitive Chopper, but two questions come to mind after reading this.

1) Do you know how old she actually is?

2) Do you know if she is married?

rich andrini wrote:

> I usually don't care about getting women.


Thank you for the quote Rich.

I will use it well. (http://www.websmileys.com/sm/evil/676.gif)

Menard wrote:

> rich andrini wrote:
>
> > I usually don't care about getting women.
>
>
> Thank you for the quote Rich.
>
> I will use it well.
> (http://www.websmileys.com/sm/evil/676.gif)
>

Your welcome....(http://www.smileys.ws/sm/angry/00000056.gif)

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Most of all I hate dancing then work, exercise, people,stupid people



Post Edited (10-06-05 23:23)

Well the internet can be a tricky thing, and we all know that people were tricky to begin with.  

Internet relationships are hard, some work, some don't.  A friend of mine had a 'relationship' online and on the phone with a girl who was interstate for about a year until he flew over for two weeks, in which they had broken up by the time the first week ended, which was a shame.

At the same time, a close family friend of ours is now living in England, engaged to a man she met online, though she's 19 and he's 35 [thus breaking out a whole new bag of problems for her parents] but she seems happy and that's really what counts isn't it?

There's no question these things are hard, but without trying, nothing will ever happen, so you have to take the good with the bad.  Sometimes it works, others it doesn't.

Also, I wonder if this so far unknown person still frequents this site, if so, on reading this thread things could be a little odd.  I actually had written a whole lot more on this, but I reconsidered with that point in mind.

Hope everything is ok and the situation will at least resolve itself for better or worse.  Like many on this site have said in the past, we're all here to help lend a hand or a word of advice to those who need it.

Also, many women misrepresent themselves online.
Especially on Yahoo, which now lets you make a custom avatar for yourself.
Yahoo Avatars (http://avatars.yahoo.com/)

A lot of girls make outrageously false avatars for themselves.
One example is a girl who lives in a nearby town.  One of my friends used to date her years ago.
This girl is pushing probably 250 lbs. but her avatar is that of a beautiful thin hottie.
On her Yahoo Personals ad, she posts pics of herself from years ago when she was very thin and actually not bad looking.  No recent photos of her are there to look at.
  She also leaves out the fact that she has two kids from two different guys.
I wonder how many guys have been duped by her.

I've also had a female contact me on Yahoo Personals and she described herself as "voluptuous".
I finally saw a few pics of what she really looked like and she had to be between 200-300 lbs.  No thanks!
Some guys might like big women...not me.

So yes, you gotta be careful.



Post Edited (10-07-05 05:48)

"If Brad Pitt & Jennifer Aniston couldn't make it, what chance do the rest of us have?"

My mom always tells me I really need a woman in my life. Every few months, the landlady comes around with the bug sprayers & sees how crappy my appartment is, and she tells me that I really need a woman in my life. Then she calls my mom & tells my mom how crappy my appartment is, and they both end up agreeing that I really need a woman in my life. The cashier at the local supermarket sees me buying three packs of hot dogs & sliced swiss every week, and she always tells me that I really need to find me a woman.

"First love is kind of like your first time on skis; You fall down a lot, and it doesn't last long." - Edie Brickell

The closest thing I ever had to a girlfriend (if you can call it that) was this fat broad that used to call me up every time she needed a ride. That was about fifteen years ago. I wore out two motorbikes being her taxi service. Then in '93 I had to move to another state. She never did return any of my phone calls or respond to any of my letters. I even went so far as to send her a S.A.S.E. with a breif questionair. Nada.

"All I can say is, LOVE STINKS!" - The J. Giels Band

Of course I kept trying & getting nowhere, but 'round about '95 things got way worse. It seems every time I hit the town, I kept getting hit on by fags. It kept on like that, so round about '98 I just gave up & bought myself some magazines.

"If you're a shy, lonely teen or young adult, you can't fly like an eagle if you're busy runnin' your mouth with a bunch of phony phone sex turkeys. If their so swingin', what are they doin' talkin' to YOU on a Friday or Saturday night?" - Webb Wilder, the idol of idle youth and burnin' god of love

There are occasions that I'll find myself lamenting bachelorhood at thi- well, at my age, and then I'll get some kind of reminder that things could always be worse. Usually, it's this guy at work who's currently on wife #6 who always has some crazy story about wives 3 & 5. But the thing that's left the biggest impression on me so far, was finding a copy of Santa Claus (1959) at the DollarTree last year.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0053241/
After sitting through five hours (actually ten minutes that feels like five hours) of Santa's elementry school play from Hell, I now have a greater understanding of why some of my some of my old friends started getting kinda crabby after they got married & had kids.

"A rose in a cow pasture is still a rose, just watch your step"

By now, you're probably thinking "I'm glad I'm not THIS loser", and in that regard, I hope you find it somewhat uplifting, but at this point in my life I like to think that I've got it made; Nobody to bug me about my favorite moth eaten shirt, nobody hogging the remote, nobody to bug me about what I eat, when I eat it or in which room I eat it, nobody to... nobody to... Eh, who am I kiddin'.
BAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

haha, it's all good Lilcerberus. you should write a screenplay about your experiences.

those are not insensitive questions Menard, i see them as being sensible really. to be honest i have no way of knowing the answers to both of those questions, and probably never will.

thank you Dean, and also I'd like to thank everyone else who has responded to this so far and offered their input.

The most important thing is to be true to yourself. I remember back in 1980 I was a single guy in the DFW area and joined a dating service where this lady set you up women who were members.

Most of them were one time things with no chemistry. There was one that was only in it for the sex and made it plain I wasn't the only guy she was sleeping with, In fact we were in the middle of it one time and she answered the phone and started talking to this other guy while I was on top of her! Talk about a put down! You know I've actually never told that to anyone.

 I had another one that wanted to marry me, but she didn't like anything about me. She told me that I should go into the antique business with her Dad because "that computer stuff is never going to go anywhere".  She was looking for a Daddy for her three year old.

I did end up with one friend out of the deal, and that was because she finally admitted to going out with me just to have something to do. It pays to be honest about your motives.


Anyway, I've said too much. The thing to do is watch out for yourself, because there are a lot of strange people out there and you can get yourself into to some real messes if you're not careful.

lilcerberus,

You practically retold the story of my life. I always figured I'd never find any woman who'd put up with me. Heck, I was over thirty when I finally did. I never dated at all in high school, had a couple of dates in college, but nothing that went anywhere (I found out awhile after I graduated that the school's Homecoming Queen wanted to go out with me. The Homecoming Queen! Too bad I wasn't particularly attracted to her; she wasn't all that bright). I had a few women who used me, abused me, hung me out to dry. As a result, I pretty much gave up. A friend set me up with this girl, all the while telling me she wasn't trying to set us up and telling her she was. It worked out between us, and we're married now.

I'm not trying to give anybody the old "never give up hope" speech OR the "you'll find love when you least expect it" speech (I know I got both speeches often enough). I would've been fine if my wife and I'd never met, but I'm glad we did. Women particlarly seem to think that men can't live without a woman; I think it's a control issue (women like to have a project man to work on). Men think women can't live without a man as well (Hey! who could live without the great lovin' only I can supply?)

Anyway, like trek_geezer says, be true to yourself. Romantic relationships aren't all there is to life, and sex certainly isn't all there is. If it happens, great. If it doesn't, don't get all desperate and clingy because of it (a sure turn-off).

I got hooked up with my wife because of stupid scheme I cooked up to make the girl I was dating jealous. It was the best goof up I ever made in my life, we got married less than five months after we started dating and are still going strong 24 years later.

The thing with her is that she is the first person I ever went out with that I could completely be my big goofy-ass self with.

That's another key to a happy relationship, knowing that you can be yourself and not have to act like something you're not.

Wow...you guys are all dorks. I'm surrounded by dorks on this board.

Just screwing with ya. I'm a dork too and went through my fair share but the difference between me and you guys is that I'm not willing to lay my story out for everyone. Kudos to you guys that are brave enough or confident enough in yourselves to do so. Seriously, I'm not joking this time.

I even went as far to buy a 1,000 plane ticket to visit her, in which she changed her mind. In retrospect I know this was probably a dumb thing, and not worth it.

'She' was really a guy...

odinn7 wrote:

> I'm a dork too

And I always thought you were the 7th incarnation of a Norse god.  Now I am depressed...

> I'm a dork too

And I always thought you were the 7th incarnation of a Norse god. Now I am depressed...

Well, doesn't "Dork" sound like a norse god name?

Sorry to let you down like that.

After reading everyone's horror stories, all I can say is I'm glad I got a dog.

I did one internet relationship when I was in college, and MUDding heavily.  I, um, dated someone on the MUD I was playing.  Do I need to even say anything else to finish the story?  I thought not.

But really, that relationship was just the symptom of where I was in life, at that time.  I was just adrift, and that relationship is what I thought I wanted then.  

I wouldn't go so far as to say "Internet relationships never work," or to say "there IS no such thing as a long-distance relationship," but I would go really close to saying each of those things, with elaborate qualifiers.  I think that people get lonely and Do Stupid s**t, basically... at least, that's what history taught me personally.  But sometimes it works out!  Kind of like people sometimes survive terminal velocity falls...

Fearless Freep wrote:

> And I always thought you were the 7th incarnation of a Norse
> god. Now I am depressed...[/i]
>
> Well, doesn't "Dork" sound like a norse god name?

LOL.  Good one.

Did I mention that the givin' up part came after three straight years of being approached "in that way" by individuals of the same gender as myself?

Seriously, I went through a good four or five years where I was afraid to leave the house.

"Tis better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all"

Most of the divorced guys I meet are pretty messed up.
And my buddy at work; He's cool, but he's not the best example of perseverance.



Post Edited (10-07-05 16:56)

Derf wrote:

). I had a few women who used
> me, abused me, hung me out to dry. As a result, I pretty much
> gave up.


Did she hang you upside down by your ankles in one of those sex contraptions and hook battery cables to your nipples & balls?

You'll be happy to know that I was not let down.

The incarnation of a god never once crossed my mind. (http://www.smileys.ws/sm/action/00000042.gif)

In response to everyone talking about their dating experiences with women, raj wrote:


> After reading everyone's horror stories, all I can say is I'm glad I got a dog.


Do I really need to add to that? (http://www.websmileys.com/sm/evil/676.gif)

Menard wrote:

> In response to everyone talking about their dating experiences
> with women, raj wrote:
>
>
> > After reading everyone's horror stories, all I can say is I'm
> glad I got a dog.
>
>
> Do I really need to add to that?
> (http://www.websmileys.com/sm/evil/676.gif)
>

Yeah, I was going to take that one on too but I felt it was just too obvious and perhaps a little too mean spirited so I stayed away.

BTW, thanks for the insult in the previous post. Glad to know you're still around to stir the crap. Take care of yourself you f*#king f*#ker.
(http://www.smileys.ws/sm/action/00000042.gif)

odinn7 wrote:
 
> Glad to know you're still around to stir the crap. Take care of yourself you f*#king f*#ker.  (http://www.smileys.ws/sm/action/00000042.gif)


(http://www.smileys.ws/sm/laughing/00000016.gif)(http://www.smileys.ws/sm/grinning/00000003.gif)

ash - voluptuous means fat..lol  But who's gotta pick a fat avatar and say "btw, got two kids from different dads...chat with me!". Alot of people get online to get away from judgements, people see who we really are in real life and online for some people they can just drop all the baggage and have people just get to know their personality. There's freedom in that.

Chopper - she may have been married (or with someone) or just thought there would be alot of "expectations" with a 1 grand plane ticket. I know a few girls who are married or in a relationship who chat online, i don't know how deep they go in chat but it's probably to fulfill the void they may have in their real life. Some people on the net simply never want to break the barrier of actually meeting these people, there's a great feeling in anonnymity and getting to know someone for everything but the physical and all that entails.

I'm sure online relationships work for some who are specifically seeking that, but i know a few people who got together and it is not paradise.



Post Edited (10-09-05 20:36)

Susan wrote:

Alot of people get online to get away from
> judgements, people see who we really are in real life and
> online for some people they can just drop all the baggage and
> have people just get to know their personality. There's freedom
> in that.
 

That may be true for some like the people you mentioned who just want to chat online...and I can also understand the avatar thing.  Creating an outrageously false avatar may be how they wished they looked.

But I draw the line when it comes to Personals ads where these people are actually looking to possibly meet another person.
When women misrepresent themselves in Personals ads, they fall into Chopper's "Evil Women On the Net" category.  They are liars.  And nobody I'd want to meet anyway.



Post Edited (10-08-05 09:58)

Personals are firmly in caveat emptor land.  If you *actually* read a personal with the intent to meet someone that way, you deserve whatever you get.

ashthecat wrote :
"Who was it if you don't mind me asking?" i dont mind : me
menard wrote:
1) Do you know how old she actually is? im 29
2) Do you know if she is married? no, im not married.
Nothing else to say to you chopper, it doesnt worth it.

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Ah ok.....I remember her now.

And she was watching.
Good call.

Let's not forget the evil women in 70's music...

ELO:  Evil Woman

You made a fool of me, but them broken dreams have got to end.

Hey woman, you got the blues, cos' you ain't got no one else to use.
There's an open road that leads nowhere, so just make some miles
between here and there.
There's a hole in my head where the rain comes in,
You took my body and played to win,
Ha Ha woman it's a crying shame,
But you ain't got nobody else to blame.

CHORUS
E-evil Woman, E-evil Woman, E-evil Woman, Evil Woman

Rolled in from another town,
Hit some gold too hot to settle down,
But a fool and his money soon go separate ways,
And you found a fool lyin' in a daze,
Ha Ha woman what you gonna do,
You destroyed all the virtues that the Lord gave you,
It's so good that you're feeling pain,
But you better get your face on board the very next train.

CHORUS

CHORUS again

Evil woman how you done me wrong,
But now you're tryin' to wail a different song,
Ha Ha funny how you broke me up, you made the wine now you drink the cup,
I came runnin' every time you cried,
Thought I saw love smilin' in your eyes,
Ha Ha very nice to know, that you ain't got no place left to go.

CHORUS:REPEAT

I seem to have an annoying habit of attracting female cyber stalkers.  I live with my fiance and we usually post on the same boards and it is known that we are a couple.  I used to chat with some of the other members on MSN (something I rarely do now because of several scary encounters).

I am male and sympathetic and I listen.

BIG MISTAKE

I had one woman prepared to drive 1200 miles to sell me her second car for one dollar.  I was supposed to drive her home., then drive back across the border into Canada with a car I had just bought in the USA.  She was in an abusive relationship and I had advised her to get out of it, because nobody deserved to be treated that way.  Because I had attempted to boost her self esteem, she decided i was the next best thing since Christ.  She even went as far as asking my fiance how stable our relationship was.

I had another that was (supposedly) about to commit suicide.  I spent an hour trying to tell her that I wasn't qualified to deal with her problem and that she needed to call a suicide prevention hotline.  I did the same thing a week later.  And a week later.  Finally I told her that she was stressing me out too much and blocked her.  I later heard that she had moved on to another site and was pulling the same trick with somebody new.

I had a young woman from California decide that I was such a nice guy she wanted to become a Canadian so we could meet.  She wanted to live on my couch until she was able to find a job.  It's a bullet I've been dodging for over a year.  I think she's given up on the idea but I'm not sure.

I have also met a wonderful friend who lives in Mexico.  She's been up to visit and we are planning a trip down to Mexico to visit her.

Moral?  Be very careful and never believe anything you can't verify.  There are nice people out there who are honest and legitimate but there are just enough a***oles that you need to be careful.  The old adage is still true.

IF IT SEEMS TO GOOD TO BE TRUE, IT PROBABLY IS.

With that particular pattern you might, no disrespect intended, want to reexamine what you mean about yourself when you say "sympathetic and I listen."

:P

How did the conversation with the American woman get to where she was even *thinking* that her drive up to you would be okay?  Were you... well, to be honest, were you giving her signals of some sort, that this weird sort of insta-connection was okay with you?

If I have misapprehended the story, sorry about that.

The truth of the matter is that there's listening, and then there's being sucked in by people.    After enough weird experiences on the net in college, I just decided not to sink so much time into so many boards and games, b/c I realized I could spend the energy better on actual flesh and blood FTF time...

ASHTHECAT wrote:


>
> Did she hang you upside down by your ankles in one of those sex
> contraptions and hook battery cables to your nipples & balls?

Nah, this just involved a ball gag, honey, and an ant hill. None of that kinky stuff.

And a pommel horse.

And The Gimp.

Well color me embarrassed.  That went completely by me when I typed it.  I'm so ashamed, I must be slipping.

Advice for guys? sure... ahem...

You'll never be what she wants you to be. Never. Be yourself and at least you'll be happy with you.

Nothing stops. You keep searching, think you find it, learn you were mistaken. You go back to searching...

Truth is, they view us the way they say we view them. Where do you think that perception came from?

Going gay is a better choice; you can hang out with the guys all day, and nobody makes you put the seat down.

Do you really want to deal with all the baggage she's picked up from all her previous relationships? How about the VD? How about somebody else's kids? How about...

She knew right from the beginning that I was happily attached.  The car idea came up when I mentioned that I had totalled my Tempo and was looking for another car.  She said she had one(and I can't even remember the car type) , I made a comment about it being a nice car and she started trying to talk me into buying it so she could deliver it.

As far as looking at my 'sympathetic and I listen' side, it has always been there.  I even have this annoying habit of picking total psychos to chat with in real life.  It's astonishing how often I will pick the basket case out of a crowd....