Virginity

[JaseSF]

Aside from some mild experimentation as a teen, I didn't really lose mine until I was in my 30s either.

[WildHoosier09]

mine disapeared in college. Kept my virginity through highschool but not due to any lack of trying (well, that is if you use a very narrow definition of sex. In this case Bill Clinton's definition of sex. Yes, I made a Clinton joke, Yes, I'm aware it is 2011, yes I am that anachronistic, and yes, you may have to wikipedia up "anachronistic" to find out what it means) but the allure of the simple dorm room, the roommate out for the weekend, the beautiful college girl and the fact that at the time it didn't seem like we would survive to see the end of 2002 as Al Quaeda was only moments away from killing us all with posionous gas/anthrax/nuke won out and she fell for the old "looks like we're all going to die, might as well die happy" line.  Afterwards however I was very scared she would get pregnant and wished I hadn't been with her that way.

In hindsight I was not prepared even at college age and no way is a highschooler prepared. Primarily because sex can always potentially lead to children you should only get involved with it if you're prepared to deal with that.

By the way, that beautiful college girl who took my virginity (and I mutually took hers) is now my wife and we've only ever been with eachother and as those familiar with my postings have seen we've had 2 kids now.  We still enjoy a good national/international disaster though. I guess since its how we met that there's something about a broadcaster screaming on the TV "Oh the humanity, the cloudfront of evil is sweeping across the planet we're all going to die" gets us in the mood.

[Doggett]

18 when I was in college.

 

Ah, I remember it well...

[Vik]

17. It was pretty awkward.

[The Burgomaster]

The first time I had sex, I was 11 years old.  The first time I had sex with another person, I was 16.

[Flick James]

Flick, as always, makes a good point.  My Great-great-grandmother married at 16 to a 30 year old, a union what would have landed him in jail today.  We do mature more slowly today, even though our old biological clocks do their best to make us think we'll explode if we don't lose it at 16.  But we are also living longer.  In the 1840's, when my g-g-g's got married, the average life expectancy for men and women was well under 50 (Great-great grandad Jim beat that too, living to be in his 90's and surviving the Texas Revolution, the Mexican War, and the Civil War intact!).  But that meant it was all the more important to have children at a younger age.  Now we try to give our offspring an actual childhood to grow up in, but their bodies are sending a different message!

I appreciate all the honesty on this thread!

I don't think you took my post as any form of disrespect, as you usually don't, but, in referring to AHD's post, I respect your decision as well. I was in no itching hurry to lose mine either. I was 19, and just didn't feel comfortable with it before that, even though my high school was pretty much Fast Times at Ridgemont High. As you know, I was also in the Navy, and my biggest problem was all the cheating I saw. I never cheated no matter how long I was separated from my wife, yet I would see adultery happening all around me, sometimes by people who claimed to be highly moral. The worst I ever did was go to a strip club in Crete once.

My point is not that kids shouldn't be encouraged to wait, as they certainly should. My point was that it cannot be overlooked that the combination of nature and social norms is not the same as it was for us, and I would venture to say it may be more difficult for  kids to make the right choices. But I don't know that for sure.

[indianasmith]

Well said, as always.  And not much there I can disagree with, to be honest.  It just seems that teen promiscuity and pregnancy are about the surest paths to a life below the poverty line there is, with the possible exception of drug addiction.  Life can be so much better if we just learn to master our passions rather than be mastered by them . . .

BTW, Flick, I always enjoy our discussions.  Especially when we disagree!

[ghouck]

The first time I had sex, I was 11 years old.  The first time I had sex with another person, I was 16.

And the family dog was never the same. 

J/K. I'm about the same as you, lost the big V when I was 16.

To be honest, I'm glad I did. The girl I was with, I probably would have married but it didn't work largely because we weren't really compatible in the sex department. We were together for a year or so after I graduated highschool, but in the end it didn't work. Had we waited, we likely would have married before we figured out that it wasn't going to work.

[RCMerchant]

I was 23.

[Mr. DS]

Early 20s, I didn't get much action in high school of any female variety.  Meh, its ok...probably would have been awful at it anyhow at that age. 

[Jack]

Early 20s, I didn't get much action in high school of any female variety.  Meh, its ok...probably would have been awful at it anyhow at that age. 

LOL, same here.  The habit I had of chasing after girls who - say it with me now - "Just want to be friends" kind of eliminated any chance of that.  [sarcasm]Oh but I had some wonderful friendships[/sarcasm]

[Mr. DS]

Early 20s, I didn't get much action in high school of any female variety.  Meh, its ok...probably would have been awful at it anyhow at that age. 

LOL, same here.  The habit I had of chasing after girls who - say it with me now - "Just want to be friends" kind of eliminated any chance of that.  [sarcasm]Oh but I had some wonderful friendships[/sarcasm]

Yep, or they just couldn't handle our manliness.  Shame for them, it would have been the best two minutes of their lives.

[claws]

I was 15 and we didn't use any kind of protection. So stupid but thank god no consequences either.

[Rev. Powell]

Early 20s, I didn't get much action in high school of any female variety.  Meh, its ok...probably would have been awful at it anyhow at that age. 

LOL, same here.  The habit I had of chasing after girls who - say it with me now - "Just want to be friends" kind of eliminated any chance of that.  [sarcasm]Oh but I had some wonderful friendships[/sarcasm]

Yep, or they just couldn't handle our manliness.  Shame for them, it would have been the best two minutes of their lives.

Two minutes? Quit your bragging!

[Doggett]

Early 20s, I didn't get much action in high school of any female variety.  Meh, its ok...probably would have been awful at it anyhow at that age. 

LOL, same here.  The habit I had of chasing after girls who - say it with me now - "Just want to be friends" kind of eliminated any chance of that.  [sarcasm]Oh but I had some wonderful friendships[/sarcasm]

Yep, or they just couldn't handle our manliness.  Shame for them, it would have been the best two minutes of their lives.

Two minutes? Quit your bragging!

I'm a 50 second man myself.