I know quite a few people who are uncomfortable doing things alone. However, I don't mind (and I often enjoy) doing things like going to movies, sports bars, and taking long drives by myself. It gives me a chance to relax and "do my own thing" without needing to be diplomatic about it or going through one of those endless "what do you want to do?" "I don't know, what do you want to do?" conversations. (The movie MARTY starring Ernest Borgnine has some great scenes with Marty and his friend Angelo doing this).
My job requires me to travel and I often eat dinner alone sitting at a bar, watching a sporting event on TV. Some of my co-workers get take out or room service and eat it in their hotel rooms when they travel alone because they don't like to go out by themselves. It's not that they don't feel safe going out alone, they just feel awkward.
How about you? Are you a fan of "alone time"? Do you feel awkward seeing a movie or sitting at a bar by yourself?
I often go out alone, eat alone, etc. Since I work odd hours, I usually end up just grabbing a quick bite somewhere, and I'm usually by myself. I used to go to movies by myself all the time; I can't afford that now. I prefer driving by myself, if for no other reason than while doing so I can sing (with or without the radio or other music), whistle, yell at traffic, pass gas, or do whatever else I feel like doing. I enjoy spending time with my family and friends as well, but I also enjoy my "me" time.
I prefer doing most things alone. Having other people along tends to prevent me from doing what I want to do. When I go out with friends, I'm usually tagging along with whatever they happen to be doing. When I've got something I want to do, I usually do it alone.
Being a family guy, I do enjoy spending time with my family. However, I mostly if not all the time prefer doing things alone. Countless vacations and what otherwise could have been happy activities have been ruined for me by other people. Thats thanks mostly to family or significant others in my life starting useless arguments and problems.
Come to think of it, not only would I go to a bar/movie by myself, I'd opt for traveling by myself too if I had the chance. Although, I will admit that if I'm alone at a bar or restaurant, I prefer to be doing something. Reading, watching tv, playing games, etc. Otherwise I start to feel a bit akward.
I don't mind restaurant meals alone. I enjoy it actually, sitting there with a book and taking my time.
I also enjoy sitting in coffee shops alone and reading a paper or browsing the internet.
I don't like going to movie theaters alone. I've hardly ever done it. The last time I did it I really didn't enjoy the experience, but that's because the movie was "The Rock". I don't mind watching bad movies alone on my computer. That's just a fact of life since I don't know anybody who would be interested in 95% of what I rent for myself.
I don't mind going to movies alone at all - if it's something I really want to see I actually prefer it - although I know many people who think that's supremely odd.
QuoteAlthough, I will admit that if I'm alone at a bar or restaurant, I prefer to be doing something. Reading, watching tv, playing games, etc. Otherwise I start to feel a bit akward.
Same here. I don't really enjoy eating in restaurants alone, but that's mainly because I'm thinking "I coulda got carryout and be sitting in front of the TV right now". :smile: Having a book along helps, but that sometimes feels akward. Again: if I had gotten carryout I could be in my favorite comfy chair (or spread out back in the hotel room) while eating and reading.
I recently did something I've never done before: I took a vacation all by myself. I had no agenda to follow and I throughly enjoyed myself.
I like doing things by myself, although some of the things I like to do shouldn't be dona alone (hunting, riding my quad). I do like driving a lot, and do it alone quite a bit. I don't care for theaters, alone or in a group, so that's a non-issue. I do eat alone in restaurants fairly often, if nothing else than the fact that I like some foods that others don't.
Generally, I like being alone, but do get the urge to socialize often.
I like doing a lot of things alone, but do agree about the eating at a restaurant thing and would feel like a total loser sitting alone eating by myself at a restaurant. I'd feel like every person there would be staring at me and/or talking about me.
I'm not saying that those of you who would eat alone at a restaurant are losers...that's just how I would feel.
I'd definitely get it to go and go back to the hotel room.
But as for movies and such, I prefer to do those activities alone.
Nope, I'm a loner.
Always have been, always will be.
on your own = win/win situation
Nope! Because, if I minded doing things alone, I wouldn't do anything.
I've learned that doing things by myself can be fun, and I prefer it most of the time because the hassle is less.
As far as eating out, if they allow eating at the bar, that's where I go or go to one of the small tables near the bar. I do feel weird taking up a whole booth or regular table when a couple or group could be using it.
Getting groceries alone sucks, especially since I don't have a car. Lugging that crap on the bus or cramming it into my backpack for a bike ride is a pain the butt.
I used to hate being alone and doing stuff alone for long periods especially, but now I love nothing more. I don't like going out to places alone alot though, however if it's somewhere like a restaurant, I wouldn't go either way. Not fussed. Concerts are the main things I started going to alone, because I just didn't have anyone to go to them with.
We're all a bunch of loners !
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I'm often alone, i prefer to a point of fault. As far as going to bars alone, i did it almost daily up until we moved this weekend. I'm always sitting in the back corner table by myself and watching others.
I usually go out to eat by myself a good bit. I usually only do this either during the week on my lunch break or on the weekends that my dad works. I don't go dinner too much by myself anymore, as I will either go to lunch by myself or to breakfast by myself. If I'm going to eat dinner by myself I will just get something to go and eat at home. My dad thinks it is wacky that I like to do things by myself, but for me it's a chance as I put it "to clear my mind or think about items that are on my mind."
Despite the fact that I'm married, I find myself alone a great deal right now because my wife has taken an academic job 2 hours away in New York and stays up there in an apartment at least 4 days a week during the academic year. I get up there once during the week but it's too far for either of us to do a daily commute.
Anyway, that means I'm thrown on my own a lot. As I said earlier in this thread I enjoy restaurants alone, good food and a good book. I'll occasionally have the food in a bar too, which is fine as long as there's enough light to read. I don't enjoy noisy bars, never have. If I go to a bar, it's because there wasn't a table available or it's a place known for beer.
Actually I finally made to one of Philly's most famous beer places, Monk's (http://www.monkscafe.com/), and much to my irritation the guy on the next stool wanted to start a conversation. So I ended up having to be sociable instead of reading. It was OK, he was an interesting guy, but I'm definitely an introvert. Conversation tires me out.
What I'm learning about myself is that I don't enjoy knocking around the house alone. Downtown, fine. Restaurants, great. Home, makes me restless and bored.
I do almost everything alone lately....sometimes I like to be alone-but I sure miss my wife. I have my boys on the weekend-there supposed to be coming home permantly on June 17th...but the courts f#ck me over so much...I have little faith anymore. Sometimes I wonder why God hates me so. Or if He even exists. I feel like Karras in the Exorcist. I think I've lost my faith.
Quote from: RCMerchant on May 04, 2009, 05:25:25 PM
I do almost everything alone lately....sometimes I like to be alone-but I sure miss my wife. I have my boys on the weekend-there supposed to be coming home permantly on June 17th...but the courts f#ck me over so much...I have little faith anymore. Sometimes I wonder why God hates me so. Or if He even exists. I feel like Karras in the Exorcist. I think I've lost my faith.
I bet you're a way cool dad !
Thanks. I wish you were the juvinelle court judge. I've been raising my kids alone-with the exception of my 3 years with Tara-since their birth...and got complete custody in 1996. But I had a 'no alchohol' order over my household since Tara's son and her got into it when he was drunk. And I got caught drinking when a cop came over to my house to report he had found my kid's stolen bike....he smelt liquer on my breath...and took me to jail for violating a court order. I went to jail for 45 days...and CPS took my kids. Basterds. I wanted to go on a shooting spree of the court house. But that wouldn't have done my kids no good.
Quote from: RCMerchant on May 04, 2009, 05:25:25 PM
I do almost everything alone lately....sometimes I like to be alone-but I sure miss my wife. I have my boys on the weekend-there supposed to be coming home permantly on June 17th...but the courts f#ck me over so much...I have little faith anymore. Sometimes I wonder why God hates me so. Or if He even exists. I feel like Karras in the Exorcist. I think I've lost my faith.
Don't feel alone, i lost my faith a really long time ago.
I hope things get better, i know i can't feel the void that has been brought upon you, but if i could, i would take it without a second thought.
Your a sweet heart.....if you ever end up in Michigan-I PROMISE-you have a place to stay. Bless yer heart.Don't take this as immaterial BS. I'm serious. And no....I'm not a weird serial killer!
Quote from: RCMerchant on May 04, 2009, 07:50:35 PM
Your a sweet heart.....if you ever end up in Michigan-I PROMISE-you have a place to stay. Bless yer heart.Don't take this as immaterial BS. I'm serious. And no....I'm not a weird serial killer!
We all care about you, mate.
You're like one of the famliy ! :thumbup:
Anyone who still has their collection of old monster movie magazines has a kind soul. At least in my book.
Glad to know you, RC, even if it is only through this forum.
And doing stuff alone is better because you don't have to answer a lot of questions.
"Why do you have so much duct tape and nylon rope? Why do you have hand-drawn blueprints of the neighbor's house? What are you about to do with that shovel in your hand?" <KR-AAANG! thud>
Yeah, alone can be better....
I don't mind my lunchbreaks from work, driving to a different place and having my lunch in my car with my radio. I need a break from all the action at work. I enjoy having lunch with coworkers, but the problem is often they want to TALK ABOUT WORK or TALK ABOUT SOMEONE WE WORK WITH. To me a healthly lunchbreak is making sure to be COMPLETELY free from the subject of the work environment and office politics for an hour.
I'm a top producer at work and part of my secret is enjoying a break AWAY from work for an hour at lunch.
This is a great idea for a thread. CHEERS!
Quote from: Javakoala on May 04, 2009, 09:40:24 PM.
"Why do you have so much duct tape and nylon rope? Why do you have hand-drawn blueprints of the neighbor's house? What are you about to do with that shovel in your hand?" <KR-AAANG! thud>
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