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Title: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: claws on April 05, 2011, 09:06:18 AM
Lost touch with all of my closest childhood friends. I know that one was engaged to his cousin (for real). Another seem to have disappeared from the face of the earth.
I've met friend #3 when I was working at a game hall in my early twenties, but he ignored me. I think the reason was because he was best friends with the game hall owner.
I found friend #4 on Facebook. He moved away from our town many years ago. He was my best friend for a short period of time only, so I don't really feel like contacting him.
I broke friendship with friend #5 ages ago. He was actually my best buddy but yeah, he f**ked up our friendship. He is on Facebook, surprisingly, but I blocked him.
Had another good friend who was an exchange student from Canada. Kinda embarrassing because I don't remember his name, but we had great times together when he was at our school for one year.


Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: HappyGilmore on April 05, 2011, 10:35:56 AM
Believe it or not, I'm still friends with kids I met in elementary school.  Met my best friends Percy and Erich in second grade, along with these kids down the street.  I still talk to all of them on a consistent basis.  I met some kids in 4th grade when I started a new school.  Some of us, myself, Ashley, Denise and Kathy were pretty close, and I still talk to them girls.  Made school more bearable.  I initially didn't get along with Kim, Monica or Valerie, but now we remain in contact and talk on a consistent basis, and even hang out from time to time.

I don't know.  Odd.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Mr. DS on April 05, 2011, 10:54:11 AM
I honestly broke it off with most of the people I grew up with.  When I was little there was a girl who lived behind me.  We were good buds until she moved away in the pre-teen years.  I had one or two good buds during late high school and college I'd hang out with a lot.  I keep up with them but we live a decent distance from one another. I'm only friends with two people from my high school class. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: akiratubo on April 05, 2011, 11:21:05 AM
Broke it off with my childhood best friend, Jason, a few years ago.  He wanted to start an independent comic company with some creative help from me.  I said ok, thinking we would come up with all new material.  Turns out what he actually wanted was to use some pre existing characters of mine in his own stories.  Well, I absolutely did not agree with Jason's storytelling style and didn't want him messing around with my characters.  (The whole thing was just one huge communication failure all around.)  He broke it off with me at that point and made a rather angry blog post about how much he had always hated me since grade school.  That begs the question of why he hung out with me until our mid-20s if he hated my guts.  Oh, well, I guess you never really know anyone as well as you think you do.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: macabre on April 05, 2011, 12:34:41 PM
hi
When i started school at 4yrs old i was asked to sit down next to a boy named David Hughes.I am now 48yrs old and i still see and speak to my best mate,David Hughes.
We have been through all kinds of s**t throughout our friendship and yet i can honestly say we have never had an argument.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Olivia Bauer on April 05, 2011, 12:42:55 PM
Yes. Ever met a user named Falloutfreak? I've known him since Elementary School.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Psycho Circus on April 05, 2011, 12:43:10 PM
Don't speak to any of them. When I left primary school and went to high school all my friends made new friends and ignored me. When I went (briefly) to college, all my high school friends made new friends and ignored me....And so on, and so on...
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: bob on April 05, 2011, 01:16:11 PM
I'm friends with very few of the people I grew up with. But I am still friends with my best friend from grade school. I'm best friends with two people I went to highschool with.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Couchtr26 on April 05, 2011, 04:04:23 PM
Actually, I have lost touch with most as my senior year I moved and was in an awkward position with them prior to that moment.  I don't remember many and remember few times with them, sadly.  I can remember incidents but I can't recall like the good times of just talking with them or being there with my friends. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: ghouck on April 05, 2011, 04:05:51 PM
I have one friend from when I was a kid that I talk to a couple times a month, and the rest I don't talk to at all. One friend I had since kindergarten was killed not long after I enlisted, others vanished, others just drifted apart. One in particular, one who enlisted the same time I did, chickened out and the one time I talked to him since then, he was a dick. I'm more of the 'quality over quantity' type in the friends department.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Umaril The Unfeathered on April 05, 2011, 04:53:10 PM
 Last time I spoke to my best childhood friend was 35 years ago, back in 1975.

I lived in Lebanon, NJ and he had 3 other brothers and 2 sisters.  I recently went back to visit his old home last year, and was re-united with his baby sister and one brother, as well as his mother.  His mother, I might add, instantly recognized my named after almost 40 years and ID'ed me as her one son's best friend. 

That blew me away.  His one sister and brother were somewhat skeptic until I refershed their memories with the places we used to play in, the people we hung out with, ect. It was OK then.  :smile: 

Had I known the family was still there after all these years, I'd have NEVER lost touch with them. Hard to believe we're all in our 40's now. The mother and father just had their 50th anniversary too!

Anyhow, I've been desperately trying to contact my best buddy (have his address+phone) but he refuses to return the call. I spoke to his mother and she says she has no idea what the problem is.  I wish he'd get back to me, he was the best friend I ever had and I miss him a lot.  :bluesad:
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: RCMerchant on April 05, 2011, 05:39:31 PM
I run into my school buds at the store and such once inawhile...but are lives took differnt paths. I'm still freindly with them...but life goes on.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: retrorussell on April 05, 2011, 06:14:14 PM
I haven't seen any of my friends from childhood in forever.  Not crazy about going out of my way to find them either.  I'm not the most social person in the world (to put it mildly) so I don't really care.  If I did see them of course I'd be nice to them, but apart from maybe lunch with them every so often I wouldn't want to hang around with them much.  Hell, I don't even want to hang out with anyone from my family too often!
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: BoyScoutKevin on April 05, 2011, 07:21:22 PM
Yes, I think so. Though, we don't see too much of each other, as he lives on the west coast, and I live halfway across the country. But, when I went back for my 30th high school reunion, he was there, and he said the only reason he showed up for the reunion dinner was because I was going to be there. I think that means we are still friends.

I'll tell you what was a bigger shock then us seeing each other for the first time in 30 years, was the board with the list of those we knew who had died, since we all graduated together from high school. And two of them I was also friends with, when I was in school. I still can't get over their deaths, as they were no older than I am, when they died.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Allhallowsday on April 05, 2011, 07:45:01 PM
Quote from: akiratubo on April 05, 2011, 11:21:05 AM
Broke it off with my childhood best friend, Jason, a few years ago.  He wanted to start an independent comic company with some creative help from me.  I said ok, thinking we would come up with all new material.  Turns out what he actually wanted was to use some pre existing characters of mine in his own stories.  Well, I absolutely did not agree with Jason's storytelling style and didn't want him messing around with my characters.  (The whole thing was just one huge communication failure all around.)  He broke it off with me at that point and made a rather angry blog post about how much he had always hated me since grade school.  That begs the question of why he hung out with me until our mid-20s if he hated my guts.  Oh, well, I guess you never really know anyone as well as you think you do.
That's sorry and sad.  He doesn't hate you, but he might envy you.  He hung around you because he admired something you had that he didn't. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Allhallowsday on April 05, 2011, 07:55:03 PM
Quote from: Circus Circus on April 05, 2011, 12:43:10 PM
Don't speak to any of them. When I left primary school and went to high school all my friends made new friends and ignored me. When I went (briefly) to college, all my high school friends made new friends and ignored me....And so on, and so on...
Uh.  Enough of that.  How do you make it into the top 5 of an internet forum :question: (devoted to "bad" movies, no less)??  :lookingup:
By being an informed smart-ass, committed clown, and challenging iconoclast... what you've described is not unlike my own experience.  Are you sometimes sharp, or impatient?  I do find that life that lacks want is too often filled with disappointment.   You're surviving well, so note, that though few people understand true commitment, we are here.  Waiting. 
As for you, get a kitty, love it, and work on yourself.  You can only become more awesome. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Allhallowsday on April 05, 2011, 08:16:57 PM
My turn: I have one friend from junior high school that I have hung onto a very long time.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: JaseSF on April 05, 2011, 08:25:05 PM
I still have my best friend from high school. He's been the only true long lasting friend in my life although I think he's a bit jealous of me lately now that I have a girlfriend and he doesn't...
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: indianasmith on April 05, 2011, 09:59:01 PM
I have one close friend from elementary school that I get together with several times a year; cook out, watch movies, and discuss life, the universe, and everything . . . we agree very little, but love to bat stuff back and forth.

Then there was that annoying girl in my second grade class who used to chase me down  on the playground every day and kick me in the shins . . . I married her! :teddyr:
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Allhallowsday on April 05, 2011, 11:28:31 PM
Quote from: indianasmith on April 05, 2011, 09:59:01 PM
I have one close friend from elementary school that I get together with several times a year; cook out, watch movies, and discuss life, the universe, and everything . . . we agree very little, but love to bat stuff back and forth.
Then there was that annoying girl in my second grade class who used to chase me down  on the playground every day and kick me in the shins . . . I married her! :teddyr:
Yes, and shave once in awhile. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Allhallowsday on April 05, 2011, 11:48:50 PM
Quote from: Umaril The Unfeathered on April 05, 2011, 04:53:10 PM
Last time I spoke to my best childhood friend was 35 years ago, back in 1975.
I lived in Lebanon, NJ and he had 3 other brothers and 2 sisters.  I recently went back to visit his old home last year, and was re-united with his baby sister and one brother, as well as his mother.  His mother, I might add, instantly recognized my named after almost 40 years and ID'ed me as her one son's best friend. 
That blew me away.  His one sister and brother were somewhat skeptic until I refershed their memories with the places we used to play in, the people we hung out with, ect. It was OK then.  :smile: 
Had I known the family was still there after all these years, I'd have NEVER lost touch with them. Hard to believe we're all in our 40's now. The mother and father just had their 50th anniversary too!
Anyhow, I've been desperately trying to contact my best buddy (have his address+phone) but he refuses to return the call. I spoke to his mother and she says she has no idea what the problem is.  I wish he'd get back to me, he was the best friend I ever had and I miss him a lot.  :bluesad:

35 years?   :buggedout: That's really sad. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Mofo Rising on April 06, 2011, 03:34:03 AM
I don't keep in contact with any of the people I grew up with, other than immediate family.

No particular reason for it. I grew up in Juneau, AK, a town of about 30,000 people. I moved to Arizona when I was 19, but never expected to stay as long as I did. (I'm still in Arizona.)

There are a few people who have contacted me via Facebook. I approve them, but I don't go out seeking the people I knew. I'm at least a decade removed from most of those people. I don't have any ill will or anything, but at this point the people I knew growing up are just not a part of my life. I'm sure if we met up we could have fun, but they would only be acquaintances, not friends.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Jack on April 06, 2011, 06:51:53 AM
I moved around a fair bit during my life and lost track of everybody.  Or they moved away, or just got on my nerves eventually.  I don't have that "stay in touch" gene I'm afraid.  That was then, this is now. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Newt on April 06, 2011, 08:25:43 AM
Quote from: Mofo Rising on April 06, 2011, 03:34:03 AMThere are a few people who have contacted me via Facebook. I approve them, but I don't go out seeking the people I knew. I'm at least a decade removed from most of those people. I don't have any ill will or anything, but at this point the people I knew growing up are just not a part of my life. I'm sure if we met up we could have fun, but they would only be acquaintances, not friends.

I am in pretty much the same situation.  Maybe a little worse: I cannot say I remember much about having 'friends' in childhood.  There were people I remember playing with.  As for the few I spent time with in high school: even though I retain fondness for them, it was a long time ago and we've been on separate ways for far longer than we knew each other.  You really cannot go home again.   :bluesad:  I am sure if we met up we'd have a pleasant time; I am not sure we'd make much effort to re-establish our relationships.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Trevor on April 06, 2011, 08:39:13 AM
Quote from: indianasmith on April 05, 2011, 09:59:01 PM
Then there was that annoying girl in my second grade class who used to chase me down  on the playground every day and kick me in the shins . . . I married her! :teddyr:

I'm seriously glad that you two got married and are not living in shin together.  :wink: :wink:
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Trevor on April 06, 2011, 08:40:43 AM
When Rhodesia became Zimbabwe in 1980, a lot of people fled the country and I lost a lot of my childhood friends then but have since found some of them on FaceBook.  :thumbup:
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: The Burgomaster on April 06, 2011, 01:11:12 PM
I haven't seen my childhood best friend in about 35 years . . . probably longer.  The last I heard (which was about 20 years ago) he was a sniper in the U.S. Army.  He got discharged at the end of his enlistment period, didn't like civilian life, and went back into the service.  Don't know where he is now.

Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: The Gravekeeper on April 06, 2011, 06:01:16 PM
Nope. Moved around too much as a kid thanks to the military to form really strong bonds with any of my friends; and since most of my friends were military kids, too, and got moved all over the world, well...
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Criswell on April 07, 2011, 02:43:33 PM
This makes me nervous about being a senior next year. Heck i'm already nervous about losing my friends that are graduating this year. Hopefully i'll be able to keep in touch with my friends.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Paquita on April 07, 2011, 06:52:24 PM
I'm still best friends with my childhood best friend!  She lived 2 houses down from me and we started playing together when we were about 4.  She and her family moved to the suburbs when I was 8, but we both for some reason had no other friends, so we stayed in contact and would spend weekends together and go on family vacations with eachother almost every summer.  She just moved back to her old house last year, so we're still whoopin' it up!  And we still don't have many other friends!  I just bought us 2 drinking hats and I can't wait to use em! 

I've got another friend from high school that I'm still BFFs with too.  She's also got the can't make other friends syndrome.  Actually, she met her husband trying to set him up with me, and his best friend married my other best friend, so now I think we're all related.

I had one other friend that I don't talk to anymore.  She was the type that had a mountain of "best friends" and there was a situation at a party that burned me a little so we drifted apart after that and then she moved out of state and told me to e-mail her, which I thought was rude so I never did.

Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Umaril The Unfeathered on April 12, 2011, 04:11:49 PM

Quote from: Umaril The Unfeathered on April 05, 2011, 04:53:10 PM
Last time I spoke to my best childhood friend was 35 years ago, back in 1975.
I lived in Lebanon, NJ and he had 3 other brothers and 2 sisters.  I recently went back to visit his old home last year, and was re-united with his baby sister and one brother, as well as his mother.  His mother, I might add, instantly recognized my named after almost 40 years and ID'ed me as her one son's best friend. 
That blew me away.  His one sister and brother were somewhat skeptic until I refershed their memories with the places we used to play in, the people we hung out with, ect. It was OK then.  :smile: 
Had I known the family was still there after all these years, I'd have NEVER lost touch with them. Hard to believe we're all in our 40's now. The mother and father just had their 50th anniversary too!
Anyhow, I've been desperately trying to contact my best buddy (have his address+phone) but he refuses to return the call. I spoke to his mother and she says she has no idea what the problem is.  I wish he'd get back to me, he was the best friend I ever had and I miss him a lot.  :bluesad:


Quote from: Allhallowsday on April 05, 2011, 11:48:50 PM35 years?   :buggedout: That's really sad. 

Sad, but true.  But it really jarred me that his mother remembered me after all those years, and that was really cool!  :smile:

I have his phone number and I try to call him, but I don't know why he never returns my calls.  I guess some people change over the years, while some don't.

In many ways, while I'm up on the world, and work and have take my lumps and bruises like everyone else has to, I'm also light years behind my friends. 

I'm still knocking on their doors in the early morning hours, waiting for them to come out and play.

It's hard for me to realize that certain parts of my life (and certain people) are gone, never to return.  But I think we've all had to deal with that. You're never too old to have growing pains.. :bluesad:

Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: BTM on April 15, 2011, 01:14:31 AM

My two best friends in childhood were Doug and Todd.  One of the most devastating days of my life is when we moved from my hometown to Missouri.  I could post for hours on that, but let's just say I had a lot of trouble fitting in (and admittedly, there were things I did in response that didn't make it easier on myself.)

We sorta kept up over the years through mail and stuff, but I didn't hear from them for a good while.  Then I happened to move back to Southern Illinois and I looked up Doug.  Turns out he was still living in his old house.  We hung out a few times, but our personailities were kind of different now.  Eventually, he ended up abruptly moving, never did find out why exactly, even though I've since found and Friended him on Facebook.  I've asked him about it once or twice, but he's never directly answered me (or the question about how the rest of his family is doing.) 

So, I dunno.  Still read and sometimes comment on his updates, but that's about it.  Right or wrong, I get the feeling he doesn't really care to communicate with me anymore.

As for Todd, I managed to look him up on Myspace (BOY, did he look a lot different than I remember.)  He veriefied in his letter that we went to the same school I did but when I wrote him longer saying how I was, and talked a bit about some childhood memories, he didn't write back.  Tried again a few weeks later, still no answer, so, I just assumed he didn't want to keep in touch.

I have to admit, it kind of bums me out to think about it, really.  I'm a bit of sentimental person, and to paraphrase that line from Stand By Me, I've never had as good of friends as I did when I was a child. 
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Kaseykockroach on April 17, 2011, 01:27:40 PM
Yeah, he still lives with me to this day. It's hard to talk to him, though. He just barks in response.
Title: Re: Are you still friends with your childhood best friend?
Post by: Ed, Ego and Superego on April 18, 2011, 12:17:00 PM
I'm aware of my childhood friend, our fanmilies are close and I have wondered if I should contact her.  Otherwise, the next up is a high school friiend I have known for 23 years.  We talk once a week or so, and see each other every few montsh for fun and excitement.  He just got married and I was his best man.
-Ed