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Title: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: indianasmith on May 21, 2012, 10:00:14 PM
I had just got to work (I don't have my cell phone; I lost it yesterday) and one of our coaches met me in the parking lot - my wife had called - while leaving for work, she had backed her car over our old black lab, Dixie, and was pretty hysterical - the dog was pinned under the car and she did not know how to get her out without hurting her further! I left my kids at school (didn't tell them at the time) and ran back home. By then she'd jacked the car up and gotten the dog out. Her hips were crushed and it was obvious she wasn't going to make it - Patty wanted to take her to the vet, but every time we tried to move or lift her she would start thrashing and snapping (Dixie is a FAT, big dog), and it was just more than we could do to lift her into the back of my car. Finally I had to let my wife go into the house while I got a firearm and did the only thing I could do at that point. I made it as quick and clean as I coud, then we dug a grave and buried her. I haven't wept that much over a pet since I was 14 years old and my dog Zorro got run over in front of me. Then I got to go to school and tell my girls.

Dixie came wandering up to a small church I was pastoring about six years ago - she had a collar, but no one showed up to claim her in two weeks, so we took her home and she became family. She was, according to our vet, seven to ten years old when we got her. She loved digging holes, sleeping in the sun, and eating pears as they fell from our tree. Oh, Dixie girl, we hardly knew ye . . . .


(http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h288/Indianasmith/IMG_0723.jpg)
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Menard on May 21, 2012, 10:26:23 PM
I imagine right now the one who most needs a shoulder and comforting is your wife. There are things that happen which cannot be undone, or is it anybody's fault; yet when it happens to us we obsess about those very things.

Guilt will tear somebody up inside; and even beyond what some may think guilt is, it is amazing what we can do to ourselves on an unconscious level carrying something with us.

Unfortunately you can't make guilt go away for someone, only they can do that, but you can help them to carry the burden; you know that. :smile:
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: FatFreddysCat on May 21, 2012, 10:32:06 PM
Awwww man, that sucks....

My sympathies, dude. It's never easy losing a pet, especially when it's something sudden like this.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: indianasmith on May 21, 2012, 10:38:20 PM
Quote from: Menard on May 21, 2012, 10:26:23 PM
I imagine right now the one who most needs a shoulder and comforting is your wife. There are things that happen which cannot be undone, or is it anybody's fault; yet when it happens to us we obsess about those very things.

Guilt will tear somebody up inside; and even beyond what some may think guilt is, it is amazing what we can do to ourselves on an unconscious level carrying something with us.

Unfortunately you can't make guilt go away for someone, only they can do that, but you can help them to carry the burden; you know that. :smile:

You know, Menard, if I didn't know better,  I would say you had a sensitive side!
I brought her some candy after work today, and we took a moonlit walk tonight.  It was just a bad day all around.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Allhallowsday on May 21, 2012, 10:39:39 PM
Quote from: indianasmith on May 21, 2012, 10:00:14 PM
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Sorry to hear that.  I love that sweet bunny. 
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Jack on May 22, 2012, 06:29:01 AM
Ah man, that's terrible.  So sorry to hear that Indy.  I'm sure she had 6 of the best and most loving years of her life with you.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Flangepart on May 22, 2012, 08:35:02 AM
Oh, man...
I can feel for you. You're not alone in this, compadre.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: tracy on May 22, 2012, 12:43:13 PM
Oh,Indy....my heart aches for you and your wife. It's always tough to lose a furry family member but those circumstances are very sad.  :bluesad:
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: alandhopewell on May 22, 2012, 01:23:03 PM
     As much as possible, rejoice that she was there.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: macabre on May 22, 2012, 02:03:08 PM
hi
When Dixie was lost and confused your family helped her,You made a very wise and heartbreaking choice to ease her suffering. When you share a specal relationship wih a pet, it always brings such unique rewards.You and your family will look back on six years of joy and fun you shared with Dixie,nothing can replace these thoughts and nothing will erase them.My love to your family and may your memories of Dixe help you through your loss.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: indianasmith on May 22, 2012, 05:10:13 PM
You guys are amazing. Thanks!
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Silverlady on May 22, 2012, 05:32:53 PM

I feel so bad for you, Indy,  and your wife.  How heartbreaking.  :bluesad:
You did the best thing you could have done for Dixie under the circumstances.  Just remember ... by keeping Dixie in your heart, she will always be with you.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: JaseSF on May 22, 2012, 07:07:13 PM
 :bluesad: So sorry to hear about this loss for your family. A pretty traumatic thing no doubt.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: dean on May 22, 2012, 08:00:45 PM

That's just terrible, so sorry. 
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: indianasmith on May 22, 2012, 09:38:44 PM
I had actually collected myself and was about to start teaching my 8th graders when one of my daughters brought me this picture she had drawn.  I bawled in front of my whole class . . .

(http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h288/Indianasmith/IndysSecondAlbum/21May12Fakes001.jpg)
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Allhallowsday on May 22, 2012, 11:02:58 PM
Beautiful dog.  A real beauty.  I wish I could've known her.  God bless. 
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Mofo Rising on May 23, 2012, 03:31:24 AM
That's really terrible indiana. It's sad enough when a pet dies, but those circumstances are especially awful.

I love dogs.

My condolences to your family.
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: RCMerchant on May 23, 2012, 05:29:16 AM
Sad news,Indy.
I'm sorry for your loss.

:bluesad:
Title: Re: A horrible way to start a Monday . . .
Post by: Psycho Circus on May 23, 2012, 07:33:29 AM
Sorry to hear that Indy. At least Dixie isn't in any pain now. I remember when my dog died, I cried for about a week solid.