This will seem weird to some of you so I figured I'd explain why I now have a female name in my profile. I'm trans, MTF specifically. It feels weird to write and I'm sorry if this is really awkward since you've known me as a dude named "AJ" for so long. But I can't keep lying to myself and pretending I'm a man. I'm very happy with my new identity and I hope this doesn't change things too much. Thank you.
Nice to meet you, Olivia! :thumbup:
All persons need to be authentic. Live and be happy. One cannot be happy hiding. :thumbup:
You're doing this to get on the women's wrestling team, aren't you.
Congratulations on your brave step, Olivia, which I hope brings you lasting happiness. (One further suggestion for lasting happiness is do not see Space Jam 2.)
Quote from: Olivia Bauer on December 29, 2021, 01:19:47 PM
This will seem weird to some of you so I figured I'd explain why I now have a female name in my profile. I'm trans, MTF specifically. It feels weird to write and I'm sorry if this is really awkward since you've known me as a dude named "AJ" for so long. But I can't keep lying to myself and pretending I'm a man. I'm very happy with my new identity and I hope this doesn't change things too much. Thank you.
Not weird at all: I'm genuinely proud of you for taking a very positive step forward in your life and as AHD said, living authentically. Also I doubt if there's anyone here who would have any issue with you being trans. :smile:
:smile: :thumbup: :thumbup:
Now, see, if you'd chosen to go by "Andrea Justine," you could have kept your old user name . . . ;-)
Best of luck with your new identity and I hope it brings you peace and happiness.
That's a very brave step, Olivia. Cheers to you! :cheers:
:cheers: :cheers:
I've always thought Olivia was a lovely name. If I may ask, what made you choose it?
Quote from: ER on December 30, 2021, 04:19:21 PM
I've always thought Olivia was a lovely name. If I may ask, what made you choose it?
I just really liked it as a name. My earliest memory of hearing that name was Animal Crossing Wild World. One of the villagers was named that and I liked it a lot.
Congrats on coming out Olivia. :cheers:
I hope your family and friends were and are supportive: I came out as bi in 2003 and my folks were 100% fine with it. :smile:
Quote from: Trevor on December 31, 2021, 03:13:28 PM
I hope your family and friends were and are supportive: I came out as bi in 2003 and my folks were 100% fine with it. :smile:
Heck, my husband would love it if I were bi.
Quote from: Trevor on December 31, 2021, 03:13:28 PM
I hope your family and friends were and are supportive: I came out as bi in 2003 and my folks were 100% fine with it. :smile:
I haven't come out to my mom yet. I don't think she'd disown me but she's said hurtful things about trans people on multiple occasions. She's probably going to try and gaslight me into doubting myself and convince me I'm not a woman. That's how I think it's going to go.
Quote from: Olivia Bauer on December 31, 2021, 05:03:26 PM
Quote from: Trevor on December 31, 2021, 03:13:28 PM
I hope your family and friends were and are supportive: I came out as bi in 2003 and my folks were 100% fine with it. :smile:
I haven't come out to my mom yet. I don't think she'd disown me but she's said hurtful things about trans people on multiple occasions. She's probably going to try and gaslight me into doubting myself and convince me I'm not a woman. That's how I think it's going to go.
I hope not. A friend of mine where I live is in similar spot.
They've my full support though.
It's a hard thing to do, come out, whether it's as trans or just admitting your sexuality.
You've got my fullest well-wishes and I'm pretty sure everyone here feels the same.
So glad you said something because I would have thought someone else just joined with the same last name and wondered where AJ went. Best of luck to you! I hope the support you get here helps you on your journey!
Quote from: HappyGilmore on January 04, 2022, 10:29:52 AM
Quote from: Olivia Bauer on December 31, 2021, 05:03:26 PM
Quote from: Trevor on December 31, 2021, 03:13:28 PM
I hope your family and friends were and are supportive: I came out as bi in 2003 and my folks were 100% fine with it. :smile:
I haven't come out to my mom yet. I don't think she'd disown me but she's said hurtful things about trans people on multiple occasions. She's probably going to try and gaslight me into doubting myself and convince me I'm not a woman. That's how I think it's going to go.
I hope not. A friend of mine where I live is in similar spot.
They've my full support though.
She barely acknowledged that I came out. She didn't have much to say at all. It was rather underwhelming, frankly. But better than direct rejection.
Quote from: Olivia Bauer on January 06, 2022, 09:56:44 AM
She barely acknowledged that I came out. She didn't have much to say at all. It was rather underwhelming, frankly. But better than direct rejection.
That's good to hear. I was concerned when I came out to my folks and the consensus from them was "You're bi? So, what else you got?" So, no problem.
Quote from: Olivia Bauer on January 06, 2022, 09:56:44 AM
Quote from: HappyGilmore on January 04, 2022, 10:29:52 AM
Quote from: Olivia Bauer on December 31, 2021, 05:03:26 PM
Quote from: Trevor on December 31, 2021, 03:13:28 PM
I hope your family and friends were and are supportive: I came out as bi in 2003 and my folks were 100% fine with it. :smile:
I haven't come out to my mom yet. I don't think she'd disown me but she's said hurtful things about trans people on multiple occasions. She's probably going to try and gaslight me into doubting myself and convince me I'm not a woman. That's how I think it's going to go.
I hope not. A friend of mine where I live is in similar spot.
They've my full support though.
She barely acknowledged that I came out. She didn't have much to say at all. It was rather underwhelming, frankly. But better than direct rejection.
Direct rejection can hurt, and a big reason I've not divulged things about my own, um, sexuality and concerns to family. It's completely baffling and overwhelming.
You were among friends as AJ and you're among friends now! (By the way, I'm not REALLY a Burgomaster . . . )