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Title: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 08, 2025, 07:56:06 AM
Brenda, my career mentor of more than twenty years and that rare someone who I genuinely liked, loved and respected, passed away this morning. :bluesad:  :bluesad:

She was an amazing person, someone who you could almost instantly like and love.

She saw true potential in me, encouraged me, mentored me, told me to ignore the idiots in my life and also kicked my butt when needed.

My day always got brighter when I heard from her or saw her.

The last time we spoke was fittingly in a theatre where I was about to see Jaws for the first time.

I am absolutely devastated.

I have had six career mentors in my life and they have now all left me.

Brenda, I love you, I loved you and always will.

 :bluesad:  :bluesad:  :bluesad:  :bluesad:  :bluesad:
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: ER on October 08, 2025, 08:07:30 AM
Be a living monument to your mentors, Trevor, let the ways they inspired you show in your own life, and in that way you're giving these meaningful people the great gift of letting their good work live on in you.
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 08, 2025, 08:33:39 AM
Quote from: ER on October 08, 2025, 08:07:30 AMBe a living monument to your mentors, Trevor, let the ways they inspired you show in your own life, and in that way you're giving these meaningful people the great gift of letting their good work live on in you.

Thank you 😔😔🌹
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: LilCerberus on October 08, 2025, 11:10:30 AM
Sorry to hear.
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 08, 2025, 12:04:02 PM
Quote from: LilCerberus on October 08, 2025, 11:10:30 AMSorry to hear.

Thank you: she was a very special lady. 😔😔🌹
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Dr. Whom on October 09, 2025, 12:57:09 AM
Quote from: ER on October 08, 2025, 08:07:30 AMBe a living monument to your mentors, Trevor, let the ways they inspired you show in your own life, and in that way you're giving these meaningful people the great gift of letting their good work live on in you.

Well said!
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 09, 2025, 01:58:03 AM
Quote from: Dr. Whom on October 09, 2025, 12:57:09 AM
Quote from: ER on October 08, 2025, 08:07:30 AMBe a living monument to your mentors, Trevor, let the ways they inspired you show in your own life, and in that way you're giving these meaningful people the great gift of letting their good work live on in you.

Well said!

❤️🌹🐢
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 09, 2025, 08:36:26 AM
I've received a lot of calls today, all saying that they were thinking of me. I haven't heard from some of them in years.
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Leah on October 09, 2025, 10:32:52 AM
Sorry for your loss Trevor.  :bluesad:
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 09, 2025, 11:28:36 AM
Quote from: Leah on October 09, 2025, 10:32:52 AMSorry for your loss Trevor.  :bluesad:

Thank you Leah: she was a wonderful person. I am really struggling to come to terms with her passing 😔🌹❤️
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: indianasmith on October 09, 2025, 06:22:41 PM
My condolences, Trevor.  Those kind of losses are the hardest, but they become more frequent as we get older.
Live a life that would make her proud!
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 10, 2025, 12:20:59 AM
Quote from: indianasmith on October 09, 2025, 06:22:41 PMMy condolences, Trevor.  Those kind of losses are the hardest, but they become more frequent as we get older.
Live a life that would make her proud!

Thank you Brother 😔😔🙂🌹❤️

Her memorial service will be held at a lake here later this month 🌹🌹🐢
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: claws on October 10, 2025, 11:52:48 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. Brenda sounds like a truly special person — her influence and kindness clearly live on through you.
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 10, 2025, 12:14:45 PM
Quote from: claws on October 10, 2025, 11:52:48 AMI'm so sorry for your loss. Brenda sounds like a truly special person — her influence and kindness clearly live on through you.

Thank you Claws ❤️🌹🌹

She was a very special person indeed. Tough, uncompromising, kind, beautiful, very funny, special and someone who would have your back especially if she felt you were being threatened.

I have spent the last two days remembering and reminiscing with people about her. Everyone who knew her - and it's a lot of people - is hurting.

She was my friend, my mentor, my champion and my big sister.

❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹💔💔💔🥀
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: pacman000 on October 12, 2025, 08:09:04 AM
 :bluesad:
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 12, 2025, 09:20:26 AM
Quote from: pacman000 on October 12, 2025, 08:09:04 AM:bluesad:

❤️🌹❤️Thank you, Paccie 🙏
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 14, 2025, 07:30:18 AM
My X tribute to her:  she was a major part of my life for 36 years.

:bluesad:  :bluesad:

https://x.com/ZombieTNinja/status/1978041360356700290

 :bluesad:  :bluesad:
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 19, 2025, 04:46:31 AM
Her memorial service was held yesterday.

I didn't attend although I was asked if I would like to attend but I informed the family that since I had heard the news of her passing, I had been very depressed, had considered suicide and cried a lot of the time.

She was someone I had known for 36 years, more than half my adult life.

They told me that she had actually been very close to end-of-life care and that she was and had been thus very, very ill.

I was thankful that she had passed peacefully and that there was no more pain for my big sister: there shouldn't have been any pain at all for such a special person.

They sent their love to me.
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: pacman000 on October 20, 2025, 09:33:51 AM
 :bluesad: Keep going; she'd want you to, & you can be her to someone else.
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 20, 2025, 10:02:08 AM
Quote from: pacman000 on October 20, 2025, 09:33:51 AM:bluesad: Keep going; she'd want you to, & you can be her to someone else.

Thanks ❤️❤️🙏🙏🐢
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: chainsaw midget on October 20, 2025, 11:04:19 AM
Quote from: Trevor on October 10, 2025, 12:14:45 PM
Quote from: claws on October 10, 2025, 11:52:48 AMI'm so sorry for your loss. Brenda sounds like a truly special person — her influence and kindness clearly live on through you.

Thank you Claws ❤️🌹🌹

She was a very special person indeed. Tough, uncompromising, kind, beautiful, very funny, special and someone who would have your back especially if she felt you were being threatened.

I have spent the last two days remembering and reminiscing with people about her. Everyone who knew her - and it's a lot of people - is hurting.

She was my friend, my mentor, my champion and my big sister.

❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹💔💔💔🥀
Then it sounds like she left the world a better place than it was when she found it. 
In the end, that's the best we can ask of anyone. 
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on October 20, 2025, 10:02:57 PM
Quote from: chainsaw midget on October 20, 2025, 11:04:19 AM
Quote from: Trevor on October 10, 2025, 12:14:45 PM
Quote from: claws on October 10, 2025, 11:52:48 AMI'm so sorry for your loss. Brenda sounds like a truly special person — her influence and kindness clearly live on through you.

Thank you Claws ❤️🌹🌹

She was a very special person indeed. Tough, uncompromising, kind, beautiful, very funny, special and someone who would have your back especially if she felt you were being threatened.

I have spent the last two days remembering and reminiscing with people about her. Everyone who knew her - and it's a lot of people - is hurting.

She was my friend, my mentor, my champion and my big sister.

❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹💔💔💔🥀
Then it sounds like she left the world a better place than it was when she found it. 
In the end, that's the best we can ask of anyone. 

❤️❤️🐢

That is very, very sweet: thank you.

I really, really miss her. 😔😔🙏
Title: Re: This is a very hard post for me to make
Post by: Trevor on December 04, 2025, 05:05:23 AM
I went back to the archives this morning and was stunned to see that the old rose bush near her office was blooming for the first time in years, beautiful pink roses.

It still hurts that she is gone 😢😭