I just wanted to let you all know that my only brother was killed today (7-12) in a motorcycle accident.
He would've turned 23 in two weeks on the 25th.
His name was Cory.
He passed a car on the highway and upon re-entering the right lane, he lost control of the bike and went into the ditch.
They airlifted him to The University of Iowa hospital but doctors were unable to save him.
They say he died not from head injuries but internal injuries.
He was wearing a helmet.
They say it's good to talk to friends when things like this happen and I consider you all my friends.
Just thought I'd tell you.
I dont know what to say here bud, thast really f**king tragic :(......you have my condolences, I hope he didnt suffer.
Sorry to hear about that Ash. You have had some unfortunate events in your life lately. I hope things turn around for you soon.
This may seem out of the blue but have you ever heard of the Colts Drum Corps from Dubuque, Iowa? Check them out. It's a spiritual happening.
All I know is just to quote Dream Theater's -The Spirit Carries On
"And if I died tomorrow I'ld be alright because I believe that after we're the spirit carries on"
"Move on be brave. Don't weep at my grave for I am no longer here. But please never let your memory of me disappear."
God bless you and your family through these tough times
Terrible news Ash. My full sympathy for your family's loss.
I have noticed something about grief over the years. For anyone who believes in a higher power, it is a very selfish emotion. We are sad on account that our loved one's passing means that we can no longer talk to them or enjoy their company. It is not belittling what we feel, but a true measure that they meant something to us.
I am sorry to hear that Ash, since I consider you guys my friends too, ( i always refer to you as those bad movie people.)
I feel bad that it seems that the good people always suffer and the bad ones (drunk Drivers, criminals being chased by cops) walk away without a scratch.
I am truly sorry to hear this, but your brother sounds like he was fully enjoying life, and that is all that matters when you live is to take the time to love and enjoy.
I also know sometimes nothing is better than to have a phone call or to get out. If you live anywhere near me, I would happy to see a movie with you or just drive around.
Tomorrow, (7-13) my sister & I are going to make a wooden cross and a small plaque adorned with flowers and place them at the spot where he died.
I'm going to inscribe onto it a verse from a Megadeth song called "A Tout Le Monde". (It's French)
Here's the verse I'm going to put on it:
"A tout le monde (To all the world)
A tous mes amis (To all my friends)
Je vous aime (I love you)
Je dois partir (I have to leave)
These are the last words
I'll ever speak
And they'll set me free"
I also want to put on it the title of an Ozzy song I'm sure you all know....
"See You on the Other Side"
What do you think?
Post Edited (07-13-03 03:10)
The quote is appropriate. I'll have to track that song down. I remember on our trip to Wisconsin you were talking about how those little crosses at the side of the road made you feel uneasy, and now you're putting one up. We're all with you here, brother. Take it easy.
Brother R
I'm sorry to hear this.
I went to a funeral about 2 years ago for a guy I hadn't seen since I was a teenager (I'm 39 now). He was on a motorcycle and the car in front of him apparently turned without signaling. He tried to turn his motorcycle to avoid crashing into the car, and he ended up crashing into a mailbox. He died instantly (and he was wearing a helmet).
It's tough when things like this happen so unexpectedly. You have no time to prepare yourself.
It has been a while since someone very close to me has died, so I can't quite relate to the pain you must be feeling right now.
But my thoughts are with you and I'm sorry to hear about this.
About 12 years ago, I lost a friend whom I considered a near-brother, bosom-buddy, lie-long-pal type of guy. One of those rare instances when you can look somebody in the eye and say, 'I love you, man," without being embarrassed or looking over your shoulder. His name was Bruce, and one day he was leaving a job site up in Issaquah, got into a company truck after saying goodbye to his boss. They found him he next morning, still in the truck, engine running. He had been dead for several hours, no one knows why--aneurysm, stroke, MI, overcome by exhaust while maybe taking a brief nap (it was an old truck). He ahd over the years talked to me about having two songs played at his funeral--Talking Heads "Take Me to the River", and Alan Parsons "Time". To this day I can't hear those songs without tearing up.
You never forget. The pain lessens, but the memories don't.
Good luck, buddy.
Sorry to hear about the horrible news, ASH. Your idea with the Megadeth and Ozzy songs sounds like a great one.. go with it.
Nick
My Condolences Ash - nothing can really said to offer much comfort. It might help to take time and write up some things you remember about him, little things like funny stuff he said or did, memories you have. It helps keep his life strong in your thoughts, particularly the little things that over time are forgotten. Soemtimes I wish I had done that with people I loved who are gone, the idiosyncrasies fade.There's no explanation why stuff like this happens, or why someone so young has to go. But you can't look at all the things they will miss out on, but all the great things they got to experience and the people they had around them to love. In the end, even if I die at 90 I'll still think it was never enough time - we should all be so lucky to just live a life worth missing. Whatever way you can honor his life is the best way to do it, whether it's a song quote, a prayer, a webpage tribute, the answer will come from your heart and nobody else. He knows he had a great brother.
Post Edited (07-13-03 12:51)
I'm sorry to hear of your loss ASHTHECAT.
I've always thought that the worst part of death was the simple fact that you will never be able to sit down and talk with that person again.
I'm sorry I can't offer words of comfort. Remember your brother and give him a proper tribute. The grief gets easier over time.
I kinda know what you feel, Ash. My dad died suddenly of an aneurysim. Mom and i still put flowers on his grave every Memorial day.
It sucks. And all i can say, is get closer to your family. And enjoy them while you can.
I believe there is hope after this life.
That helps me to go on, and risk careing about others.
Hope you have something like it.
Oiy.
I really don't know what to say, that is a serious injury to your mojo. My condolences. It's ironic, I read an article about near death experiences less than an hour ago. They say that the reports cannot be hallucinations, because they happen at times when the brain is completely shut down. I don't know if there is an afterlife, but I can give you that idea to contemplate.
"There are more things in heaven and earth,
Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy."
"And as imagination bodies forth
The forms of things unknown, the poet's pen
Turns them to shapes and gives to airy nothing
A local habitation and a name."
I wish you good luck in the times ahead.
------ooo-'U'-ooo-------Kilroy was here.
sorry to heaqr it Ashe. My condolences.
That sucks. Don't know what else to say...
Sorry to hear that. Don't know what ot say.
Thank you all for your support.
If you would like to see a picture of my brother and read his obituary please go to the link I've placed below.
Thanks.....Jamey (my real name)
http://obit.murdochfuneralhome.com/obit_display.cgi?id=48941
He's good looking guy, I think the guestbook is a great idea for families and friends to give remembrance. thanks for posting that link Jamey, I sure hope it gets easier for you.
ASH, been out of it for awhile and I just came across this while checking out what I've missed. I would like to express my condolences for your loss.
DJ
So sorry for your loss. It was nice of you to give us the website for his obit. He was a nice looking guy that was taken from this world too soon. May God be with you and your family. Take care.
hey Ash.
i'm sorry to hear about your brother.
oddly enough, i've been listening to that same Megadeth song of late thinking about my own brother.
if you ever need to rant or rail or whatever, drop me a line.
i know exactly how you feel.