skeletons in the closet

[macabre]

hi
Funny that i am being classed as being confrontational when all i am doing is replying to your posts. I have commented in past posts that I am sorry for making this mistake and I feel i need to give you guys a bit more information about myself so hopefully you will better understand me.Ten years ago my wife and I had our lives turned upside down,we had our hearts ripped out and trampled on. Ten years ago whilst sat in a room with a neurologist we were told rather harshly that our 6 month old son had a neurological condition called LISSENCEPHALY(SMOOTH BRAIN). This information hurt me, this information devastated my wife.My wife had a nervous and physical breakdown she had to have counselling and her whole personality changed.My wife became very possessive and verballyand physically abusive towards me.My wife became "easy prey" and she had several public and em barrising affairs.We lost many friends because they could not cope with her temperament.I bought her the cats to give her some responsibility and i must confess she did like them.When i said she searched frantically and tearfully i kind of exaggerated a bit,although she did cry when the cat was found(by the way i found the cat not my wife). When i said "NOTT at the end of my first post i must admit i meant it.If it happened again i would do the same.My wife cannot reason like you or i ,she has kidnapped my children on several occasions taking them to her mums,it would have served no purpose to have told my wife the truth,i should not have been on the bike,i was on the bike and i had an accident.I DO NOT CLAIM TO BBE A SAINT BUT BELIEVE ME I HAD TO DO WHAT I DID FOR MY OWN REASONS.I did not want my wife to have another exscuse to hit me or take away my children.I am truly sorry guys fro posting this confession but i speak with my heart and just say things as they are,macabre

[Flick James]

Certainly that information puts things in a different light, macabre. What's the old Cheyenne proverb? Do not judge your neighbor until you walk two moons in his moccasins. Seems appropriate here. Given the circumstances you describe, it may be one of those rare situations where a secret is warranted. But I think most of the reactions were understandable given the initial post.

I wish you and your family healing and closure. Don't give up entirely that such a thing is possible. Absolution from any of us is impossible and irrelevant.

[Allhallowsday]

...thank-you for your thoughtful answers.wow! I envy you ulthar you I wish I could lead my life as you do.I have analysed my current position and i am very happy with the children I teach(I teach in a private school that specialises in severely disabled children) . I love communicating with he parents and I help out withthe children outside of school hours but I am more content where I am.I spoke to my wife last night and I told her that we have many things a lot of families may not have.I finish my job in time for me to pick up my son .My answer shall be thank-you for the opportunity but I shall stay where I am .thank-you guys for helping me reach this decision, my homelife is such that my wife and i do not have to many friends  so i am pleased I can count on you as friends and once again I apologise for my last post it was not intended to offend anyone. sometimes i just say things as they are and I get in trouble...

Since you'd cited this thread in your other posting, I'm compelled to quote it here.  I think the comment I've quoted above is a little passive-aggressive, and misleading.  And you did argue with Luna in this thread.  You must realize with the information we had, you did not look particularly sensitive or contrite.  Statements like "my wife will kill me" are common exaggerations, and without the new information, seem childish.  So, I still think you acted a bit of a mule in your previous postings in this thread, but, I applaud your clarification.  As Flick James mentioned, this may be one of those instances where a secret is necessary.  

[macabre]

hi
I think you may have been right the first time. I AM AN ASS!.I understand that my direct way of talking/writing to people  does nor bare well with everyone.I shall try and curb the way i talk from now on .I  hold no grudges too any of you guys Luna and yourself were quite right in your observations.I come on this site because it has many friends who love the same crazy movies that i do,I do not wish to come on and offend anyone but I thank you and flick for seeing things from my point of view.I  still have quite a lot to learn on the etiquette of being on sites such as this one,
thank-you and i hope to have many conversations with you in the future.

macabre

[Allhallowsday]

I think you may have been right the first time. I AM AN ASS!.I understand that my direct way of talking/writing to people  does nor bare well with everyone.I shall try and curb the way i talk from now on .I  hold no grudges too any of you guys Luna and yourself were quite right in your observations.I come on this site because it has many friends who love the same crazy movies that i do,I do not wish to come on and offend anyone but I thank you and flick for seeing things from my point of view.I  still have quite a lot to learn on the etiquette of being on sites such as this one,
thank-you and i hope to have many conversations with you in the future.

No, it's not about your "direct" talk - I do that all over this forum and so do most of the regular contributors.  And it can p**s people off, and that's too bad.  However, you need to embrace that your commentary was neither sensitive nor contrite.  Don't imply that we can't handle your "directness".  I don't think you angered or offended anyone until you side-stepped your responsibility: if you open yourself up with a confessional and are flip about it, then be prepared to take the criticism.  That is what I meant by misleading passive-aggressive BS.  Now you are starting to p**s me off.  

...When i said she searched frantically and tearfully i kind of exaggerated a bit,although she did cry when the cat was found(by the way i found the cat not my wife)...

And by the way this is perplexing... you were the one who killed the cat and dumped the body to be "found" at a later date...  

[Andrew]

This thread has run its course.  I do not believe that any further constructive debate is going to come of it.