What's Your Social Life Like?

Killer Bees · February 17, 2008, 09:54:16 PM

You're welcome, Dr M

I was depressed this last year because I split up with my boyfriend, so I retreated into my shell to nurse my hurts, as most people would do.

After a year of being sad and depressed, my sister took me to this spiritual healer. He really fixed me up and got rid of the old patterns I was hanging onto. Mainly the ones that kept me going back to unsuitable guys and then wondering what happened when the relationship died.

But the healing had an unexpected side effect. I used to be generous and patient and endlessly giving to people who didn't give back, but that didn't worry me. But now I realise that I'm tired of being dumped on and sucked of all my generosity and niceness and I refuse to attract selfish soul suckers into my life.

So now instead of being at peace, I"m just angry at the world at how many selfish self absorbed bastards there are out there, men and women. I now have a "fsck you" attitude to everyone which I guess is pretty non-conducive to a social life *lol*

But seriously, I don't care. Hence, me coming to this board and finding like minded individuals who don't actually want anything from me. It's nice to be amongst people who don't care if I don't contact them for ages, but are happy to see me if I show up. It's nice to be amongst people who think and act like I do and see nothing wrong with it (because there's not). It's also nice to be amongst bright people with similar interests who make me laugh and who can give me intelligent logical counter arguments to my opinion without feeling emasculated or belittled when I don't agree with them.

You guys are awesome.

AnubisVonMojo · February 17, 2008, 09:59:47 PM

Quote from: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 09:54:16 PM
Hence, me coming to this board and finding like minded individuals who don't actually want anything from me.

Oh, then this may not be a good time to ask you if I can have $20 for a Korean import DVD of the Burt Lancaster Phantom of the Opera. I don't intend to pay it back, hence why I said "have" instead of "borrow".

Killer Bees · February 17, 2008, 10:27:29 PM

Quote from: AnubisVonMojo on February 17, 2008, 09:59:47 PM
Quote from: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 09:54:16 PM
Hence, me coming to this board and finding like minded individuals who don't actually want anything from me.

Oh, then this may not be a good time to ask you if I can have $20 for a Korean import DVD of the Burt Lancaster Phantom of the Opera. I don't intend to pay it back, hence why I said "have" instead of "borrow".

Cheque's in the mail, dude

threnody · February 17, 2008, 10:28:32 PM

I have one really good friend that I trust, a handful of acquaintances from my last job and various family members that I spend a lot of time with. I don't go out every night, but I still have fun often. I could have more friends, but I don't want any. I have a ton of free time on my hands and I like it that way. I would rather stay at home and watch movies than go out and party. I hate parties. I hate crowds. I'm content with my social life.

Killer Bees · February 17, 2008, 10:44:07 PM

I was thinking of taking up rag rug making. It will supplement my creative side and it will give me something different to do other than knitting all the time.

I borrowed a book from the library on the subject and it looks pretty easy. So this weekend, I'll be trying out my first rug.

Yeah, I know, I'm such a social whirlwind *lol*

Dr_Malavaqua · February 18, 2008, 05:23:50 PM

Quote from: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 10:44:07 PM
I was thinking of taking up rag rug making. It will supplement my creative side and it will give me something different to do other than knitting all the time.

I borrowed a book from the library on the subject and it looks pretty easy. So this weekend, I'll be trying out my first rug.

Yeah, I know, I'm such a social whirlwind *lol*

you're funny! (Note to self: I'm starting to sound like Ralph Wiggum...)

Well I guess I don't have the urge for a large friend base either, but I still think it would be nice to have someone to share interests with IRL. I've never even seen another b-movie admirer in person...! (I come from the iciest and most deserted part of Sweden, close to were they shot "Terror in The Midnight Sun"

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What do you think about it Killer Bees, any experience? Isn't there something that is just, that much more fun, when you're actually with a person?(still talking b-movie interest sharing..

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PS: I felt even better today as I got the Fly(1986/2disc) & the Addams Family I & II (double feature) in the mail..

but that's another thread.

Killer Bees · February 18, 2008, 08:29:32 PM

Quote from: Dr_Malavaqua on February 18, 2008, 05:23:50 PM
Quote from: Killer Bees on February 17, 2008, 10:44:07 PM
I was thinking of taking up rag rug making. It will supplement my creative side and it will give me something different to do other than knitting all the time.

I borrowed a book from the library on the subject and it looks pretty easy. So this weekend, I'll be trying out my first rug.

Yeah, I know, I'm such a social whirlwind *lol*

you're funny! (Note to self: I'm starting to sound like Ralph Wiggum...)

Well I guess I don't have the urge for a large friend base either, but I still think it would be nice to have someone to share interests with IRL. I've never even seen another b-movie admirer in person...! (I come from the iciest and most deserted part of Sweden, close to were they shot "Terror in The Midnight Sun" )
What do you think about it Killer Bees, any experience? Isn't there something that is just, that much more fun, when you're actually with a person?(still talking b-movie interest sharing.. )

PS: I felt even better today as I got the Fly(1986/2disc) & the Addams Family I & II (double feature) in the mail.. but that's another thread.

Actually most of my pursuits are solitary ones. But I think things like playing board games, bowling, having a drink at the pub is always better with one or more.

There is a board game called "Balderdash" that's completely hilarious the more people you play with. It's all about very obscure, but real words and everyone has to come up with a meaning. You're assigned points based on how many people voted for your answer and the ultimate is to actually get the answer right.

I played with my exhusband and his family years ago. They were the most frightful nerds, but nice bright people and I can't remember laughing so hard in a group.

Unfortunately our culture is based on eating and drinking booze and sport. Dining out regularly is expensive and I have quite a strict diet anyway. Plus the Snobby Cuisine Victims really get up my nose. Booze is an occasional thing for me and not a volume contest like with some people and I really loathe sport. So that kind of leaves me nowhere.

I'd enjoy a book discussion group, but only books that I like and not some random crap that they'd assign. God save me from the Oprah Book Club nuts!

ulthar · February 18, 2008, 09:47:44 PM

Quote from: Killer Bees on February 18, 2008, 08:29:32 PM

Actually most of my pursuits are solitary ones.

Have you ever considered singlehanded sailing? It's great!! Peaceful, meditative, in touch with nature, etc. Like single hiking/camping, which are good, too. While I absolutely love doing these with my family, doing them alone is great, too, in its own way. My wife told me this weekend that she is actually on board with my "proposed" singlehanded trip from the SC coast to Bermuda (maybe next summer). Twelve days round trip sailing time, with some lay-over in Bermuda for sight-seeing/rest. Now I gotta get the boat ready....

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There is a board game called "Balderdash" that's completely hilarious the more people you play with. It's all about very obscure, but real words and everyone has to come up with a meaning. You're assigned points based on how many people voted for your answer and the ultimate is to actually get the answer right.

I played with my exhusband and his family years ago. They were the most frightful nerds, but nice bright people and I can't remember laughing so hard in a group.

I've never played "Balderdash," but we have played "Apples to Apples." The first time we played that, I laughed probably harder than I ever had in my life. It is a very fun game.

Killer Bees · February 18, 2008, 10:56:42 PM

Ulthar

Single handed sailing sounds like fun. I've only been sailing once, on Sydney Harbour with friends and I had a ball.

Zoolook the Mudkip · February 19, 2008, 12:32:25 AM

My social life is awesome. Everyone loves me because I'm just that amazing

Yaddo 42 · February 23, 2008, 04:48:11 PM

Wow this thread took off while I was gone.

I've played "Apples to Apples", it is fun with the right mix of people.

I can relate to going out being like exercise, but it has gotten easier lately. Just wish my schedule was more in sync with that core group of close friends I have (small as it is). The group of acquaintances has been growing but that is still more work than it should be.

The speed dating went pretty well, I'd do it again, if only for the forced socialization. Even when I didn't connect with some of the women I managed to feel comfortable and be more out going. I had one match (the ego and the hormones would have liked a few more), she and I have been out a few times and we enjoy our time together. I like her, she really likes me, I had kind of forgotten what it felt like to be in that situation. It's a good beginning for sure and we're having fun. She wants to show me off to the friends soon, I'm planning to do the same soon also.

Ash, don't entirely rule out women who are divorced, this girl is. It was a few years ago, and she seems to have moved past it, but I'll find out more as time goes on. Women with kids is a different and more complicated situation, I can understand why some won't go down that road (I will but under the right conditions). But one thing I tell myself and others is everyone has a past before you met them. Yeah, there are plenty of psychos and people are who are more trouble than they are worth, but there are also some great women who have had ups and downs in their lives also.

I won't hide my depression from people, but it's not the first thing I talk about either. It affected several years of my life, and I still have to watch out for it, so it is a factor in my life, but I'd hope a great woman wouldn't rule me out because of it. It is a part of my life that I can't change, although it is something I can work on in the present

Allhallowsday · April 11, 2008, 05:41:50 PM

Neighborhood Pot luck here in my house tonight! Seems like I've been washing floors and moving furniture and finding mountains of dust for weeks...

LilCerberus · April 12, 2008, 11:36:57 PM

Pledge Drive & Open house at WRIR next week.
Lots of meetings, lots of meetings canceled, lots of people trying to contact each other about getting food & swag but they keep missing each other because they're too busy running around town looking for food & swag...

I sure hope the t-shirts aren't some effeminate pastel again.