OT: Evil Women on the Net

Chopper · October 07, 2005, 05:14:20 AM

those are not insensitive questions Menard, i see them as being sensible really. to be honest i have no way of knowing the answers to both of those questions, and probably never will.

Chopper · October 07, 2005, 05:15:55 AM

thank you Dean, and also I'd like to thank everyone else who has responded to this so far and offered their input.

trekgeezer · October 07, 2005, 08:21:11 AM

The most important thing is to be true to yourself. I remember back in 1980 I was a single guy in the DFW area and joined a dating service where this lady set you up women who were members.

Most of them were one time things with no chemistry. There was one that was only in it for the sex and made it plain I wasn't the only guy she was sleeping with, In fact we were in the middle of it one time and she answered the phone and started talking to this other guy while I was on top of her! Talk about a put down! You know I've actually never told that to anyone.

I had another one that wanted to marry me, but she didn't like anything about me. She told me that I should go into the antique business with her Dad because "that computer stuff is never going to go anywhere". She was looking for a Daddy for her three year old.

I did end up with one friend out of the deal, and that was because she finally admitted to going out with me just to have something to do. It pays to be honest about your motives.

Anyway, I've said too much. The thing to do is watch out for yourself, because there are a lot of strange people out there and you can get yourself into to some real messes if you're not careful.

Derf · October 07, 2005, 10:58:12 AM

lilcerberus,

You practically retold the story of my life. I always figured I'd never find any woman who'd put up with me. Heck, I was over thirty when I finally did. I never dated at all in high school, had a couple of dates in college, but nothing that went anywhere (I found out awhile after I graduated that the school's Homecoming Queen wanted to go out with me. The Homecoming Queen! Too bad I wasn't particularly attracted to her; she wasn't all that bright). I had a few women who used me, abused me, hung me out to dry. As a result, I pretty much gave up. A friend set me up with this girl, all the while telling me she wasn't trying to set us up and telling her she was. It worked out between us, and we're married now.

I'm not trying to give anybody the old "never give up hope" speech OR the "you'll find love when you least expect it" speech (I know I got both speeches often enough). I would've been fine if my wife and I'd never met, but I'm glad we did. Women particlarly seem to think that men can't live without a woman; I think it's a control issue (women like to have a project man to work on). Men think women can't live without a man as well (Hey! who could live without the great lovin' only I can supply?)

Anyway, like trek_geezer says, be true to yourself. Romantic relationships aren't all there is to life, and sex certainly isn't all there is. If it happens, great. If it doesn't, don't get all desperate and clingy because of it (a sure turn-off).

trekgeezer · October 07, 2005, 11:32:57 AM

I got hooked up with my wife because of stupid scheme I cooked up to make the girl I was dating jealous. It was the best goof up I ever made in my life, we got married less than five months after we started dating and are still going strong 24 years later.

The thing with her is that she is the first person I ever went out with that I could completely be my big goofy-ass self with.

That's another key to a happy relationship, knowing that you can be yourself and not have to act like something you're not.

odinn7 · October 07, 2005, 11:45:00 AM

Wow...you guys are all dorks. I'm surrounded by dorks on this board.

Just screwing with ya. I'm a dork too and went through my fair share but the difference between me and you guys is that I'm not willing to lay my story out for everyone. Kudos to you guys that are brave enough or confident enough in yourselves to do so. Seriously, I'm not joking this time.

Fearless Freep · October 07, 2005, 12:36:54 PM

I even went as far to buy a 1,000 plane ticket to visit her, in which she changed her mind. In retrospect I know this was probably a dumb thing, and not worth it.

'She' was really a guy...

Gerry · October 07, 2005, 12:51:42 PM

odinn7 wrote:

> I'm a dork too

And I always thought you were the 7th incarnation of a Norse god. Now I am depressed...

Fearless Freep · October 07, 2005, 12:54:26 PM

> I'm a dork too

And I always thought you were the 7th incarnation of a Norse god. Now I am depressed...

Well, doesn't "Dork" sound like a norse god name?

odinn7 · October 07, 2005, 01:06:52 PM

Sorry to let you down like that.

raj · October 07, 2005, 01:09:25 PM

After reading everyone's horror stories, all I can say is I'm glad I got a dog.

Zapranoth · October 07, 2005, 02:04:12 PM

I did one internet relationship when I was in college, and MUDding heavily. I, um, dated someone on the MUD I was playing. Do I need to even say anything else to finish the story? I thought not.

But really, that relationship was just the symptom of where I was in life, at that time. I was just adrift, and that relationship is what I thought I wanted then.

I wouldn't go so far as to say "Internet relationships never work," or to say "there IS no such thing as a long-distance relationship," but I would go really close to saying each of those things, with elaborate qualifiers. I think that people get lonely and Do Stupid s**t, basically... at least, that's what history taught me personally. But sometimes it works out! Kind of like people sometimes survive terminal velocity falls...

Gerry · October 07, 2005, 02:50:25 PM

Fearless Freep wrote:

> And I always thought you were the 7th incarnation of a Norse
> god. Now I am depressed...[/i]
>
> Well, doesn't "Dork" sound like a norse god name?

LOL. Good one.

LilCerberus · October 07, 2005, 04:17:48 PM

Did I mention that the givin' up part came after three straight years of being approached "in that way" by individuals of the same gender as myself?

Seriously, I went through a good four or five years where I was afraid to leave the house.

"Tis better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all"

Most of the divorced guys I meet are pretty messed up.
And my buddy at work; He's cool, but he's not the best example of perseverance.

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Ash · October 07, 2005, 04:23:06 PM

Derf wrote:

). I had a few women who used
> me, abused me, hung me out to dry. As a result, I pretty much
> gave up.

Did she hang you upside down by your ankles in one of those sex contraptions and hook battery cables to your nipples & balls?