Annoying Stereotypes

[akiratubo]

Christian stereotypes annoy me.  When people find out I am one, they automatically assume I'm against education, the sciences, hate gays, etc.  When they find out I don't fit any of those stereotypes, I'm a huge hypocrite for picking and choosing which parts of my religion I follow.  Just can't win.

[Andrew]

We've had people come to us and say "we thought about moving, but didn't; just wanted to say your children are very well behaved."

We've also had quite a number of people comment to us how they behave at restaurants, even to the point of giving small trinkets to them as 'reward.'  No, these are not people we know...complete strangers doing something nice to reinforce positive behavior.

But, we still get the snide looks, mostly from older couples/groups who probably have been through it with their own children and now think that gives them license to be uppity.

On the other hand, our children are certainly not like this ALL the time - they CAN be the little hellions people presuppose they will be.  But in those cases, WE tend to leave for two main reasons.  (1) It's OUR JOB to handle it, not to ask everyone else to deal with it, (2) we don't want to reward bad behavior with the fun of eating out.

Your experience sounds exactly like ours.  The kids are usually very well behaved.  If they are not, we do our job as parents.  Either the kids start behaving, or if we cannot get the problems under control we leave.  We have also had other people stop by to say how well behaved the children are.

[Flick James]

Christian stereotypes annoy me.  When people find out I am one, they automatically assume I'm against education, the sciences, hate gays, etc.  When they find out I don't fit any of those stereotypes, I'm a huge hypocrite for picking and choosing which parts of my religion I follow.  Just can't win.

Is there any way to win with religion? If you feel right with your Creator, and you've given up on religion and what others think, and you don't let the judgements of others and the texts of those from thousands of years ago rule your life, you've won.

[macabre]

hi
i can totally sympathise with you on the restaurant things. i had one guy come up to me and start ranting that i should have told him my son was disabled BEFORE he wasted his money buying his meal>.like i was going to do that :thumbdown:i have also had people look at me and my family then walk back out of the restaurant.
macabre

[LilCerberus]

And that mantra, "jobs Americans aren't willing to do" really makes my blood boil.

lol... It's really... Job That American's Cannot Legally Do, that's because those jobs are either below Minimum Wage and/or unprotective for the workers... It's going to be funny once the Illegal Immigrants become American Citizens and then they have to quit their jobs...

When you have ADHD, Aspergers' & disgraphia, you're employment options are limited.
It doesn't help much when a predominant group of individuals doesn't want you're kind around.

[Trevor]

Thw worst stereotype of myself that I've ever come across is one person's point of view that "you have to be a black person in order to be truly African". That makes me angry ~ I was born on this continent, so were my parents, grand parents and great-grandparents so I am 100% African. If I have to be black in order to be African, then I am black and I am proud.

[Trevor]

Firstly (and not surprisingly) are the endless stereotypes of Heavy Metal. I'm sick of constantley hearing people say that it's "Satan's Music", that it takes no talent to play (any one who's tried to learn a Death Metal song knows how idiotic that statement is),
that it's all just screaming with fast guitars (that one really p**ses me off) and most of all: that all bands work for the devil and are trying to brainwash society (again, complete and utter BS).

There are a few heavy metal bands (only a few) that I don't really like, but that kind of music is by and large great to listen to. What irritates the heck out of me is when people tell you that you will go to hell if you listen to metal, rock 'n roll etc: my usual response to that is $#@% you, I listen to what I like.

[Flick James]

Thw worst stereotype of myself that I've ever come across is one person's point of view that "you have to be a black person in order to be truly African". That makes me angry ~ I was born on this continent, so were my parents, grand parents and great-grandparents so I am 100% African. If I have to be black in order to be African, then I am black and I am proud.

So, if you emigrated to the U.S. and became a citizen, would you be an African-American? 

[Skull]

Thw worst stereotype of myself that I've ever come across is one person's point of view that "you have to be a black person in order to be truly African". That makes me angry ~ I was born on this continent, so were my parents, grand parents and great-grandparents so I am 100% African. If I have to be black in order to be African, then I am black and I am proud.

So, if you emigrated to the U.S. and became a citizen, would you be an African-American? 

Hmmmm... if Americans emigrated to Africa would they be American-Africans? If a Polish person emigrated to America and then to Africa would they be called Polish-American-African? (and what happen is Polish person has a Greek wife and they have children? would the kids be called Polish-Greek-American-African?)

[Cthulhu]

I'm sick of hearing people that say that midgets can do magic.
If they could that one could have easily got out from my trunk a few years ago. He would've burned the ropes or something.

[Skull]

I'm sick of hearing people that say that midgets can do magic.
If they could that one could have easily got out from my trunk a few years ago. He would've burned the ropes or something.

Odd, I've never heard that one... although it seems that many "good" b-horror films with castles in the 1960's to early 1970's has midgets... so maybe they can do magic... 

[Allhallowsday]

We've had people come to us and say "we thought about moving, but didn't; just wanted to say your children are very well behaved."
We've also had quite a number of people comment to us how they behave at restaurants, even to the point of giving small trinkets to them as 'reward.'  No, these are not people we know...complete strangers doing something nice to reinforce positive behavior.
But, we still get the snide looks, mostly from older couples/groups who probably have been through it with their own children and now think that gives them license to be uppity.
On the other hand, our children are certainly not like this ALL the time - they CAN be the little hellions people presuppose they will be.  But in those cases, WE tend to leave for two main reasons.  (1) It's OUR JOB to handle it, not to ask everyone else to deal with it, (2) we don't want to reward bad behavior with the fun of eating out.

Your experience sounds exactly like ours.  The kids are usually very well behaved.  If they are not, we do our job as parents.  Either the kids start behaving, or if we cannot get the problems under control we leave.  We have also had other people stop by to say how well behaved the children are.

Today my sister-in-law took me out to lunch, and shortly after we were seated, a couple came in with their toddler daughter.  I have to admit, I had a moment of regret having had our table switched from in the sun, to a cooler spot in the recesses of the restaurant.  This child was not only quiet as a mouse, but well behaved, even though this was a kind-of high-end restaurant, and not really a place for children.  If she'd been obnoxious, who knows how the parents may have reacted (I've seen parents ignore exceedingly ill-behaved children) but you never know, and patience is a virtue. 

[LilCerberus]

My cousin owns a sheep farm (not his main source of income) in a small town in Highland near West Virginia.
I'll give you two guesses what I'm sick of.

[Vik]

Every black person has a big penis.
I highly doubt that, sure there probably are a lot of black persons with a big penis, but not all of them. Black women for example.

(I don't mean anything racist by what I just said, it's just a known stereotype)

[Flick James]

Every black person has a big penis.
I highly doubt that, sure there probably are a lot of black persons with a big penis, but not all of them. Black women for example.

(I don't mean anything racist by what I just said, it's just a known stereotype)

Well, speaking as a former servicemember who unfortunately had to see a large number of naked men, especially early on in open showers, most black men do have big penises. Sorry, that's just the way it is. Now, do all of them know how to satisfy a woman? That still comes down to the individual no matter who you are. If it makes you feel inadequate then you're obviously more concerned over your own self-image than your performance.

Didn't mean to make the thread disturbing. 'Twas not my intent. Carry on.