Thoughts on celibacy?

[Trevor]

I have been celibate by choice since September 2004 - this was entirely self imposed and almost seven years later, I feel like I should end my monk / eunuch status. Any thoughts on celibacy, anyone? Humankind should be relieved that I'm not muddying the gene pool at all but there you go. 

[InformationGeek]

As a Christian, I practice it and I'm only to stick with it until I get married.  I think it is a good idea since I get to save myself for a very special someone and plus, I avoid doing something I might regret later.

[The Gravekeeper]

I see it as a choice that deserves some respect, especially with all the pressure to have sex these days.

[Doggett]

I really want to 'cop a feel' right now...



Darksider, I appreciate your offer, but you just don't have the parts I'm looking for... 

(I may start a sexually frustrated thread. Knowing us, it could end up being very popular !)

[Mr. DS]

Darksider, I appreciate your offer, but you just don't have the parts I'm looking for... 

What parts?  Automotive?   

I could not go celibate but I respect those that do.  The "nasty" is too much of a necessity for me.

[indianasmith]

I was celibate until marriage.  It was the most difficult thing I ever did, but  one thing I am most proud of. 
Trevor, we need to find you a mate - preferably human, but a Vulcan female would be OK too.  Maybe we could do some sort of bachelor auction.

[Ed, Ego and Superego]

I spent too much time celebate before marriage, and not by choice!  I did force myself to stop trying for a while, too many bad choices on my part and I needed to rethink what I was about.  So I understand your break.

But my friend, its more than bumpin uglies... You need a nice person to just spend time with.  You got some qualities old boy.Those need sharing.
-Ed

[RCMerchant]

I couldnt do it. I love sex.

[Newt]

I'm with The Gravekeeper and Ed:

I see it as a choice that deserves some respect, especially with all the pressure to have sex these days.

But my friend, its more than bumpin uglies... You need a nice person to just spend time with.  You got some qualities old boy.Those need sharing.

Trevor, my thoughts differ depending on the reason you are looking to end your celibacy:  Is there someone it feels 'right' to be with?  Have you simply come to the point where you figure "why not?" ?  Or has the need to satisfy the itch/urge become a priority?  All different situations, each with their own merits.  (I'm really hoping for you for it to be the first scenario.   )  My advice: You are an adult. don't ever let yourself be pressured into anything; be open to possibilities but always be true to yourself - no matter what path you choose.

[SPazzo]

I'm not going to talk about my personal experiences, just my opinion.  I am not so much against celibacy as I am against promiscuity.  As long as the person you are with means a LOT to you and you are willing to be with this person for the rest of your life, it shouldn't matter whether you are married or not (or not yet).  I'm not the biggest fan of getting together with a random person (or acquaintance) just for the sake of sex.

If that makes sense.

[Paquita]

I don't think my husband would like it. 

Honestly, I don't get it.  I'm not trying to be rude, I know the definition, but I don't understand the practice. And what's the difference between abstinent and celibate?  I get that clergy take vows of celibacy, but unless you have an addiction or something, I don't understand why someone stops and decides to label themselves celibate. Does that mean you're not trying to find a significant other of any sort, or that if you do find someone, you will refuse the no pants dance with that person, at least until you have deemed yourself not celibate which presumably is a most special day like when you get married or when McDonalds starts offering breakfast 24/7?  My husband and I waited until we were married, kind of just because we wanted to be responsible, and I like the whole romantic wedding night idea, but if it was very important to him, he probably could have persuaded me to rethink that once my feelings for him were established and I knew he was hooked for life.  Other guys I dated before him I simply just told No.. though, that wasn't always happily accepted and I probably would have been better off using a dictionary word like "celibate" because then they'd have to go home and look the word up before continuing the conversation.    I think I just answered my own question.. go get 'em tiger! 

[Joe the Destroyer]

I wasn't celebate until marriage, but until I lost my virginity to someone I care about.  I didn't want to treat sex like it was something that needed to happen right now or over-obsess about it.   As such, I feel like celebacy is a choice and that the parameters of said celebacy should be set by you.  I feel it's a much wiser move than screwing everything with and orifice and complaining later about having kids before someone is ready or STDs.  Sadly, I have a lot of friends in both boats.

[AndyC]

Honestly, I don't get it.  I'm not trying to be rude, I know the definition, but I don't understand the practice. And what's the difference between abstinent and celibate?  I get that clergy take vows of celibacy, but unless you have an addiction or something, I don't understand why someone stops and decides to label themselves celibate. Does that mean you're not trying to find a significant other of any sort, or that if you do find someone, you will refuse the no pants dance with that person, at least until you have deemed yourself not celibate which presumably is a most special day like when you get married or when McDonalds starts offering breakfast 24/7?  My husband and I waited until we were married, kind of just because we wanted to be responsible, and I like the whole romantic wedding night idea, but if it was very important to him, he probably could have persuaded me to rethink that once my feelings for him were established and I knew he was hooked for life.  Other guys I dated before him I simply just told No.. though, that wasn't always happily accepted and I probably would have been better off using a dictionary word like "celibate" because then they'd have to go home and look the word up before continuing the conversation.    I think I just answered my own question.. go get 'em tiger! 

That's a good question, about the difference between celibacy and abstinence. I'm thinking abstinence means "not now" and celibacy means "not ever." I don't think saving it for marriage counts as celibacy, nor does simply failing to get laid.

Another question. Does celibacy only apply to relations with other people? While the thought of abstaining from intercourse is unpleasant, abstaining from everything seems downright unthinkable. Not that I really want the discussion to go in that direction.

[peter johnson]

Celibacy is wrong and rude and un-natural, and one of the things which will always try to drag upon and destroy the modern Catholic Church.  How's that for a neutral and polite statement?  Not so good, I think . . .

Christianity is based upon Judaism.  Judaism demands that a man make love to his wife before the Sabbath, and that the priests (Enochian) of Judaism - the "rabbis" - ne. teachers of the faith - make love to their wives as well before they should be allowed to speak in Temple on the Sabbath or High Holy Days.

Sex is good for everyone.  We should all have as much sex as we can, whenever we can, and God take the hindmost - I am very very sad about everyone's situation where they are not participating in sex, and that is tragic.

Just another Extremely Average opinion on the Extremely Weird Board j-

peter.

[Trevor]

As a Christian, I practice it and I'm only to stick with it until I get married.  I think it is a good idea since I get to save myself for a very special someone and plus, I avoid doing something I might regret later.

I think opinions like those deserve quite a few of these