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I'm afraid my Grandmother doesn't have much longer.

Started by akiratubo, March 23, 2014, 09:21:14 PM

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akiratubo

Her back is really bad and she can't get around.  She's confused most of the time.  Recently, she's started seeing people who aren't there.  I don't think there's any way we can't put her in a home, and once that happens it won't be long before she goes.
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Chainsawmidget

I'm sorry to hear that.  I remember visiting my grandmother once after she was put in a home.  

Once and only once.  She didn't know who me or my brother were.  She did recognize my dad though (her son) but there was just so much of what made her who she was that was just ... gone.  The last time I saw her, I made peace with the fact that it just wasn't the person any knew anymore.  

She actually did die a few years after that.  

I don't go to funerals either though.  I prefer my memories of people to be from when they were alive, not in a box.  

indianasmith

It's a point in life we all come to.
I only really got to know one of my grandmothers, she died of cancer when I was 28 and she was 77.
I was holding her hand when she passed.  It was the first time I ever watched another person die.
I was grieved, but I was also relieved for her sake to know that her agony had ended and she was at peace.
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retrorussell

Sorry to hear, Akiraturbo. 
It's tough but it definitely happens to all of us.  Almost all of my grandparents are gone (well, all my direct ones are; my stepmother's mom is still around).  Be strong and try to be upbeat in these tough times.
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Quote from: akiratubo on March 23, 2014, 09:21:14 PM
Her back is really bad and she can't get around.  She's confused most of the time.  Recently, she's started seeing people who aren't there.  I don't think there's any way we can't put her in a home, and once that happens it won't be long before she goes.

Sending you warm hugs, Brother Akira.
We shall meet in the place where there is no darkness.

messedup

That sucks, man. I know how that feels. My mother is in a home right now. One day all of a sudden she was so confused she wanted to go left and she actually went right. I called an ambulance and the next day I heard that she went into a coma, because of brain bleeding (dunno the actual english term for that sry.). After she woke up it wasn't sure if she could ever breath on her own again, but she made it and is now living in a home nearby so I can visit her often.

Rev. Powell

Sorry to hear that.  My grandmothers are long dead, but my mother is approaching that point. Her mind is not nearly as sharp as it used to be. Yesterday she offered to come to my "new" place to help me unpack. I've lived here two years.  :bluesad:
I'll take you places the hand of man has not yet set foot...

Flangepart

I feel for you, compadre.
My dad died suddenly one night from an aortic aneurysm, and mom went after three weeks in the hospital. No chance to say good by to dad, yet time to do so for mom.
Either way, it still hurts.
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The Burgomaster

Sorry to hear it.  My grandmother (my mother's mother) died young (age 60) and suddenly (heart attack at an airport).  It was my first experience with the death of someone very close to me and I'll never forget how awful I felt.  I never knew my father's mother because she died before I was born.  I'm sending positive thoughts your way.
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Quote from: indianasmith on March 23, 2014, 10:16:49 PM
It's a point in life we all come to.
I only really got to know one of my grandmothers, she died of cancer when I was 28 and she was 77.
I was holding her hand when she passed.  It was the first time I ever watched another person die.
I was grieved, but I was also relieved for her sake to know that her agony had ended and she was at peace.

My grandmother was 78 when she passed in February of 2001 and I was 36 at the time.  She also had cancer, and watching her go downhill (at home and in the hospital) was hard, but not as hard as having that be the first funeral I ever attended, not to mention barely making it thru the funeral itself. 

And yes, I'd like to think that my grammy is in a better place too. Who knows, Indy maybe my grammy and yours are making apple pie for all the angels and the Saints in that big kitchen in the sky as we speak  :smile:  :smile: :smile:

Big hug for you Akira. ( HUG)