What's Your Social Life Like?

[AnubisVonMojo]

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss?

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)

Oh, that's frowned upon around here?! Sorry. :::shakes off, zips up, and walks away whistling::: 

[Killer Bees]

Wow!!!   

When I started this thread, I was just feeling sorry for myself because it was Friday afternoon and I had no date or outing to look forward to on the weekend.

But I can see I'm not the only one in this boat.  Thanks to everyone for sharing their lives with me.  I see now that I'm quite the norm amongst humans.  I really thought everyone else was having a much better, happier, more social life than me, but that's not the case.  But I guess it's easy to think that when you don't see anything but your own life.

Dennis, thanks for the personal note.  That was a funny story you told.  It made me laugh out loud which turned few heads here in the office.   

I was thinking about my lack of socialness and I realised it was because, whilst I have no real issues about myself, I do need to lose about 15lbs and that makes me feel awkward about myself and hence not inclined to "put myself out there".

After I lose my weight, I probably still won't get out heaps, but it will make me feel better and when I'm relaxed, things seem easier and not so dire.  I did go grocery shopping on Saturday and I got heaps of value for my dollar so that was pretty good.

And the heat and humidity have settled down a little now and I always feel better when it's cooler.  So I got a lot more knitting done which made me happy.  And after much thought about my prior mistakes with men (I always pick ones who are emotionally unavailable and then try to get them to love me     ), I realise I'd rather be alone that with a guy who makes me miserable.

Thanks to everyone here for making me feel just a little more connected to the world and a little less alien.  You guys are awesome   

[indianasmith]

Hehe Anubis!
Karma!   

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss?

I just gave him a plus....Ash is very honest and plain spoken... -if I was to give a negative to someone...I'd have let them know it. Kinda sneaky,I'd say.

I think there is a karma vampire on the board this weekend . . . I've lost 3 points this weekend, and to my knowledge I haven't ticked anyone off - at least, no one has disagreed with a post I've made. 

On the bright side, I just posted a piece of original poetry on another thread.  Maybe someone will like it.

[Allhallowsday]

I'm giving ASH karma also, because of his heartfelt comments.  I'd hate to think someone would knock anyone for sincere revelation.  All of the comments in this thread make me feel very fortunate, and yet, I sometimes feel lonely or unappreciated too.  Karma is not important at all, but y'know what?  I'm going through the whole thread right now and giving every participant karma!     (If you got no more points it's because I already karma'd you today...!) 

[indianasmith]

And Karma to you, sir, for your generous spirit!!!!!!!!!!!

My social life took a hit today - I was unable to go to church because my 13 year old twin daughters each threw up their entire body weight last night and this morning, and Patty and I spent most of the day either catching up on our interrupted rest or cleaning up slightly used Sprite . . . . .

[ulthar]

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)

I would think that on THIS board, that would get him positive karma... 

[Killer Bees]

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)

I would think that on THIS board, that would get him positive karma... 

Only if he could do it at a distance of 10 feet or greater without spilling any.   

[dean]

Wowzers, I didn't keep much track of this one and then bam, four pages of posts.

It's really interesting hearing the more personal sides of some of the posters here.  I remember thinking not too long ago how mellow and mature Ash seems compared to his "Ashthecat" days, in which he was a bit sporadic and pretty 'out there' on occasion, but then of course he also came up with some whopper topics too during that time [and thus the toilet paper legend was born].

It's funny, I always classed myself [and was classed] as an introvert who all through high school had only a few friends, and had trouble talking to anyone who wasn't in my immediate circle. I remember watching 'The Big Hit' years ago and laughing to myself about how Mark Wahlberg's character, whose one fault was that he couldn't stand people not liking him, could really apply to me.

I found that it was hard talking to people because I was too afraid to get it wrong, which of course inevitably happened because I was too worried.  Ahh what a cycle!

Then gradually I came to know more and more people, and became more and more relaxed, stopped worrying about what other people thought [helped by taking a part time job as a basketball referee, so I HAD to take my fair share of BS and learn to deal with it]  and then had the benefit of surrounding myself with an incredible group of people who shared varied interests, but were all easy-going and welcoming, even if you were different than the norm.  And this begat more people until it seems at times that there's an out of control social monster on hand.

I had a bit of a setback about 2 years ago when I got booted by my then-girlfriend who I had gone out with intensely for 2 1/2 years.  That put me back into a bit of a hole, but gradually I got over it and started just enjoying myself, doing things I liked doing and didn't give myself any agenda of 'I need to go pick up' or what-have-you and found a lovely lass who is amazing.  RCM is right, once you stop straining yourself to find it, you find that alot of things fall into place.  I guess I've just tried to learn from every bad/good experience and improve in little ways over a long period of time, and I have plenty of time left to continue to do so!  Having a strong support base helped immensely though...

I have a heap of friends, but that's because they're all too amazing to give up, though a select few are like family to me.  But I know that this will tail off since I'm still a young-fella, and people will start settling down, working more and it being harder to meet up with etc. The downside is at the moment I have next to no time for myself [or money to go with it] and still part of me just can't say no to people who want to go out/watch movies etc, so I've still got to learn to curb that a bit, but on the whole, I'm having a ball and am pretty happy about where I'm at, so that be a plus!



Oh and whilst I don't necessarily talk to most or all of you directly, I consider the ritual of coming here and making little 'Well I think that...' comments are part of my social life, especially given what a like-minded [for the most part  ] bunch you all are.  Like Trevor said in another thread, if anyone's around my way, look me up, though I probably won't give you a hug, but more a slap on the back and a tour of the city... but still you get the idea...  I really should invest into getting a new mike for my computer, and reinstall skype, but I worry that in doing so will reveal you are all conversation bots and I'm part of some sick experiment... 

[Ash]

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss?

Good question.
I went to bed early last night and was at 150 karma.
Then I come back here and see that you mentioned someone had knocked me down a couple points.
Weird.  
I never wrote anything to make anyone mad.
Maybe my "pee in the sink" post grossed a couple people out.
Indiana's probably right.  I think we do have a karma vampire here.
Thanks for the karma guys!

By the way, I don't usually pee in the bathroom sink and when I did, it was only 4 or 5 times. 
I did it because my old roommates were by far the worst I've ever had.
They were boyfriend and girlfriend and would team up on me.  They complained every single day about stupid stuff...seemingly to make my life miserable.  Their relationship wasn't the greatest and I think they took out a lot of their frustrations on me.
So I peed in their sink!  

Thankfully, I moved out after only 6 months.  I just couldn't take their crap anymore.
To my best recollection, I've never peed in a sink since.  

[Mr_Vindictive]

Social life?  What's that?

Sadly my social life is almost non-existent at this point.  My wife, daughter and myself moved to a new area back in Nov and my social life has disappeared since then.  We've made a few "friends" since moving down here but I would classify them as more acquaintances than anything.

Today is my last day at my current job which I've been with for about 5 years now.  Tomorrow I'll be starting a new job as an emergency dispatcher for the county that we currently live in.  I'm hoping that getting out and working somewhere else than my apartment will give me the chance to meet some new people.

Online social life has been doing considerably better than in RL.  I'm currently a leader and co-founder of a highly popular Day Of Defeat: Source clan.  I'm usually on that game server, trying to keep things running well; which would explain my lack of time spent on this board as of late.  I've met a lot of very cool people while doing so.   

[Mortal Envelope]

'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.

Ya sure about that? :)

[Sister Grace]

'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.

Ya sure about that? :)

Well, I'm sure i could have worse qualitites...lol

[JaseSF]

Well I was never much of an ongoing person. Always preferred a more quiet existence. Luckily for me, I've found a girl who pretty much likes a lot of the same things and also has little use for the drug and boozing party scene. Being a straight-edge fellow, I've never been attracted to that scene not to say I tell anyone else how to live their lives because I don't. I do like to go to an occassional dance or get-together but I don't care if its months apart. I'm quite happy right now with my friends online and the handful I know locally and a girl who's very understanding about what makes me tick.

[akiratubo]

'I have a great collection of slasher flicks' isn't the best line to pick up a guy.

Try that line on me sometime. 

[Patient7]

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss?

He's been peeing in the sink again.

(At least that would be my suspicion.)

Well, that was my reason.

Whoa Ash, who'd you p**s off?! I karma-ed you back and you were at 151, now I come back two hours later and you're at 149! What'd I miss?

Good question.
I went to bed early last night and was at 150 karma.
Then I come back here and see that you mentioned someone had knocked me down a couple points.
Weird.  
I never wrote anything to make anyone mad.
Maybe my "pee in the sink" post grossed a couple people out.
Indiana's probably right.  I think we do have a karma vampire here.
Thanks for the karma guys!

By the way, I don't usually pee in the bathroom sink and when I did, it was only 4 or 5 times. 
I did it because my old roommates were by far the worst I've ever had.
They were boyfriend and girlfriend and would team up on me.  They complained every single day about stupid stuff...seemingly to make my life miserable.  Their relationship wasn't the greatest and I think they took out a lot of their frustrations on me.
So I peed in their sink!  

Thankfully, I moved out after only 6 months.  I just couldn't take their crap anymore.
To my best recollection, I've never peed in a sink since.  

Okay, you put up a good defense so I'm giving you back a karma point that I will admit I took away, after hearing your defense I cannot say that I wouldn't do the same thing.  In fact, I might've farted on their pillow if they were REALLY annoying.