Lighting A Woman's Cigarette

[Ash]

A friend and I got into a discussion the other day about which way is the better or "classier" way to light a woman's cigarette.

He thought that using a lighter was the best way.

I thought using a match, torn from a matchbook was the better way.

He claimed that using a match was in poor taste.  Mainly because it signified that the guy using a match was "poor".  As in not having much money.
He's one of those guys who believes that all women are out for a man's money and if you want a good one, you have to show at all times that you've got money.  I.E. using a lighter which costs more.

Personally, I found that a total load of crap.

I think that tearing a match off a matchbook, striking it, watching the flame flare up, the general way you hold both of your hands up to a woman's cigarette as you light it, and then waving it out adds an element of class and charm to the act.

What do you think?

[RCMerchant]

Unfortuanatlly...though a  match is cooler in a Bogey sense, your freind is right. Money talks. Bulls**t sits at home and masterbates.

[Menard]

If you want to use a match, the best way is to use a stick match that you can ignite with your thumbnail.

Though I don't agree completely with your friend, I think that using a lighter is the better way to go; and preferably a butane.

Women seem (could be wrong) to be able to pick up on smells more easily than men. Sulfur and lighter fluid smells are not pleasing to anyone.

Additionally, a butane lighter has the ability to adjust the flame. You can make the flame smaller so that she has to lean in closer to light the cigarette; as compared to singeing her nose and causing her to jump back screaming from an excessive flame.

You can always use the match lighting. It doesn't work well in any breeze. You do need to ignite the match, then let the flame settle down and move it to her cigarette, rather than have her move toward the match.

[Killer Bees]

If you lived in the 40s and 50s when this was a big deal, I would say nothing less than an gold or silver refillable lighter.

As this is the new millenium, I'd say, "huh?"  I don't think anybody cares nor would they notice.  These days, when someone in a pub asks you for a light, you toss them your disposable lighter that you bought from the supermarket.

[RCMerchant]

Of course,Im a geek,and Bees is a woman....she would know more about it than I would!Karma  to you ,Killer! 

[Killer Bees]

Of course,Im a geek,and Bees is a woman....she would know more about it than I would!Karma  to you ,Killer! 

Thanks RC! Geeks are cool guys

I really shouldn't have posted in this topic.  I've never smoked and I absolutely loathe everything about it.  But since I'm highly opinionated, I'm happy to give my two cents. 

Hypocrite Alert:

Of course, in my life I've actually dated 3 guys who smoked.  But after the last one, I've vowed never again.

[AndyC]

It was a tough choice, there is something old-fashioned and classy about using a wooden match, but I had to go with the Zippo. I picture the classic movie image, and it's about the whole process of flipping the lighter open and striking the flame, and the distinctive sounds the actions make, then holding the shining object with its strong, reliable flame, just close enough that she can comfortably lean into it with her cigarette. And when she withraws, flick it shut and stow it with one smooth motion.

Of course, depending on how intimate this lighting is, you can just lean over and let her light off the coal of your smoke. Or maybe light two yourself and give her one.

And no, I don't smoke. Used to dabble in cigars and even a pipe years ago, usually while drinking with friends, but never enjoyed it enough to make it a habit. For that matter, it's been a long time since I could call myself a drinker. Just outgrew it, I guess.

[Ash]

The Zippo would've been my second choice.
The only problem with them is that they tend to stink like lighter fuel.

I own a Zippo.  It's dark grey with an OD green WW2 era Jeep and on the lid it says...
JEEP
The Original

[Sister Grace]

I smoke, although trying to cut down, I continue with the habit...for now. James often lights my cigarettes for me, its just a mannerly thing. Matches sound great in theory...just remember when we ladies have our hair set in those fancy curls or bouncy waves...it takes hairspray...

[Jack]

I think that tearing a match off a matchbook, striking it, watching the flame flare up, the general way you hold both of your hands up to a woman's cigarette as you light it, and then waving it out adds an element of class and charm to the act.

Well, you certainly make a DARNED good case for matches, but I went with the Zippo.  A fancy lighter says that you've put some thought (and some money) into this routine task.  You've elevated it above a mere chore, and made it into something that says something about yourself.

[Derf]

I have absolutely no experience here, as the situation has never occurred around me (don't smoke or frequent bars or parties, old, married, etc.). However, I voted for the match out of a matchbook since the only "bar trick" I know is how to light a matchbook match with one hand. It's almost cool, though it probably takes longer than pulling out a lighter, and I have seen some guys that could pull off some nice moves with lighters. Granted, most of those moves make it look like the guy is on the prowl and looking for a quickie, so they don't leave what you'd call a "classy" impression, but that's what some people go for.

[Trevor]

The idea is not to burn her nose off with the flame if you light her cigarette with it.  Several of my lady friends smoke (as do I) and I always light theirs before I light mine: a Bic lighter does fine for me.

Just by the way, I am a smoker but I do not smoke in front of non smokers and I would rather smoke in my own home where I do not poison anyone except myself: at work, I go to the smoking area and puff away there.

[Menard]

Just by the way, I am a smoker but I do not smoke in front of non smokers and I would rather smoke in my own home where I do not poison anyone except myself: at work, I go to the smoking area and puff away there.

A manager of mine, for one of the vending companies for which I work, has said that he used to be a stand-up comedian; actually he originally said that he was a stand-up comic.

We have been outside in the parking lot where I have lit up a cigarette, and he stands distant from me saying 'don't get that near me, I allergic to it'. My comment back, as I eye the exhaust spewing cars passing by us right and left, is 'how in the hell do you work comedy clubs if you are allergic to cigarette smoke?'.

That's when he came back with that was the reason he gave it up.

My comment was 'I'm certain that dodging a variety of vegetables aimed at your head had nothing to do with it'.


He has shared some of his jokes with me.

I've kindly asked him to stop doing that.

[Trevor]

My comment was 'I'm certain that dodging a variety of vegetables aimed at your head had nothing to do with it'.

A friend of mine on the Film General message boards named GumbyDammett (I think his real name is Hank, if I'm not mistaken) said he had a fantasy to perform as Michael Jackson in front of a vegetable throwing audience. One of them chucked an apple at his head, he caught it and took a bite out of it, saying: "Hmm, this one's not too bad." 

[Sister Grace]

Just by the way, I am a smoker but I do not smoke in front of non smokers and I would rather smoke in my own home where I do not poison anyone except myself: at work, I go to the smoking area and puff away there.

I smoke but also have a daughter. Just because I smoke, doesn't mean that i force her to be in contact with it so i know where you are coming from when you don't partake infront of non-smokers. I actually have just one room in my house I smoke in. It has a back door and also leads into the garage so I can keep it out of the rest of the house. Also, I don't smoke with her in the car.

It seems like you can't smoke anywhere anymore. I can remember my parents smoking in the balcony seats at the local theatre when i was of grade-school age. Here you can't smoke in any public building but you can go five miles north to Kentucky and when you step in a resturaunt, they still ask if you perfer smoking or non.
The thing that gets me the most is not being able to smoke in bars. You have a bunch a people yelling about health reasons (which makes sense) but if the guy on the stool next to you is guzzling shot after shot of Southern Comfort, he's probably not that concerned about his health in the first place...