I'm confused

Cthulhu · July 14, 2011, 02:31:45 PM

I'm confused...There's this girl who lives in my neighborhood. We met while we were taking our dogs to a walk. It turned out we're both going to the same school. we talked occasionally, and we got along well. I once went to a concert with her and her friends. I also asked her to meet me. Twice. Just so we could take our dogs for a walk together. Both times, she said yes.
She didn't show up tough. By the second time, I got her number, so I called her. She said she was sorry, she didn't pay attention to the time.
By that point, I thought that she was trying to blow me off, so I haven't called her since. That was about 1.5 months ago.
Today, she texted me, and asked if I wanted to go to a concert with her.
What do I make of this? Seriously, what the hell do I make of this?

To make things more complicated, at the time of the concert, I'm supposed to be at a friends vacation home. A bunch of us is going to be there for a week. Now I'm really not sure what to do...
Should I stay? Should I go? Should I go, come back, then go back to my friends?
The girl is really nice, and I have no idea what to do...

Jitters · July 14, 2011, 02:33:39 PM

Make her wait. If she's serious she'll get back to you.

Mofo Rising · July 14, 2011, 02:48:34 PM

Go to your friend's vacation home. The week-long vacation with friends sounds like it should take precedent.

She sounds a bit flighty at best; I wouldn't read too much into it. Kind of sounds like she just needs a friend to go the concert with.

If you're still interested, suggest another concert at another time. If she declines, well...

Flick James · July 14, 2011, 02:56:19 PM

I'm 100% with Mofo. Those are pretty solid plans. You should stick with them. Just tell her you're genuinely interested, but you've got solid vacation plans. If she likes you and she's not a lunatic, then she'll respect that and you will see her again.

AndyC · July 14, 2011, 04:19:19 PM

I agree. You've already made plans with someone else. Keep those plans.

I'd be wary of her personally, but there's no harm in suggesting you get together another time.

Ed, Ego and Superego · July 14, 2011, 04:38:12 PM

I agree with Mofo.. you are gonna be gone. Then suggest a reschedule.

akiratubo · July 14, 2011, 04:44:44 PM

Don't even consider blowing off your week's vacation with friends for a date who has a better than even chance of no-showing.

If she actually wants to see you, she'll reschedule for a different activity at a later time. If she isn't willing to reschedule, she's not worth thinking about.

Newt · July 14, 2011, 04:58:08 PM

Quote from: akiratubo on July 14, 2011, 04:44:44 PM
Don't even consider blowing off your week's vacation with friends for a date who has a better than even chance of no-showing.

If she actually wants to see you, she'll reschedule for a different activity at a later time. If she isn't willing to reschedule, she's not worth thinking about.

I have to agree with this. The part I 'bolded' is a very important point to learn. Good luck!

Flick James · July 14, 2011, 04:59:34 PM

There you have it. Some pretty unanimous advice, and Newt was good enough to provide a woman's touch.

Psycho Circus · July 14, 2011, 05:30:18 PM

I got strung along and flaked-out on a year ago and it's still driving me nuts. Listen to the above advice Cthulhu, make her do the running for once. Don't get confused and don't get worried, and don't let anyone waste your time...

Cthulhu · July 14, 2011, 06:00:01 PM

Thank you all for the advice. I didn't want to cancel the vacation anyway, I was just considering that maybe I'll go there a day later.
I'll tell her that I'm busy.

Again, thanks for all of you!

Ed, Ego and Superego · July 14, 2011, 06:31:54 PM

key point... offer to do something later. Don't forget that bit

Criswell · July 15, 2011, 02:44:17 AM

Quote from: Cthulhu on July 14, 2011, 02:31:45 PM
I'm confused...

Well that's what happens when dealing with women. Pretty much listen to what everyone else said, and don't be desperate. (Not that you sound like it)

Cthulhu · August 05, 2011, 09:02:25 AM

Hello! It appears that I need advice once more.
Tomorrow, I'm going to a concert of one of my favourite bands, Rhapsody of Fire. She also likes them a lot. However, she can't be there, because it's out of town, and her parents won't let her go.
I was wondering whether I should get a dedicated CD or something for her.
Is this appropriate? I don't want to come off as creepy to her, or anything...
So yeah...

The Burgomaster · August 05, 2011, 09:04:12 AM

Quote from: Cthulhu on August 05, 2011, 09:02:25 AM
Hello! It appears that I need advice once more.
Tomorrow, I'm going to a concert of one of my favourite bands, Rhapsody of Fire. She also likes them a lot. However, she can't be there, because it's out of town, and her parents won't let her go.
I was wondering whether I should get a dedicated CD or something for her.
Is this appropriate? I don't want to come off as creepy to her, or anything...
So yeah...

I don't think it would come off as creepy if you give it to her and don't make a big deal about it. I think it's a good, safe idea.