An evening with a rapist

Olivia Bauer · February 25, 2015, 07:24:44 PM

He had the balls to talk to me. I said nothing, I concentrated on not decking him.

Olivia Bauer · February 25, 2015, 11:07:59 PM

The rapist has left the building.

Surprisingly not in seven assorted trash bags.

indianasmith · February 26, 2015, 12:04:41 AM

I'm glad you got through it.
Killing people can be emotionally satisfying, but rarely worth the trouble that ensues thereafter.

Newt · February 26, 2015, 08:24:37 AM

Forgive me for chiming in so late but I think your mother is in desperate need of counselling.

The visit is over and you made it through. Good on you for dealing with a difficult situation in a survivable fashion.

lester1/2jr · February 26, 2015, 08:32:33 AM

I hope she got some sort of ....something from it because from here it seems like the whole thing was very pointless torture.

I mean, if you were a Holocaust survivor would you have Hitler over for tea? there's plenty of other healthy things to do in this world

Trevor · February 26, 2015, 08:54:08 AM

You should have invited me over and pointed this motherf****r out to me: I would have brought along a rusty knife and my cricket bat.

Newt · February 26, 2015, 09:36:26 AM

IMO there are ways to abdicate from the human race. Rape and child abuse foremost among them.

The absolute best I can do toward a 'person' who has commited either is to dismiss them as failed humans: as refuse. Our behaviour towards others makes us 'human', not our biology. Just because you are walking around in human shape does not make you a 'person' who is entitled to the considerations one gives a human being. Legally, yes. Otherwise - forget it. I'd give more consideration to the barnyard dirt I scrape off my boots.

Olivia Bauer · February 26, 2015, 10:14:46 AM

We all had a conversation over Skip-Bo after he left.

He was tolerable on a social level but I could tell people were uncomfortable. I told Mom that I still hate him and she understands.

My sister was especially uncomfortable.

Mom told me afterwards that Chris said to her that he understood that I don't want to deal with him so he avoided me because he didn't want to invade my space.

It doesn't matter. I want nothing to do with him. No amount of time can heal those wounds.

You don't get to rape my sister and be my friend.

Newt · February 26, 2015, 11:16:37 AM

Of course people were uncomfortable! Expecting anything otherwise is not only UNreasonable, it is flat-out insane.
And anybody in their right mind would expect your sister to be anything BUT "comfortable"!

I'm sorry, A.J., I know my ranting is not helping at all. The circumstances you have to deal with are horrendous.

Olivia Bauer · February 26, 2015, 04:29:22 PM

Quote from: Newt on February 26, 2015, 11:16:37 AM
I'm sorry, A.J., I know my ranting is not helping at all. The circumstances you have to deal with are horrendous.

Actually it's kind of comforting.

He may return to stay for the weekend. I'll tolerate him.
But if I find his wallet... Hehe. Well, never mind that.

indianasmith · February 26, 2015, 07:07:40 PM

Why on earth would your mother invite him over if the girl he raped as a child is still living in the home?
I simply can't fathom her reasoning. It can't be anything but pure torment for your sister! I think you both
ought to move out!

dean · February 26, 2015, 07:54:20 PM

I'm with Indy on this one: this doesn't seem like a healthy arrangement at all.

I for one think its possible to rehabilitate and get a second chance even after such horridness, but that definitely doesn't have to come from the victims, even if they are family! The idea that he'll be staying in the same house with his previous victim, especially one that seems to still have issues from it cannot be a good idea in any possible reality.

Sorry, I know this must be a tough situation and I'm just some random mug on the internet, but I hope you make through this craziness alright.

Allhallowsday · February 27, 2015, 02:28:50 AM

Above all, forgiveness is greatest.

I do not believe that that means that anyone is worthy of forgiveness. Contrition is everything.

Alex · February 27, 2015, 05:45:32 AM

I wish I could say something that could make things better, or even help a little but there just aren't any words. I can't even describe how angry people like your cousin make me. I just wanted to say though, that I really respect how much inner strength it must have taken not to leave him in a bloody pile somewhere.

Trevor · February 27, 2015, 05:54:42 AM

Quote from: A.J. Bauer on February 26, 2015, 10:14:46 AM
You don't get to rape my sister and be my friend.

Apologies AJ but I am now f*****g angry!

I would kill this SOB if I ever ran into him: he does not deserve to live and share the same air as we do - if I ever met my biological parents, they would get more of the same.