OT: my sister's cancer

[Neon Noodle]

I guess I just need to vent a bit.

My sister was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer 3 years ago. To those of you who don't know about it, be thankful. It's about the most vicious kind of cancer, and survival is pretty slim.

She's not doing well. I went back home to visit her this last weekend and as I said goodbye, she hugged me. It's incredibly depressing to think that could very well be the last time I ever hug her.

The cancer has spread to her spine, brain, and liver. She was looking very jaundiced this weekend, which means that her liver functions are starting to fail. She will leave behind my brother in law and my niece. It will be incredibly hard for them.

I guess if I had any wish for the people on this board, it's to tell the women in your lives (sisters, girlfriends, wives, mothers) to make sure to get checked regularly and donate to the breast cancer foundations (there are several, too many to name at present).

Hopefully, someday, no one else will have to die from this.

[Dunners]

f**king, its goddamn menace that needs to be dealt with.

[Ash]

So sorry to hear about your sister.

I can speak from recent experience as to what it's like to lose a loved one.
You might remember that I lost my only brother in a motorcycle accident just over two months ago.

If this cancer does claim her, and I pray that it doesn't, take heart in knowing that you did get to spend time with her before she departed.

I did not get that luxury when my brother was killed.  My one wish was that I could have spent more time with him.

I know all to well about breast cancer.  My grandmother was fortunately able to beat it at the cost of the removal of both of her breasts.  
If that weren't bad enough, my grandfather got it as well.  While rare in men...it can happen.  He was able to beat it also.  
They were very lucky.

I fear that one day it could strike any one of us since it seems to run in my family.

My brother's recent death has affected me profoundly.  
So much so that I'm in the process of starting my own memorial website business. (something I had never considered before)  
I've put many hours into working on my brother's memorial site:
www.corychapman.com

Trust me guy....I know what you're going through.



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[Dave:Blackeye15]

I'm sorry to hear that man....

-the first rule of fat club-

[dean]

it's always the worst feeling when someone you know dies.  a friend of mine committed suicide near the end of last year and it just came as a complete shock and none of us got to say goodbye, and there was no note so noone knows why he did it [which makes it even worse knowing you could have stopped it, if only you picked up on any signs]

that idea you've got Ash is really good.  since my friend was into the whole IT thing, he already had a personal website, nothing too special, but we converted it into a memorial-type thing, and whilst it's not as professional as i'm sure your stuff would be, his family really appreciated it.  

On the topic of breast cancer, another good friend of mine's mother is one of our states top helping-out-person for donations and fundraisers for breast cancer research.  whilst she isn't a doctor or anything, she has hopefully helped many people by volunteering much of her time into various institutions on breast cancer.  she's fighting so others who have cancer won't have to, and what she is doing is fantastic.

Let's all hope Neon's sister pulls through.

[Mofo Rising]

My condolences.

[Andrew]

You have my sympathy as well.  Katie's grandmother (her last surviving grandparent) was diagnosed with cancer about a month ago.  She passed away and the service was last Saturday, the 13th.  There was a bright light and that was that Jenna's Baptism was on Sunday, the 14th.  Many members of the family had come in from far away, including England, and also came to the church for my daughter's Christening.  For two days people who had not seen each other in many years were together, it was bittersweet.

[raj]

Condolences here as well.  Watching my uncle die from lung cancer was bad, he died a month before his first grandchild was born.

Maybe someday there will be a real cure.

[wuggles451]

I dont't know what to say other than I know how tough deeling with the illness can be.I myself was diagnosed with leukimia at 13 nearly 3 years later I will end chemo in 6 months. It is strange how the world worlks who knows why things happen I fortunatly have never lost anyone close enough to me to effect me deeply. I see my grandparents and hope never to get that old but then i think about my cancer and think  Iwant to live a full, long life. It certaintly is strange. I am so sorry about your situation and you have my deepest condolences.

[Flangepart]

Don't have anything mind boggling to say, but heres hopeing for the best, Dude.
Wuggles451 : Same for you. Glad the medication took.

[Evan3]

I am very sorry to hear of this awful news. I hope that your sister keeps fighting and that you can spend as much time with her as possible. I cant even imagine losing my brother, to such an awful thing especially.